What Women Want: From My Perspective

[loveisbeautiful]

I don't have any real relationship experience, but I have liked many guys and were close to dating a few of those guys. Unfortunately, it just never seems to work out. In my own experience there was always some things missing. Which, made me feel like something was wrong. So, here are some of things that are always a cause of worry for me and I imagine other woman as well. A little general look into what women want (from my point of view as a woman).

1) "Is he thinking about me too?"

For me, when I like someone I have a habit of thinking about them a lot. So, when there's indications that maybe I'm not on there mind, as much as they are on mind. I wonder if maybe they're not as into me, as I'm into them. Because, if you like someone they should cross your mind (at least in my opinion) So.....

What Does She Want? To know that he's thinking about her, as much as she's thinking about him.

What Should He Do? Find a way to let her know that she's on your mind too, not necessarily all the time. But, enough that she'll know she made an impression on you.

2) Mean what you say and say what you mean

Nothing is more annoying then when a guy say's one thing but his actions indicate that he means another. I have had a lot of pretty words thrown my way, but that's all they were. So....

What Does She Want? To know that he's actually sincere in what he's telling her and not just trying to charm the pants off her.

What Should He Do? Find a way to show her that you actually mean what you're telling her and that you're not just saying what you think she wants to hear. Be a man of action and of words.

3) Don't constantly change your tune about how you feel

I seem to have a habit of finding all the guys that like me one week and then the next week change their mind. Then the following week they're making all these promises to me and the next week they change their mind again. It's extremely frustrating and makes me feel like something is wrong with me that a man changes how he feels about me every 5 minutes. So...

What Does She Want? Consistency, to know he actually likes her and there's no doubt about it. No reason for her to ever question whether he really likes her or not.

What Should He Do? Just be truthful in how you feel. Dont' say you like her one minute and then say you're not sure the next. The truth of the matter is, you either like someone or you don't. You either want a relationship with them or you don't. it's really just that simple.

4) "Just make your move. 'Cuz, I ain't got all night"

I know that slow and steady sometimes wins the race. However, for women that want to marry and have kids someday we don't have the luxury of waiting around forever. I myself, am about to be 28 this week and still haven't done half the things most people have by this age. Which means, I can't wait around 10 or 15 or 20 years for a guy to decide if he wants me or not. I'm not ready to settle down yet, but my biological clock doesn't give me the luxury of waiting around forever either. So...

What Does She Want? Commitment, not necessarily a ring or for him to knock her up ten dates from now. But, a sign that it is heading somewhere.

What Should He Do? Find a way to show her that you are committed to making things work or seeing where things could lead. That way she knows ( like I said above), that it is in fact going somewhere and that she's not wasting her time on someone who doesn't really want her.

5) Can You Hear Me Now?

Nothing is worse then two people not being able to communicate with each other properly, it can cause many problems. To me it feels that I have to pull teeth to get the guys I like (who say they like me), to talk to me. It shouldn't have to be that hard to get someone you like to want to talk to you. If it is, to me that's a problem. Because, it should be something they want to do, not something they avoid like the plague. So....

What Does She Want? Communication, to be able to talk to him and not feel like she's forcing him to do so out of some kind of obligation or something.

What Should He Do? Just talk to her, just find a way to have a decent amount of communication so she knows she means something to you. Find a way to show her you enjoy talking to her, without her always having to initiate the conversation in someway. Let her know it's something you want to do, not feel forced to do. Good communication is key to all good relationships.

6) Sometimes reassurance is needed

I have been hurt emotionally by many people in many ways, not just potential dates. But, through being bullied in middle school. Through friends and even some family. I've also had a lot of friends leave me like I never existed at all. So, I have a lot of fears and trust issues and worries of being left again or hurt again. Which means, I do need reassurance sometimes. Especially, if I feel that the same patterns that occured before are occuring again and fear starts to set in. Maybe, it's not the most attractive thing but that's how it is now. So.....

What Does She Want? To know that he's going to treat her right and not hurt her like other people (or guys), have in the past. For her to be shown that he's different and in this situation history isn't going to repeat itself.

What Should He Do? Be patient. Be Kind. Be Understanding and show her that you're not like other guys and that you won't hurt her. That you won't just leave when the going gets tough, let her know and show her that you'll actually stick around.

7) Questions aren't drama

Whenever I ask a guy a question concerning the relationship between us, I always get told "they can't handle that drama". I don't consider questions out of confusion, to be drama. To me they are just simple questions to figure out where things stand or don't. So...

What Does She Want? To be able to ask questions about the relationship without being told it's creating drama or that she's somehow putting pressure on him. Dude, it's just a question.

What Should He Do? Don't read more into it then it is, not all relationship questions are a womans way of attempting to put pressure on you and make you committ. Sometimes, a girl just wants to know where things might be headed or not. Sometimes, just out of pure curiousity of knowing and sometimes out of fear. Just answer her question and don't intrrupt it as "drama" because it's just a simple question.

8 ) Honesty is the best policy

I feel a lot of problems could have been avoid, had the guys just been honest with me to start with. Instead of leading me on to believe something that wasn't true. So....

What Does She Want? For him to just be honest, not just with her. But, with himself about what he really wants and how he really feels.

What Should He Do? If Something is wrong or you're not into her anymore, just tell her point blank. Don't beat around the bush and keep her hopes alive. If when you first get to know each other you're not sure of how you feel or what you want to happen between the two of you, just tell her right away. Don't lead her on to believe you want something you're not sure you really want. Just be honest from start to finish, but tactfully of course.

