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About a year and a half ago my boyfriend of 4 years lost his battle with bipolar disorder. Aside from the mental illness factor, he was also selling drugs on a large scale and he knew the hammer was going to come down (his suicide was timed in sync with an arrest, which never occurred because that morning he was found dead by his roommate and 2 detectives). I found out many of the details of his situation after he was gone... He was 23 when he passed. Now his 16 year old sister, who is in many ways much like him, is selling marijuana. I found out when she sent a snapchat photo of a bag of bud and some quirky statement about it last night. (Just some background: their family is so screwed up, divorced parents, kids from previous marriages who are now in their mid to late 30s, who are totally out of touch, a father who is totally oblivious and a mother who loves her unconditionally even though the daughter is borderline abusive toward her.) I considered sending the photo in a group message to both parents and letting them handle it, but I don't believe that they are capable, partly because she won't listen anyway and partly because they were completely ineffective in helping her brother. The little sister knows her brother did some illegal stuff (she had just turned 15 when he died) but most of the details have been kept from her. In the mean time, her brothers best friend is still awaiting his own legal decision. It's entirely possible that he could be imprisoned for up to 20 years. I find it infuriating that she has the audacity to sell drugs knowing what her brother went though (but then it always comes back around to the question "how much does she really know?"). I plan to confront her about the situation tonight, though depending on how she reacts I may wind up telling her parents. I don't want to scare her or give her too much info about her brother, but I NEED to at least try. I made him a promise to look out for her... But how? I need advice.

My guy has two women that want him, they are both from his past and both want to be with him. He's told them he's in a relationship yet they both continue to flirt with him and one even tried to lay a guilt trip on him about not talking to her since we got together. When it comes up (and it does frequently) I get anxious and it always starts a long discussion about how insecure I am and how I don't have anything to worry about and always makes remarks about how I talk to people of the opposite sex. The difference is, and I have stated, none of them have said they want to have my baby or that they love me and don't want my boyfriend to tell me they are talking to him.. He says that they both make him uncomfortable but they are both old friends he doesn't want to lose. He does have a big heart and thinks of the latter one as a baby sister that he used to watch over, he'd tried to have a relationship with her in the past but she chose someone else.

I'm so frustrated! the first woman aborted his child without even telling him she was pregnant over 10 years ago and the other one is married with kids yet texted him last night and said it upset her that he let me read her texts. I'm too old to be getting jealous over these women but I still feel it come over me, I don't think he handles them properly at all and he won't take my advice on what to say but instead insists on handling things his way. I feel like he is encouraging them but he doesn't and says I don't know them like he does. I love him and we are committed to each other, I know I have nothing to worry about with him. He's never cheated on anyone and is extremely loyal. I just find it HIGHLY disrespectful that these ladies won't get it through their head what is appropriate and what is not and moreso with him for putting me in this position in the first place by not being more clear with them. Should I just let it go or should I dig my heels in? I'm scared of pushing him away but this is an ongoing issue I don't know if I can really deal with much longer without getting in a major argument and ultimatums being made, which he has stated several times he wouldn't tolerate from me.