This is a message I wanted to announce.
This does not apply to all women. Most means more than those, who stand out from the rest, that put in a little extra formula called PROACTIVITY AKA going after what you want. If you do not see yourself in that majority category, then you are not meant as one of those I am about to explain.
Also this topic is not about feminism or equal rights or men and women being (or not being) equal. No. I mean something fundamentally different, that many are carelessly passing through one ear in and out the other with nothing happening in-between.
Also this is not to promote or shame one or the other philosophy. Preferences are just that.
Also I am not angry or upset about this phenomenon. You do you and I do I.
Also this topic is not about "who should ask out who". All these questions were asked and answered countlessly in GAG, became repetitive and are besides the point.
Huge disclaimer: I love women very much. But women have a few serious problems...
...which I intend to address in a constructive way.
I am calling out a behavioral pattern in women, that conflicts with women being (or specifically them perceiving themselves or women as) so strong and independent.
Strong and independent enough to study, graduate with a good degree, enter the workforce, get paid well, get a drivers license, drive your own car, own a house, live by yourself, buy all the things you want with your own money.
But all that strength and independence and badass-ness and being powerful and ass-kicking confidence and the feeling of taking whatever you wish vanishes the very moment as soon as romantic interest and dating comes into question. You might be interested in a man or have feelings for him.
That is exactly when you freeze up and almost crap in your pants from almost daring telling him "Hello handsome" and asking for his contact or inviting him to dance and whatnot and suddenly all sorts of excuses are invented in order to not talk to him. Excuses such as:
- He's a man, it's the men's job to make the first move
- He's a man, he should pay or he invited me so he should pay
- He's too good for me
- He will think I'm too easy or slutty or desperate or clingy
- He won't respect me or use me for one night only
- If he doesn't ask me out, then he's not man enough and not the right man for me and I don't want him anyway
- I fear getting rejected, so I rather not
- Maybe he (or his race) doesn't like (insert any race here)
- It's not him, it's me
Wow! Just wow. Sabotaging the opportunity before it even starts to unfold. I'd almost say "women's logic" on that one but I'm not going to be stooping that low. That is what I call "Welcome to being a man. Enjoy the equality". Women were not equipped to be like us men. HOWEVER some women don't let that stop them from getting their targeted boyfriend and that is certainly not by putting him in the list of "disqualified candidates". One of the biggest parts of the problem resides in being literally socially inept. Men deal with social anxiety or social ineptitude too but they get over it eventually with more experiences or more money or trying something new or gradual exposure.
Here's a little thought experiment: If it was illegal for men to make the first move, then the population in the next few generations would result in 1/10 of what it is today.
Why I say any of this? Because I have been and observed a lot.
I've been going to places. Little distance from the city. Beautiful beaches, remarkable mountains, wonderful campsites, revitalizing nature, exciting festivals and more. But most of the time I like going somewhere wonderful and outside to relax on the weekends. Almost never did I see women being there either by themselves or in a group of women. The vast majority of cases (and I mean like ~95% of all times) when I saw and met women on for example on beaches they were there with men, boyfriends or husbands. It's as if they would never go there by their own self unless a man invites her. I tried to invite girls to go there too on these hot and sunny summer days and they ended up sitting at home on instagram. Women wouldn't get up themselves and go relaxing until someone invites them.
So. With all that said? To me women are still weak, dependent, helpless, passive or waiting for something to happen - and if you're a man reading this and you feel this rings true (depending on your region or cultural situation), then I suggest you start viewing women the same as I do - as helpless, weak and passive, waiting to be saved by you (if they even want to be saved that is). Then you know you can be sure to be the one, that makes any things happen or "leads" if you haven't quite understood the meaning behind "being the leader". Sure, this might be boring but there's a chance you'll "save" one girl, that isn't so boring. And besides the girls won't do it anyway, so don't expect them to and it's either you do it or nobody else will (except for the others like Daniel Hernandez or Chad Thunderrock).
Unfortunately this phenomenon is not going to change until we see changes but until that happens, hell might freeze, so for us men we have little choice but to adapt to it accordingly - we'll likely do the work ourselves and will have low expectations. We'll go after the women we are interested in while women won't do the same or won't reciprocate and they can enjoy missing out and keep browsing on instagram. It's your call.