9) Reciprocation would be nice

All I've ever wanted was for someone to feel about me, the way I feel about them. I don't connect to people easily or go all goo goo gaga over every guy I see, so when I find one I actually connect with it's a big deal to me. I'm even more happy when I'm told they feel the same and then heartbroken when change there mind not too long after that. It's sucks. I would like to find love, to know the true feeling of reciprocation without always having to wonder. So....

What Does She Want? To have the guy she likes reciprocate her feelings and not constantly wonder "does he like me too" or "I wonder if he feels the same".

What Should He Do? Tell her how you feel. I know confessing your romantic feelings and intentions towards a girl, can be scary. Especially, with the fear of rejection overhead. However, what do you really have to lose by telling her? By confessing your feelings and verbally expressing how you feel about her (especially if you know she already likes you), you're probably telling her everything she's been waiting to hear from you for so long. If you reciprocate a girls feelings, tell her and make the wondering stop.

10) Lust isn't better, it's sometimes just better than...

Two things I don't really do, lust and sexting. I find lust to be an unuseful feeling and I find sexting to be really stupid and pointless and little weird. That was until, I found someone I began to lust and then sexted with (no pictures or video, just innuendos in the form instant messaging). I know he just wants me for sex and though that's not my ultimate life goal, it is nice that he's straight forward about what he wants and I never have to guess. Because, he made his intentions with me clear from day one and they have never varied. It's also nice to be wanted and desired by someone, to feel something instead of nothing at all. So....

What Does She Want? To be desired. To feel wanted. To be swept up in a feeling that's extremely over powering and a good distraction to all her troubles. To be able to enjoy the company of a male and get lost in the passion and desire. To be able to mask the feeling of being sad and feeling completely alone.

What Should He Do? There's nothing for a guy to do on this one. Other then, understand that not all women that seek sexual comfort from men our only in it for the sex. For all the women that are just really horny and want a guy to do. There's all the ones that are just trying to fill a void in there life with a feeling that's just as all comsuming as loneliness and that's lust. Doesn't mean they're not looking for love, just means a girl gets lonely but doesn't always want to be alone.

[Anonymous]

So Men basically everything that a woman does do the opposite.
1. Never let a woman know that you're thinking about her she'll think you're too clingy.
2. Women never say what they mean and never mean what they say, don't do this.
3. Women constantly are changing how they feel. Don't do this.
4. Make your move (you know they won't) but don't be too aggressive.
5. Talk to her but not too much!
6. Dont tell her to suck it up, but still treat her as an equal.
7. Dont look to much into the question but don't give a simple (guy) answer.
8. Be honest with her but call her out if she's not being honest.
9. Reciprocate but don't look weak. You still need to be the man.
10. Be good in bed, or have a lot of money.

[YourFutureEx]

#Salute

[Kalinda]

This is just really immature you should wait a few years or decade before getting into a relationship. Stereotypes are for the feeble minded who can't think for themselves.

[ReneDS]

I salute you !
If you tell a woman you like them, you are clingy.
if you act indifferent, you are a douche.
if you ask them what they want, you are wrong, you should know that!
if you dont ask them what they want, they get pissed for not asking them.
if they are angry and you try to cheer them up, they get even more pissed.
if they are angry, they cry and blame it all on you.
if they are busy there is never a right time to aproach them.
if you are busy, and dont make them a priority, you are a selfish douche !

there is no logic in the female brain. i tried, i failed, but im learning. learned a lot. dont show your intentions, be a douchebag, dont initiate to much, and best, if they are trouble stay far , far away for your own safety. because the moment something goes wrong, you are the one who caused it. if they cheat on their husbands, you are the one responsible. going through that right now. lady cheated on her hubby with someone else, blames me , i tell truth, she goes mental.

[JohnBhoy94]

@Kalinda... but he's right lol!

[Eiffelgirl21]

you guys are beyond immature. and will NEVER have a proper relationship either that or can't get a girlfriend. either one.

[TwistedLogic]

@Eiffelgirl21 I truly don't care about the topic this debate, nor do I intend to get involved in it. However, with that being said, just because someone disagrees with you that doesn't make them immature. That's a primitive defense mechanism.

[RationalLioness]

@Kalinda @Eiffelgirl21 No worries. I don't think a lot of these guys have common sense anyway. Or they're incels/bitches who complain about not getting women.

@TwistedLogic Common sense. Use it. His statements were generalized. They are not true. That is infantile thinking. The Take Owner did use generalizations, but it is a common theme in relationships that a lot of women like.

[TwistedLogic]

@RationalLioness Alright.

[Opinion Owner]

It's definitely not immature, to think this way it's a reality that most guys deal with these days. Women have it really good these days. They can pick and choose any man they want, really. As a guy these days, we have to do ALL OF THE WORK in dating. Most women want to be treated as equals yet you still expect a man to be chivalrous. Being chivalrous implies that women are inferior to men. Don't you agree? Now not all women are like this but the vast majority are. First of all how many women have you ladies dated?
If you honestly think that as a man this day in age I care about having a girlfriend then you're sadly mistaken. I mean really the only thing women are good for is sex. Some women think this about men as well. I mean I can cook, clean, track my finances, buy a house, buy a new car. The only thing that a woman can fill in my life is, sex. I mean really. Granted someday I'd like to find that woman for me but I'm really picky. So that is not happening anytime soon.

