But the thing is, he is trying to hide the relationship, which is why he is doing the things that he is doing.
However, I can kind of get it if he is concern about his parents knowing. You can be the understanding girlfriend but that is with the condition that he explains his situation and difficulties clearly.
Is it because his parents do not want him to date anyone outside his race? How about his ex-gfs? Did they also show the same objections or what? What exact comments will they make if they know you are his girlfriend? Does his parents only want him to date or have a girlfriend after he starts working or is stable enough?
Your boyfriend expects you to be understanding and seems to want you to wait for the right time. But when is this right time? 1 year from now, 2 years or 5 years?
I think you need to know all of this before you can decide whether or not this relationship is worth continuing. Just to let you know, my perception of traditional ethnic families is that sometimes the parents would have already selected a to-be girlfriend/boyfriend for their children.
Warning signals are when your boyfriend also tries to hide the fact that you two are in a relationship with his friends, colleagues or classmates, other people etc. Just ensure that there is no third party involved.
Wish you the best of luck in your relationship.
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Some parents are still old school. I kept the PDA to a minimal when around her parents. But that was more me than her parents, not cool to suck face infront of them. Think of it this way, he dont want his parents dictating his relationships, so he doesn't reveal everything. Its also not typical of a guy to boast about those things. Its not something you brag about to your friends, doesn't mean we dont care though.
Sounds like he has toxic parents and they need to evolve out of their “ethnic” culture and accept that their som is in love. Even ethnic cultures need to evolve or they will die out. He also needs to grow a pair too, you need to take care of yourself first (He needs to take care of himself above his parents wishes) before culture. Otherwise we stagnate as a human race, and are miserable.
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I don’t know what a “traditional ethnic family” is. You could just as easily be from a “traditional” family and be Caucasian.
By the way, it’s okay to be White.well you marry the family too. What would say if you had a baby?
Is his family super religious?
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