I don't have any real relationship experience, but I have liked many guys and were close to dating a few of those guys. Unfortunately, it just never seems to work out. In my own experience there was always some things missing. Which, made me feel like something was wrong. So, here are some of things that are always a cause of worry for me and I imagine other woman as well. A little general look into what women want (from my point of view as a woman).
1) "Is he thinking about me too?"
For me, when I like someone I have a habit of thinking about them a lot. So, when there's indications that maybe I'm not on there mind, as much as they are on mind. I wonder if maybe they're not as into me, as I'm into them. Because, if you like someone they should cross your mind (at least in my opinion) So.....
What Does She Want? To know that he's thinking about her, as much as she's thinking about him.
What Should He Do? Find a way to let her know that she's on your mind too, not necessarily all the time. But, enough that she'll know she made an impression on you.
2) Mean what you say and say what you mean
Nothing is more annoying then when a guy say's one thing but his actions indicate that he means another. I have had a lot of pretty words thrown my way, but that's all they were. So....
What Does She Want? To know that he's actually sincere in what he's telling her and not just trying to charm the pants off her.
What Should He Do? Find a way to show her that you actually mean what you're telling her and that you're not just saying what you think she wants to hear. Be a man of action and of words.
3) Don't constantly change your tune about how you feel
I seem to have a habit of finding all the guys that like me one week and then the next week change their mind. Then the following week they're making all these promises to me and the next week they change their mind again. It's extremely frustrating and makes me feel like something is wrong with me that a man changes how he feels about me every 5 minutes. So...
What Does She Want? Consistency, to know he actually likes her and there's no doubt about it. No reason for her to ever question whether he really likes her or not.
What Should He Do? Just be truthful in how you feel. Dont' say you like her one minute and then say you're not sure the next. The truth of the matter is, you either like someone or you don't. You either want a relationship with them or you don't. it's really just that simple.
4) "Just make your move. 'Cuz, I ain't got all night"
I know that slow and steady sometimes wins the race. However, for women that want to marry and have kids someday we don't have the luxury of waiting around forever. I myself, am about to be 28 this week and still haven't done half the things most people have by this age. Which means, I can't wait around 10 or 15 or 20 years for a guy to decide if he wants me or not. I'm not ready to settle down yet, but my biological clock doesn't give me the luxury of waiting around forever either. So...
What Does She Want? Commitment, not necessarily a ring or for him to knock her up ten dates from now. But, a sign that it is heading somewhere.
What Should He Do? Find a way to show her that you are committed to making things work or seeing where things could lead. That way she knows ( like I said above), that it is in fact going somewhere and that she's not wasting her time on someone who doesn't really want her.
5) Can You Hear Me Now?
Nothing is worse then two people not being able to communicate with each other properly, it can cause many problems. To me it feels that I have to pull teeth to get the guys I like (who say they like me), to talk to me. It shouldn't have to be that hard to get someone you like to want to talk to you. If it is, to me that's a problem. Because, it should be something they want to do, not something they avoid like the plague. So....
What Does She Want? Communication, to be able to talk to him and not feel like she's forcing him to do so out of some kind of obligation or something.
What Should He Do? Just talk to her, just find a way to have a decent amount of communication so she knows she means something to you. Find a way to show her you enjoy talking to her, without her always having to initiate the conversation in someway. Let her know it's something you want to do, not feel forced to do. Good communication is key to all good relationships.
6) Sometimes reassurance is needed
I have been hurt emotionally by many people in many ways, not just potential dates. But, through being bullied in middle school. Through friends and even some family. I've also had a lot of friends leave me like I never existed at all. So, I have a lot of fears and trust issues and worries of being left again or hurt again. Which means, I do need reassurance sometimes. Especially, if I feel that the same patterns that occured before are occuring again and fear starts to set in. Maybe, it's not the most attractive thing but that's how it is now. So.....
What Does She Want? To know that he's going to treat her right and not hurt her like other people (or guys), have in the past. For her to be shown that he's different and in this situation history isn't going to repeat itself.
What Should He Do? Be patient. Be Kind. Be Understanding and show her that you're not like other guys and that you won't hurt her. That you won't just leave when the going gets tough, let her know and show her that you'll actually stick around.
7) Questions aren't drama
Whenever I ask a guy a question concerning the relationship between us, I always get told "they can't handle that drama". I don't consider questions out of confusion, to be drama. To me they are just simple questions to figure out where things stand or don't. So...
What Does She Want? To be able to ask questions about the relationship without being told it's creating drama or that she's somehow putting pressure on him. Dude, it's just a question.
What Should He Do? Don't read more into it then it is, not all relationship questions are a womans way of attempting to put pressure on you and make you committ. Sometimes, a girl just wants to know where things might be headed or not. Sometimes, just out of pure curiousity of knowing and sometimes out of fear. Just answer her question and don't intrrupt it as "drama" because it's just a simple question.
8 ) Honesty is the best policy
I feel a lot of problems could have been avoid, had the guys just been honest with me to start with. Instead of leading me on to believe something that wasn't true. So....
What Does She Want? For him to just be honest, not just with her. But, with himself about what he really wants and how he really feels.
What Should He Do? If Something is wrong or you're not into her anymore, just tell her point blank. Don't beat around the bush and keep her hopes alive. If when you first get to know each other you're not sure of how you feel or what you want to happen between the two of you, just tell her right away. Don't lead her on to believe you want something you're not sure you really want. Just be honest from start to finish, but tactfully of course.
9) Reciprocation would be nice
All I've ever wanted was for someone to feel about me, the way I feel about them. I don't connect to people easily or go all goo goo gaga over every guy I see, so when I find one I actually connect with it's a big deal to me. I'm even more happy when I'm told they feel the same and then heartbroken when change there mind not too long after that. It's sucks. I would like to find love, to know the true feeling of reciprocation without always having to wonder. So....
What Does She Want? To have the guy she likes reciprocate her feelings and not constantly wonder "does he like me too" or "I wonder if he feels the same".
What Should He Do? Tell her how you feel. I know confessing your romantic feelings and intentions towards a girl, can be scary. Especially, with the fear of rejection overhead. However, what do you really have to lose by telling her? By confessing your feelings and verbally expressing how you feel about her (especially if you know she already likes you), you're probably telling her everything she's been waiting to hear from you for so long. If you reciprocate a girls feelings, tell her and make the wondering stop.
10) Lust isn't better, it's sometimes just better than...
Two things I don't really do, lust and sexting. I find lust to be an unuseful feeling and I find sexting to be really stupid and pointless and little weird. That was until, I found someone I began to lust and then sexted with (no pictures or video, just innuendos in the form instant messaging). I know he just wants me for sex and though that's not my ultimate life goal, it is nice that he's straight forward about what he wants and I never have to guess. Because, he made his intentions with me clear from day one and they have never varied. It's also nice to be wanted and desired by someone, to feel something instead of nothing at all. So....
What Does She Want? To be desired. To feel wanted. To be swept up in a feeling that's extremely over powering and a good distraction to all her troubles. To be able to enjoy the company of a male and get lost in the passion and desire. To be able to mask the feeling of being sad and feeling completely alone.
What Should He Do? There's nothing for a guy to do on this one. Other then, understand that not all women that seek sexual comfort from men our only in it for the sex. For all the women that are just really horny and want a guy to do. There's all the ones that are just trying to fill a void in there life with a feeling that's just as all comsuming as loneliness and that's lust. Doesn't mean they're not looking for love, just means a girl gets lonely but doesn't always want to be alone.