[TheDevilInside]

Boys and girls play games. Men and women don't do that kind of shit anymore. The hard part is to know whether that seemingly amazing guy/gal a boy/girl is or a man/woman

[Magic-mike93]

This is a nice, detalied but somewhat confusing take and lists important stuff so it makes me sad to se so much ponitless and imature hate.

1 of the reasons guys dont like this is because it sounds like almost the entire resbonible falls on the man so the wright some opinion like this forgetting that the take is "what a woman want"

Another reason guys dont like this, saying it is wrong is beacause they dont consider age, this is "what a (28 year old, looking for an exclusive somewhat long term relationship) want. Not "what a 21 yo, partyprinces instagram addicted who cares a lot about status and being with the cool guy until she want to be single agien wants.

3 reason guys dont like this saying its wrong is because they (as in your staments) are all not right at the same time, its a huge diffrent deppending on where u are. if ur trying to get some1 intrested, alreddy dating, have a new but exclusve relationship. if i meet a girl once and falls head over heels in love couse she is the girl of my dreams. calling her the next day, being honest comunicating how strong i feel, asking where we stands and saying i want to take the next step is not the way to go. unless u want a restraining order.

And as a guy i can't say "girls/women want this or that", but you as girls can't argue with us when we say "this is what our experince makes us belive u want"

[ShutUpAndSuckMe]

TL;DR.. I'm sure ur take had something to do with women wanting 'the D' & by ''the D'' I mean muh dik~!

_But on a srs note:

What women want is subjective an differs girl-to-girl, tho there are similarities & this applies the same to guys as well. The only thing that matters is for me to be me, to know what I do & don't want & what I need to do to get what I want. The same applies to you as well QA~!

Tho I do agree that there are too many beta men these days. It's either:

- They can't provide for a gal financially (i. e. - Deadbeats, thugs, lowlifes, convicts, criminals, whtetrash, Blue-Collar_Working_Peasants//#Feelzbadmayne/10.. )://_etc/etc)...

- Or they can't provide for a gal sexually (i. e. - liberal men, racists, doormats, betas in general rlly)..

- Or they can't provide for a gal emotionally (i. e. - Douches, jerks, bad boys, Dude/GymBros, Assholez - I've been guilty on this one before, tbh..)..

- Or they can't provide both sexually & financially, to a gal, hellz sometimes they can't even provide emotionally to u gals as well (i. e. - hipsters, SJWz, metrosexuals, etc/etc)..

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It's like you girlz r pretty much doomed to pick the kind of unsatisfactory relationship u want to settle for based on the pros & cons of said male... :/

Lol Sucks to be you QA~! xD!!! (Hey I said I was an asshole~!)

[Kalinda]

It's good except I don't know if the fact you just talk about the guy making a move is bc you're talpine about what you want from guys or if it's bc you're saying the guy should do all the work. I think you both should. Plus if you're having sexual relations not just bc you're horny but bc you're lonely that's your responsabikity not his. I think it goes the other extreme wher guys are always assuming women want more than what they say. You already said don't read into something just deal with what' she's saying which is good. Then it's kind of like you're telling them to read into " some" situations, which is unhealthy. If she's vulnerable bc she's lonely that's on her she shouldn't use a guy to fill that void lie to him then except him to do the right thing

[loveisbeautiful]

I'm not sleeping with anyone, that guy is just someone I talk to online. I have never meant him nor have I ever lied to him, were both on the same page about things. It's like friends with benefits, online. Also, I don't want the guy to do all the work and I never said I did. I put in A LOT of effort to make him feel special and give him someone to talk to. I've told every guy that I've every really been interested in, that I liked them point blank (since guys don't like games and neither do I) but I get nothing in return. I have to fight to have conversation. They tell me one week "you're so special to me, I have feelings for you and I want to date you" the next week it's "You're really good friend, but that's all it is and ever was. Sorry you thought over wise". If I ask a question to see if things are headed somewhere (because I can't live my life on promises), it's "this is too much drama, I can't take all this drama" It just goes on and on, I wrote this because I was hurt.

[Kalinda]

I actually really liked it and I esp get the last kart it's really obnoxious. You're supposed to just not say anything and wait for the guy to make his royal decree... Some guys feel so entitled to be waited upon asking a question is like treason.

Not all guys are this way but a lot are. Thing is the guys who are would just make super shitty bus so it's like dodging a billet when they get pusses and you know what they are really like... Not much consolation in the moment I know. But overall it's kinda lucky some guys are just honestly prices.

Anyhow I liked the article I agree with it and sorry I jumped to conclusions s. its one of the only takes I really just like there's no dressing it's just straight forward and totally rational. :-)

[loveisbeautiful]

Thanks.

[confusedone14]

The communication thing was a bit of a joke to me considering the absolutely pointless drama I have had lately with a Girl at work that would just not talk to me to resolve some misunderstandings... so no not every Girl wants a Man to communicate with her.

I have never met anyone that just doesn't know how to communicate and would rather gossip about me, try and get people offside with me and eventually go and see our Boss over some innocent emails I sent her (which she replied too) than sit down and talk things out like an Adult, I have nothing to do with her anymore, we used to be quite good Friends but she just can't communicate properly and in the end I just stopped wasting my precious energy on her.

[Setsu]

Funny... I might have said many of the exact same things as a man... to women. The question crossed my mind:

"Where were the women like you when *I* was 28?"

Then I remembered: "Oh yeah... they were too busy playing around. 'Not ready to settle down yet' and all that rot."

A few lines from a song I used to. sing under my breath as a teenager, as I agonized over the sorry state of American womanhood...

