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We're on opposite sides of the planet and have yet to meet in person. What started as pen pals evolved over time into a long-distance relationship. I got into this with two rules: I would not respond to any request for money (she never asked), and no green card marriages.

She wants to secure a medical residency in the US after graduating, and I wanted to help her however I could. She got accepted for an internship to a medical school in a city neighboring my own. We were looking forward to it for eight months, but she was denied a visitor's visa to come here and take it. It actually looks now like she would be denied the chance to take the test she needs to apply for residency in the first place for the same reason.

It's like a wall was slammed down between us and we can't find a way around it. She still wants to pursue US residency, and I'm still trying too. I've been running around like a madman these last three weeks, looking at employment opportunities, talking to lawyers, advisors, watching the options dry up one by one.

She asked, in the event she got accepted for an internship there, if I might come to Canada just to meet her for a few days. I want *desperately* to be able to say yes, but if there's no way we can live close enough to date like a normal couple for any real amount of time (and right now that doesn't look possible), where does that leave us?

My family was appalled by this whole thing, naturally. Some of it on logical grounds, arguing there were too many obstacles, a lot of it on religious grounds I strongly disagree with. I don't want to destroy my relationship with them, they just want it to be over.

I truly feel I love her, but logically, I know I can't make bullheaded decisions. I expressed these concerns to her and she's really upset. Hating myself right now. I don't know what to do.