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I went on 2 dates with a girl. We kissed on the second date. The COVID19 shutdowns happened. We have been having weekly 2 hour phone calls ever since.

She says to me, "Maybe with the nice weather, you can come over this weekend for some responsibly socially distant drinks. :) "

I kind of continue flirting with her about how we might break that and be affectionate. She says, "We might... or I might be too much. I've been told that too."

So I go on flirting and she all of a sudden says:

"It's been a long time. Maybe a video call would be good? Or if you'd be good with a social distancing bbq this weekend with my best buddy, Jason, we can see each other then. haha"

See how she shifted things from it sounded like us being together one one one to all of a sudden having some guy in the mix?

She goes on to explain,

"Jason, I've known for years. We met on tinder and the dating thing didn't work, but we became great friends. I think you'd like him. He's a very fun version of me. haha."

The whole exchange was so confusing. I tell her to get back to me about it later. But somehow I felt that it was all made up bullshit. That there was no event coming up. I knew this Jason guy existed because she had told me about him and how they had originally met on Tinder before (on the first date).

Anyway, the next day, I am planning my weekend trying to choose between which ladies I will hang out with. I ask her if things were a go. She says, "... it's not going to work Saturday. My sister asked that I babysit my niece that evening."

Am I wrong to think this whole thing was odd? Is she shit testing me? Is she just not ready for a situation that could lead to us having sex? Is she trying to friendzone me? Or is she trying to get her male friend to meet me and approve of me?

I've known of a couple of Mexican couples who had fights because the man didn't like that his wife was earning more in her job or that she was significantly more educated than he was. Mexican culture places a lot of emphasis on masculinity. So the men were really bothered by it and felt a need to prove themselves to her, to which the wives were confused about and couldn't understand why they would feel less than men for it.

I personally don't care, and I think it'd be pretty cool if she was the one making the most money, like if she were a doctor or something. It's totally fine by me if the tables were turned on this traditional social orthodoxy where the man is expected to be more educated or earn more.

I think for her to choose me despite earning less or having fewer degrees and academic accolades than her makes me feel more special. Like she chose me because she likes me for who I am, and not because of what I earn or have.