One's educated, one has been to school
Who is the genius and who is the fool

Well, it's hard to tell one from the other... they both have the answer

One gives a promise and the other his word
One is a teacher and the other is heard
They're both calling your name and the offer's the same, yeah... but only one delivers

You nurse and immerse your pain, but you still can't seem to break it down
I said, how long... how long will you suffer, caught between the pleasure and the grief

How long... how long...'til you recognize a lover from a thief?

[therussianconcussion]

you're right the current state of American womanhood is just not attractive by any means at all.
this is why American men go out of country to find their mates.

[Sippy27]

absolute nonsense

if any man followed your advice they would be immediately friend-zoned. why do you demand things that you dont even want? women are attracted to the COMPLETE OPPOSITE of what you've just described (a caring, weak and emotional guy) you are not attracted to this, you want to be, but you're not.

if i told a girl i think about her all the time, and declared my loyalty and absolute admiration for her, she would run for the hills. sorry i know you've put a lot of time and effort into this, but it's so clueless and delusional i didn't know whether to laugh or cry at it.

[Eiffelgirl21]

it isn't nonsense. girls friend zone guys who aren't attractive. if she is attracted to you, you won't be friendzoned. it is a nice way of using that as an excuse though

[RationalLioness]

If you're UGLY/UNATTRACTIVE with those above traits, you're more than likely NOT going to get a woman. Let's get that brain working.

I would immediately take a guy as you stated... IF HE WAS ATTRACTIVE.

[ReneDS]

i agree with you dude. few months ago, i was dating a very beautifull girl. things went fine, out of nowhere i didn't excisted to her anymore. at work she would keep flirting with me etc. but every time i responded she got upset with me responding. till 1 day i had enough. i went to her place after work, told her, i know you still like me so cut this BULL ! well i had sex with her that night, and 3 more times the following days. yeah i thought , that it meant something to her. especially because we had unprotected sex. i trusted her. i shared this trust with her because i really liked her. so i later asked her to be my girlfriend, inbetween she got pregnant, because she didn't told me she stopped taking bc pills. she was only my girlfriend for a week or so. i thought this is what she wanted but it was my downfall. she miscarried our child, became very hostile. i tried to figure out what i did wrong, and how to fix this and thinking back, i just made a fool out of myself. beginng her to talk to me

[ReneDS]

just because i really liked her and trusted her. she gets a lot of male attention and thinking back about it, yeah wow great i f. cked the hottest chick in this regio,. but was it worth it, worth taking the risk of getting a STD and the emotional abuse. no ! i still dont understand what i did wrong to her, and i tried to talk things through but without any result. she blocked me from social media. so every women downvoting your commecnt is just as hypocrite as my ex girlfriend. a lot of guys would have walked away when a girl gets pregnant without the intention of getting her pregnant, i stayed and tried my very best.

[RationalLioness]

@ReneDS So because of your failed relationship with that girl, that means the Take Owner is incorrect?

Well then all men are deadbeat pathetic losers because in my experience, that's what I've seen.

... Do you understand how retarded that is? lol

[ReneDS]

you clearly seem to hate man, i feel sorry for you, you feminist witch. they should have burned you on the stake, like in the old days. you see, unlike you, i dont hate woman in general. what's the matter with you, small breasts? fat ass? rape victim or what is it with you? so what makes the take owner correct then , in your modest opinion. Im entitled to have my opinion. this take is a one way road, a relationship is based on 2 individuals who love each other. its not about women making a list of demands. you either accept your guy for who he is, and love him for trying his best to make you happy and if not, you become a nun. how do you even dare to call me petathic. I did everything for that girl, i tried my very best. like this take owner she had a list of demands as well, and no matter what i did, i couldnt do the right thing. so you, and her and any other woman who is like that. Jump down a frgging cliff or set yourself on fire. feminists disgust me. ill; mute you !

[ReneDS]

so muted, im so fed up with this feminist bullcrap. jesus christ , go watch GI jane, im just here to give my opinion and stay respectful. the take owner has her reason for writing this but its a one way road. it takes 2 people to form a relationship, not one, if so, than you are a narcistic borderliner.

[RationalLioness]

@ReneDS Who said you hated women in general? Why are a lot of you pussies incapable of not putting words into someone's mouths?

1) This Take was about what to do WHEN YOU HAVE SOMEONE. Some people aren't going to like the above, but the majority will.

2) I don't hate men, retard. I gave that "deadebeat" example to show your blatant hypocrisy and how infantile your line of thinking is. Just because YOU haven't experienced this doesn't mean that it's the wrong thing to do which it seems to be what you're saying.

3) You're entitled to your opinion. I'm just showing you how stupid it is.

4) I actually felt sorry for you and I attempted to show you how your thought process is biased. But now I don't care what she did to you. To me, you're not someone worthy of being with anyone if you're going to be as irrational as you are.

5) Yeah. I'm a Feminist. I believe a lot of men have a hard time and that there are some rights that men don't have that they should get.

[RationalLioness]

But I also don't care for "pussies" or "pathetic whiny" people that you come across as. You're not a "man" to me. Just a pussy. It's good that she left you. :)

FYI, the Take Owner even stated that she shouldn't have made it gender specific. She said that both wo/men should benefit from this.

[Sippy27]

RationalLioness you just proved my point, women are not attracted to weakness, whether thats emotional, physical or financial weakness... and it DOES include good looking men. did you know when brad pitt first moved to hollywood, before he landed a major role, he couldn't get a girlfriend.

