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I want to clarify that when I say "feminine" and "masculine", I am referring to the behaviors society labels and associates with each. For example a "feminine" man would be someone that is more sensitive, expressive, sassy, etc.

The reason I am asking this question is because of two reasons. You don't need to read them to answer the question, but feel free to do so if you like:
1. I've been described as masculine by a lot of my friends. And it isn't because I dress differently or am a tomboy by any means, but because they claim I'm not as expressive, I don't use a lot of "feminine" gestures when I'm talking, I'm guarded, I am not the nurturing or domestic type, I'm a bit individualistic, I can sometimes put my career over other things, I don't know the right things to say to make a person feel better-- I'm more of a "fixer", I prefer to be in control and dominate, be the one to pay on dates, often have a hard time apologizing or telling someone how I really feel because of my pride, see vulnerability as a sign of weakness, etc.
2. Almost all the guys that are attracted to me (and vice versa) end up being more "feminine". The last guy I dated was overly sensitive. He would constantly need me to assure him that I cared about him. He was very expressive... hand gestures, sassy/fiesty, constantly wanted me to talk to him... all of it. When we argued, he was the one who would force me to talk it out and I was the one who would shut down. He got jealous very quickly and was very posessive. He would get very emotional and sentimental about small things, etc. He was the nurturing and domestic type. He said he preffered to cook and clean and wouldn't mind a woman who could bring in the money. He wasn't afraid to cry openly. Also, a lot of people used to tell me they thought he was gay simply because of these traits that society labels as feminine.

Is this just a coincidence or do others on here have similar experiences?

There is a person that I've had a conversation with believes that if you care for people easily, you are weak.

What do you think?

I think caring makes me strong. I get let down a lot and I get hurt and used, but despite that fact, I keep going and still care for each person that I meet -- until they give me a reason not to. I forgive easily, but never forget when people hurt me. With all these disappointments most people would give up caring at all!

However, I believe that because I persevere without letting it turn me into a complete uncaring jackass, I am strong.

What do you think?