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Okay so my boyfriends sister she usually follows me on tiktok. She had to make a new account a few times and she would usually follow me. I have tried to follow her today and comment something nice on her post and she answered everyone’s comment but mine and didn’t follow me back. I had to reach out on Snapchat to get a response. She didn’t say happy birthday to me till the next day my boyfriend had to text her and she doesn’t say thank you when I got her a birthday gift. Am I overreacting or no?

boyfriend and I have been together 8 years. I have always gotten him a gift for Valentine’s Day, or made something requiring time and effort if I couldn’t afford it. Earlier in the week, boyfriend said he didn’t know what to get me after he noticed I had liked some gifts other people had gotten on Twitter (just thought it was nice, wasn’t trying to make a point)

Fast forward a few days. We’re in a shop and they have a big studio ghibli plush for $45. I brought him to the side away from anyone who might hear and asked if he wanted to buy the plush for my valentine. I planned to get it regardless of his answer. He agreed but his attitude changed. We got into the car, he grilled me for “putting him on the spot” and even said he thought we were past “materialism.” I was taken aback as I never ask for money/gifts and only asked because he expressed worry over it, and I led him away from people as to NOT put him on the spot. He also said I don’t know if he even has that much money (I know he has roughly $60,000, he just doesn’t keep it all directly in his checking account, he’ll withdraw however much he needs at the time and that’s what he’s referring to). However, he’s spent more than that on me even before he had money. We were both broke high schoolers when we got together, so I obviously didn’t get with him for that. He also spends more than that on himself on a regular basis, so I figured it was something he could easily afford.

Almost the day after this, he buys a $300 watch for himself. I feel worthless and unimportant. I couldn’t care less about money. I just want to feel like I matter and am thought about. I ended up having to work on Valentine’s and came home with his favorite beers (which he didn’t drink a single one) and spent 6 hours making pineapple upside down cupcakes and he still pouted that I didn’t buy him anything when I have less than $100 to my name.

Am I the asshole for being upset at him or for asking about the plush? Or is he? Thanks in advance!

So currently i don't have a job and its been like that ever since i started dating my boyfriend. I have been noticing lately that he would be paying for the small stuff or use gift cards and i would be paying for the big things. Yes he has paid here and there for the expensive things. What would you do in this situation if it did bug you?