[ReneDS]

As guys we simple dont know what you want because you never speak out your wishes. either way, we do it wrong. as a female discribed on the internet: guys are idiots. and by the way why am i always reading what woman want, go ask us what we want? a relationship is based on 2 individuals and not just a female making demands.

[loveisbeautiful]

I'm not making demands, but I was feeling heart broken and decided to get my feelings out because I was hurt. It was more about me letting everything out that I feel inside and have experienced one too many times. this take is more about me feeling sad and wanting to express that. It wasn't meant it annoy people.

[ReneDS]

well im not annoyed, but for us trying to understand what you sometimes want is really hard. sometimes i decided not to text my ex girlfriend back straight awya and she would text me more. if i did text her back straight away, she would text me less, or wait longer. im not really into these games. yes sometimes we f. ck things up because we simply dont understand, if you want us to understand you better, then think as we do. sometimes we need a hint or you have to initiate it. if you want to cuddle then start cuddling.

[kellieg95]

I might be in the minority here, but we're pushing for equal rights... why are we still holding the whole "Guy has to ask the girl out, not girl ask the guy out" thing over their heads? I've told a few guys I've liked them, and had a few dates because of it. Time for us to step up as ladies and stop being the "weaker" sex.

[ReneDS]

wait please not the equal rights matter again, it's really annoying. im not saying that we guys should always ask girls out first, but you clearly dont understand why we want to ask girls out first. its because we want to be proud , for showing the guts to do so. thereby telling a guy you like him, hasn't nothing to do with feminism. but ok, if you want equal rights, talk to the ww2 veterans who stormed normandy beach on d -day. women aren't weaker but there are significant differences between man and woman. i see so many woman working out hard in the gym, sure fine, live healhty but some of them want to be as muscled as arnold schwarzenegger, sorry but that won't happen. so ok , i dont want to hear any feminism BS here. im just giving my opinion, now go watch GI Jane. i have never seen a female navy seal or special ops commando in my life, i was in the military myself. give me a break. i like women for who they are and not for what they want to be.

[Kalinda]

Asking out isn't just about feeling proud but about controlling your own life. Everyone likes to feel in control and what makes you think women don't like feeling proud. Ewual rights isn't an abstraction it exists so people can do human things without being threatened or antagonized or punished. Just bc you like asking women out doesn't mean they don't also want to do it. And women are in the army now and have fought in revolutions throughout history so using anything like that as an example is pointless... Plus you are not storming the beach, at Normandy. Furthermore American soldiers did fuck all for ww2. 30 million Russian died fighting nazis we didn't show up till the end like a lion after teh lioness takes the animal down the lion shows up to take credit.

[ReneDS]

ok listen, i respect women a lot so i dont understand why you people start argueing with me about feminism. I dont care. Women saying there isn't any obvious difference between men and women, are out of touch with reality and so stuck up with feministic mumbo jumbo. Physically and emotionally there is a difference between men and women. Yes women are in the army, but tell me, i have been in the army and every single female i saw, was going for a clerk job. they werent leading the troops on the front, they werent in special ops commando units. Im sorry, women aren't suited for that. You either accept the physical differende between the genders or you dont. why do you so badly want to be muscled , lift heavy weights. you want to fight wars? Because i got a letter when i was 18, saying, if war breaks out, my country will rely on my full cooperation. Women dont get those letters. when you are young, and just want to enjoy life, a letter like that can hit hard home.

[ReneDS]

and yes women also have very important roles in the military or the police or any kind of job. but if you want equal rights than accept your limitations. Its not that great to be a guy. I was dating a girl, and she was pregnant from me. she threw me into a depression. she couldnt tell me if she wanted our child or not, she changed her ideas about having it , daily. she told me i would not get to see my child. i lost all my pride as an independent men. so thats ok right, she is a girl. she has every right to take away my child and be this mean cruel individual who is destroying my life. i have to repend, we men have to repend for what our forfathers did to your grandmothers. Im sorry but i dont hate women, i love women, i love how complex they are, there tender and sweet sides , the stupid things we guys sometimes do that you women hate or love about us. god , stop seeing differences, and complete each other. fuck feminism, fuck women haters etc. live your own life !

[ReneDS]

and one more historical fact, it werent just americans storming the normandy beaches. it were the allies, americans, English , Canadians, etc...

[Roostah]

Summed up nicely.

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[hypno-trip]

This is all really insightful and as someone close to your age I understand where you're coming from with the emotions on longing and frustration. I especially need to he'd the advice about not waiting forever because women out here aren't going to wait forever for me to change and be the it thy want me to be for them. All in all I really appreciate this post and I will frequent it again. Unlike other guys out there undone think all of these apply to guys many of these strictly apply to women and it's nice to hear from a woman's point of view hat they new and desire. Please receive my regards for your fruitful romantic life in the near future. Thanks and my blessings...

[loveisbeautiful]

You're welcome and thanks.

[Strummer]

I sympathize with you completely but I have to say women can't expect men to do everything right while just sitting back critiquing what he does wrong. Do you know what it's like feeling you judge every move we make to see if we're a loser or a phoney. Yes men get it wrong a lot but at least we're stepping up to the plate

[Kalinda]

She never said she didn't step up or doesn't

[doireallyneedone]

Nice take. I can see the effort you've put into this. But it also shows how priorities and thinking is so different between men and women. What you've said is all true, but it would not help a guy get a girl. It would only help a guy if the girl is already in love with the guy.

