I think anyone who ever been in love knows that it takes a whole lot of strength and courage to love and trust someone completely. It takes strength to throw yourself in a relationship and entrust a person with the power of possibly hurting you. Sometimes holding back in contrary believe is weakness in fact, you’re just afraid of getting hurt therefore you hold back. Whereas for Bella she choose to be hopelessly in love with him despite knowing Edward could hurt her in the most painful way possible. But she chose to take that step of faith and give the relationship a go especially since she had a trauma on teen marriages. I realised that loving someone hopelessly became a sign of weakness to most woman these days. However the fact if someone can so easily walk away from a relationship just like that makes me question the depth of the relationship. It wasn't like she just lie in bed all say and became a zombie. She still lead her life, study and go to school despite the emptiness in her heart. Although she choose some really dare-devillish experiences just so she can a glimpse of Edward's shadow I think its something anyone would do if they are desperate enough. At least she have the courage to do something she normally don't do out of desperation where most people would hide at home just hoping to get a glimpse of the person they love as if they are waiting for something to drop from the sky.
Bella is a girl whose kind of lost and its not that she chooses to be lost in life. I don't think anyone would choose to be lost. Sometimes we just do, we are born not knowing what we want. Some find out their dreams and some lived a long time not knowing what they want and I relate to that feelings she had at one point of my life. Edward is kind of her future and what she could see in her future. He is her future and for her to lose that makes it feel like a dead end in her life, its like standing at a crossroad.
When you truly love someone and the person left you its normal to slide into depression. If you don’t slide into depression it makes me wonder how much you actually love that person. It takes strength to sacrifice yourself and put yourself in near death situations just to save those you love. Bella may be superficially weak but if you actually go beyond what you see what she does or what she say, you might actually find a strong female character. Sometimes being a strong female don’t mean you have to be kicking ass or anything, it could be being strong in choices you make.
The choice to leave the family she loves I think that its really difficult choice to make. Some may argue that she’s selfish, some may argue that its a stupid choice for a guy. However decisions that you make determine your life and you choose to live in that life. I wouldn’t blame her if she make any choices. I would have blamed her if she complain about her choices afterwards. She knows what she wants and thats Edward and she fights for him. If she would have made the choice to be 'unselfish' choose her father and lead her life always having a part of her that's missing and empty, always secretly regret the choices she make just so she can show how 'selfless' is she. I don't find that truly selfless. I find that simply selfish because all you care is whether you make the 'right decision' because it look right rather than what your heart tells you to do. That right decision will in turn become the 'wrong decision' in the long run.
If she had love her family more than Edward she wouldn't even hesitated and would choose her parents and would be happy with her decision and would bear no sort of regret and grudge. I find that people blames her too much for the life choice that she chose - that she could be in fact be happier with Edward. How about her father ? I believe her father would rather know his daughter is happy somewhere out there rather than his daughter never truly felt happy after losing a man she love. I guess people fail to see the bigger picture in this situation.