Women initiate most of the divorces (~69%) but not breakups (could it be the money?)
Women win in court, get the man's money, house, and kids (in majority of cases >80%)
Women get lots of emotional support, more than men.
Men are expected to re-build their lives after they've lost everything they worked for.
Many cases, men are supposed to "man up" and get on with life.
Even if they've lost what was once the love of their life, kids, and possessions.
Suicide rates are very high among these men (9.7x more likely to commit suicide than divorced women):
Alcoholism and depression rates are very high as well.
I'm not saying that all married women are heartless monsters who will ruin a man's life. But numbers don't lie. Men get fucked in divorce. Women, it seems, win the lottery. With the no-fault divorce laws, marriage seems to have lost its sanctity.
Men: is marriage even worth it these days? Do I want a >50% chance that my wife will leave? Do I want to risk losing all the stuff I worked for? Do I want to be depressed and have thoughts of killing myself? If the risk is that high, I'm not so sure if marriage is a good idea.
I know relationships + marriage take a huge amount of work. But it seems that even the best husbands get ditched and taken to the cleaners. I've read so many stories of good husbands getting fucked by the courts and falling into depression; I've seen it firsthand with two uncles, three cousins, and two close friends. All good men who were 100% faithful and hardworking husbands.
Marriage - I may just have to say no.
Divorced men, please comment.
I know this is staged. But it seems like there's women who actually act like this out there - I'll be happier single.
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It has always been extremely dangerous for men to commit, which is one of the reason so many men has issues with doing so.
There are more than one reason, but this is a major one.
When a couple splits up, in (as you said) 97% of cases, the man has to pay alimony, which no one fucking wants. To pay money to someone you don't love anymore because it's written on a paper? fuck that. Men don't have any protections going into marriage and we all know what can happen if you get divorced, the woman gets half your stuff and you're legally bound to pay her afterwards.
You'll in 84% of cases lose custody to your children, which means that if they're under 18 you also have to pay child support until they are. In many cases, a woman can also just nag at a judge and effectively prohibit a man from seeing his children while he still has to pay for them.
plus, Divorce makes men 40% more likely to commit suicide.
It's all a big shitfest. I can understand the idea of "sealing the deal" with the person you love although I'm personally opposed to marriage, I can still see the symbolism behind it. However the issue comes when you're inviting the state into your private affairs. I can't think of any risks there are for women regarding marriage, because they have these benefits of "if I get divorced, I'll get money" and "Laws are made to give me default custody" and so on, whereas a woman has to violently abuse children for the father to even be considered better at caregiving.
I'm extremely opposed to marriage for the reasons stated, and a few more. But I'll leave you with a question if this thus far has been unconvincing...
If you went skydiving and you were told that 2/3 parachutes didn't open... would you jump?