[theWire]

This.

[genuinlysensitive]

Honestly, it sounds like you have a lot of the same worries and hangups I do with relationships. Especially, say what you mean, be honest, and reciprocation. I have always wanted to get married and have children, but it seems to me at least there aren't that many women out there who feel the same.

[loveisbeautiful]

What makes you feel there aren't any women aren't that feel the same (if you don't mind me asking)?

[genuinlysensitive]

My dating track record or for the most part lack of it lol.

[genuinlysensitive]

To clarify, usually when I bring up wanting kids with my exes, they get really silent. They then usually call me clingy and needy. Honestly, I'm not its not like I was pressuring them to do it right then and there. Obviously none of my past relationships worked out.

I've been trying to meet other women, mostly in my social circle friends of friends or friends of co-workers. I flirt with them (which is hard for me I'm quite shy) but it seems like every time I think one is interested in me, out of nowhere she says she never wants kids ever. I mean I actually do, so yea thats kind of a deal breaker.

[loveisbeautiful]

I'm sorry to hear that. Funny you mention being called clingy, I was just recently called that by someone too. I'm not clingy, not in my opinion. What I am, is getting older and not having time to wait for someone to decide if the want me down the line. I'm getting a very late start in life and don't have time to beat around the bush and go as slow as possible. So, I totally get how you feel.

[Poppykate]

And this is why you come across as desperate and clingy. You are not wanting to take the time to date someone, and truly get to know them. You just want to get marry and start a family. If you don't take that time to get to know your future partner, you are only heading for misery and divorce later down the track. ( and that is if you don't scare away your potential dates/ partners in the meantime). Men, like all people want to be loved for who they are, not for what they can provide. ( in your case, family/ children). I hope that you are able to one day see the bigger picture, and able to get yourself out of this dating black hole.

[genuinlysensitive]

@Poppykate, yea know I want to get married and have kids eventually, not right now. Especially not to some stranger.

[Poppykate]

Sorry if my opinion sounded odd to you. It wasn't meant for you, but for the owner of the article. She is doing a lot of the wrong things to attract a partner, and scaring guys away, and then complaining that she is single. I think that if you have been dating for a long time, and many, many men- and none of them meet your standards, or you keep chasing them away. You need to ask youself this question- 'could it be me? and what can I do to bring out my good qualities and make them shine?'

[genuinlysensitive]

@Poppykate, thank you for clarifying, actually I have been asking myself that question a lot as of late :(

[Eiffelgirl21]

its funny how most women agree with this take and most men don't. Oh, maybe it is because men are lazy and just don't want to put in the effort? Or they are boys who will never grow up. Which one is it 'boys'?

[Alicant310]

Or its the princess syndrome.

[RationalLioness]

You need to educate yourself on the Princess Syndrome because none of what the Take Owner depicted was anything like that.

A lot of you guys--and I'm assuming YOU @Alicant310 are immature.

[Alicant310]

Really

Last time I checked , at least portion of the website is named "Girls ask Guys"
Any topic posted on this site is open to discussion. Everyone is entitled to an opinion whether you agree with it or not.
If you have a problem with opinons, you should avoid engaging in topics and questions who's answers and responses you're not ready for. This is growing up.

[Eiffelgirl21]

@rationallioness
I agree.
@Alicant310
go cry somewhere else. we don't care.

[RationalLioness]

Having a different opinion isn't immature. Having an infantile generalizing biased view on a concept IS immature (to me).

No one said it isn't open to discussion. All I'm saying is use common sense. You don't seem to have any. If you don't want to, you don't have to. But don't get offended or upset if someone calls you a fool when you're generalizing or using terms that aren't applicable.

[RationalLioness]

Wisdom CLEARLY doesn't come with age and you are one of many examples on here. :D

[Alicant310]

Who is we because this is a public forum. No one needs your permission to write an opinion.
You shared yours, I stated mine.

[thatkaruguy]

No I wouldn't say the take is princess syndrome but little girl syndrome would be more accurate. Since you are girls you probably can't see it but from a guy's point of view a lot of the bunk on here is the girl not wanting to do anything but want you to do everything or they leave

[Eiffelgirl21]

@thatkaruguy
I never said it was spot on. I just thought it was funny. and yes it does take 2 I agree..

[Alicant310]

@thatkaruguy

That's exactly what it is.
little girl doesn't hear what she wants, she throws a tantrum.

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
you are a troll. go fight with someone else. I can see you are butthurt about being called out but that isn't my issue. grow up little boy.

[Alicant310]

you're weak. Time grow up little girl

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
LOL sorry that you can't get any bud and this is why you are so bitter.. Not to mention pathetic. I truly am sorry..

[Alicant310]

Not at all. Thank god not all women are like you. No guy will ever respect you.

[Alicant310]

by the way you look kinda fat. . No wonder you have a problem with male opinion. Have you been ignored? Did daddy walk away or touch you?

[Eiffelgirl21]

ouuuch you hurt me so much ;(

[Eiffelgirl21]

@rationallioness
apparently we offended him ;)

[Alicant310]

Oh I know it hurts.. while all the girls went on dates, went to prom, fit into their favorite clothing brand, got married... you cried at home and decided it would easier to blame men For being half the woman other girls were. Sad

[RationalLioness]

@thatkaruguy

Sure I can see that... from an immature and selfish point of view. Many rational older men--excluding the 32 year old with no common sense on here since the only thing he is is old---understand that though this Take speaks about what "women" want, it's the same for many men as well. The Take Owner even stated that she shouldn't have made it gender specific.

@Eiffelgirl21 Apparently so. You can tell how much of a pussy a guy is if he immediately tries to attack you on your weight. It's okay. He might be one of the guys asking why women don't prefer his 4 inch penis. XD

Baby dick. :)

[Eiffelgirl21]

ouuu I must have hit a nerve ;)

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Rationallioness
LOL you are so right! haha...

[Alicant310]

Weight issues? God I'm good. It's not an attack. It's fact. She fits the profile. In general , ugly fat girls with daddy issues encounter social development issues.. specifically intergender relationships. Becoming narcissists at the very least.

Ex.1 she only responds to opinions within her own ideology of common sense.
Ex 2 She enjoys shaming the male image

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
LOL I am SO glad you can "tell" I am "fat" by a face shot of my pic. LOL also, daddy issues? LOL we know you looked at my profile.. and seen "daddys girl" so we KNOW you are just trying to hit a nerve. you will be banned soon. so enjoy it while you can.

[Eiffelgirl21]

oh, and I was shaming on the boys aka you. not real men like @Eugene who knows how to treat a woman.

[Alicant310]

Oh its easy to spot them. It's become an epidemic. In fact other girls make it easy to identify girls like you just by the way you carry yourself. No man will ever take you serious.

let's get back on topic.. what's going on with daddy? Did he die? Parents divorce? It has to be something.. you clearly fit the bill

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
yeah I am so fat ;)

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
you are a pathetic excuse for a male. and karma is a bitch. p. s- daddy is a great man who bought me a BMW for my first car ;)

[Alicant310]

I know you are. The only place you feel normal and bold is on the internet. You could never compete with other hot girls. EVER

[Eiffelgirl21]

@Alicant310
glad you finally admitted I am hot ;)

[Alicant310]

O yes. Those glasses get me off on my 7 series

[LittleSally]

Hahahaha I see you got some down-votes as well! xD

[ReneDS]

or women would just be more obvious about what they want instead of letting us guess what they want. yesterday i was watching four weddings, just for fun. and it became pretty obvious. it was all about the brides,. they wanted to look good, the wedding was planned the way they wanted. ok so i have to pay halve of it but for the rest im left out of the wedding. i just have to say yes and f. ck off. im a grown up boy, i can show you ;)

[Eiffelgirl21]

@ReneDS
well some guys do mature ;) and yeah I know. I wasn't even agreeing with this take entirely lol I just said what I said because it was obvious and funny :)
@LittleSally
yep. its the internet. hell, its GaG. it isn't a surprise lol

[ReneDS]

@Eiffelgirl21 good haha How can any reasonable female agree with this take. its about a girl just making demands. I can't remember making any demands to any of my ex gf's. communication thats the key, so stop having all these wishes inside your head and talk them through. let him have a say as well. its not a one way road , having a relationship. by the way Eiffelgirl, may i compliment you on your looks. you look great ! very beautiful smile. Eiffelgirl refers to the german eiffel or? the eiffeltower or what? or just a random name

[Eiffelgirl21]

@ReneDS
it refers to the eiffel tower :) 1) I am obsessed with it dunno why. 2) I am tall :) seemed to fit good for me :D
and yeah I think a lot of guys misread this take tbh. She is just implying what women want (but not trying to bash men) At least I don't think. lol not sure. and thank you for the compliment :) that pic is when I was nice and tan last summer. I am gonna get tan again I think :)

[ReneDS]

ok :p that explains a lot, but there are bigger buildings then the eifel tower. how come you are so obsessed with it. where u from than? No guy who will take you there? or you scare guys of with your length , no idea how tall you are. hm the take owner sounds frustrated, i could also write a take on what i want, but ain't gonna happen :p

[ReneDS]

@eiffelgirl21

[Eiffelgirl21]

not sure why I am obsessed. lol I am not as tall as my boyfriend. but we have busy lives. no time to go at the moment. @ReneDS

[Eiffelgirl21]

@shutupandsuckme
shut up and suck me! Burnnnnnnn!!! lol jk (heart)

[Alicant310]

You're preaching keys to a successful relationship when..

1) You admit to never being in one

2) You've based your ideologies on two things:

-what you want.
-what you think men need to be doing.

I'm keeping my response short. You're twisted.

[Eiffelgirl21]

that is rude.

[Alicant310]

So is this posting.

[TwistedLogic]

I am twisted.

[Alicant310]

Half of the world is according to "the other person"

[xHoneyxBeex]

This is an excellent myTake :)

I do agree with what someone else here said though, all of these points could apply to men too, not just women. Most of these are basic things that anyone would want in a relationship. :)

[Anonymous]

This is all in an ideal world, find a way to show her x y and z but how are you supposed to do it? We know what to do just not how. Anyways girls have always been keener when I haven't bothered with any of this, if you show you care then they go off you. Besides, if you believe the television women mainly just want snacks that are only 99 calories and and mascara that really does give you fuller lashes or your money back. lol

[Krillanr]

Questions can cause drama in the sense that when a guy is relaxed about the relationship, then the questions, complaints, requests come, there is usually a right and a wrong answer, and knowing that the wrong one could cause a lot of stress, withheld sex, arguing, drama ensues.

[Kalinda]

You're creating drama by labeling questions. Jumping the gun. Question is just a question deal with what you know and answer the question don't over think it. If your relaxation is fragile it can broken with a question then you're re not relaxed you're just deluded.

[Eiffelgirl21]

hahaa you guys create the drama. a question is a question. you jumping to conclusions that it will lead to something is making the drama.

[Krillanr]

Fair enough, I think it's when the couple isn't rational enough to handle things in that way, many times I've been asked what I though was a off the cuff question just to answer honestly and get my head bit off for it, so call me a bit gun shy if ya want. The classic one is "Do these pants make me look fat?" crap like that. I'm honest, and if people want someone to tell them only what they want to hear, they shouldn't ask me.

[PhiOmega]

Cool, it's just looks a little like it comes from a younger perspective in some areas,

U can't work on a relationship or getting into one from one side

Ur saying u want a guy to show u that ur in a relationship that has a possibility of moving forward, but if he's got the same doubts and ur both think "what [he/she] should do" that's how u get failed potential relationships

[Kalinda]

She never said she wasn't talking a out a soak a ready in love. And it doesn't show how diff anyone is it shows how diff people are when they are in love vs just attracted

[Kalinda]

Nope I agreed wth you lol this response was meant for #doirrallyneedone

[PhiOmega]

Oh... ok tnx @kalinda

[noboobsbonnie]

YES! The DRAMA part!!!
Men... You ask them a question and they duck their heads back into their shells and retreat until they're sure you're not going to ask them anymore questions. Like turtles. Men are turtles.
"Babe, what do you think of these shoes. Do you like the red ones better on me, or the bl-"
"STOP ASKING ME QUESTIONS, WOMAN! I KNOW THIS IS A TRAP! STOP MAKING SO MUCH DRAMA!!"

[Poppykate]

Because it is a trap! I have seen this done to some poor guys, and OMG! I just feel so sorry for them! All they are wanting to do is watch TV and their girlfriend comes along and starts asking questions- 'what do you think about this, or that'.. And you know what? 9 times out of 10 he will just say whatever to get you out of the way so he can get back to relaxing and watching TV. Did you know that like 20% of men are colourblind? And to most men a dress is just a dress, and a shoe is just another shoe. They really can't tell much of a difference. A woman should have a high enough self esteem that she can choose her own wardrobe without relying on her boyfriend. ( unless she was dating Alex McQueen, or Oscar de la renta if they were still alive)

[RationalLioness]

It's NOT a trap all the time. If I'm asking, it's for a genuine opinion.

[ReneDS]

true we simply dont care. as long as you like it and it looks good on you, were are fine with it. we rather look at our ladies when they aren't wearing anything. anyway, sometimes i dont get woman. they go spend 50 euros to get their toe nails painted. jesus christ 50 euros, put all that many in a box and have a nice holidya or diner somewhere. im not saying we guys waste a lot of money on stupid shit but at least we can do something with it. what the hell am i going to use painted fails for. yet we can't live without woman either. I miss a loyal fun girl by my side. who sometimes gets angry with me for being a guy , but is reasonable enough to talk things through. my ex girlfriend was incapable of that. i bought her a drink for her when she was working, didn't know a girl with the same name worked there, who looked the same. wrong girl gets it, she calls me all upset, cussing at me, that was just mean. i really put some effort in it, she could have told me, that was nice but the wrong moment

[Poppykate]

I would think that was so funny! I would have called you up and asked what I needed to do to get a drink too. 😉 Accidents happen! People take life so seriously! .

[RationalLioness]

Great Take!! I think only mature guys will understand the truth of you've said.

[Eiffelgirl21]

I think you are so right. lol aka not many on here.

[Alicant310]

That's the point. one day you'll realize no one has to. We only have a responsibility to ourselves.

[RationalLioness]

@Alicant310 When did I say anyone HAD to realize what she said? I simply said that immature guys usually don't understand.

[Alicant310]

And I responded they don't have to. No one has to understand anyone. That's just the bottom line. If you have a problem with this, that's your issue.

[RationalLioness]

Lack of common sense. Maybe if I speak slower...

No one. Has to. Understand. If they. Don't want to.

Are we clear on this or was that too fast for you? I want to make sure that we're on the same page.

In my. experience and. opinion. It is usually. Immature guys. who do not. understand. and they. don't have to.

... I'm stopping to make sure you get this, because basic comprehension seems to be troubling for you. Okay. Deep breaths. Almost done.

The majority of women. Do not want. An immature guy. who lacks basic. comprehension. and/or rational. thinking skills. to the point that. he is unable. to use common sense.

Intelligent men. Not dumbasses. This is MY opinion. You're the one that seems to have an issue with it and making dumbass-umptions as if I'm saying that they have to understand.

... Whoops. I didn't do any breaks. Was that... toooo fast... for you?

[Alicant310]

Oh I understand with you're teenage views. I just don't agree with it. You have your opinion. I have mine

[RationalLioness]

Says the one who can't comprehend beyond 5th grade level. Good. :D

[Alicant310]

Mm? You're weak. You can't handle outside opinion

[Alicant310]

by the way that's the definition of a little girl.

[Eiffelgirl21]

watch out. next he will say you're anorexic or fat.

[RationalLioness]

You clearly want the last say. I'll be mature and let the hypocritical old man who may have prostate problems have it.

I can understand why no woman goes up to you if she doesn't---we already have pussies. We don't need another one. :D

(For the record, I can handle a different opinion. But I'll tell you if yours is stupid and irrational. And it is). :D

[Alicant310]

Is that all you have? Lol stay on topic little girl. You're so weak.

[LittleSally]

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... they seem to get angry when you say they're not mature... Hahaha