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I've been together with my boyfriend for 2 years. I knew he was best friends with his ex. They dated around 2 months when they first met. Since that happened like 10 years ago, I didn't really pay attention to it. Up until over the course of 2 years, she was showing a lot of fishy signs and red flags here and there. I don't want to go too detailed but, it's obvious that she still has feelings for him.

I trust my boyfriend and it's not about him. It's clear for me to see that he doesn't have feelings for her. He doesn't find her attractive anymore & doesn't care about her feelings. Couple of his exes told him the same thing. She still has feelings for him. He just doesn't care if she has feelings for him because she's getting nothing out of it. He thought it was okay to keep her around just because of that. Since, they've known each other for 10 years, it is a long friendship.

I had a talk with my boyfriend about this situation. Problem, she asks him out "alone" a lot. He would go if he's bored. That makes me really uncomfortable since he's hanging out with this girl that has feelings for him. And they had history! She doesn't like me because of that. If that was me, he said he would be questioning a lot & won't be very happy about it. He would want me to cut him out. We concluded to cut her out. If they keep in contact, she would just cause issues. In other words, she has feelings for him, wants to hang out with my man alone, & diss me.

He doesn't care about her & completely fine cutting her out. He actually think he should because now that he think about it, she was a problem with all his past relationships. He said he was being oblivious but mainly, he doesn't care about her feelings/what she felt about him.

I do feel guilty because he is doing this for us. It's not in my nature to do something like that. He's known her for 10 years & that's a long time. But, I am very happy he made that decision. But I feel bad :(

Right. Long story short. We dated for a year 2014/2015. He was the one who was into me, pursued me, wanted to settle down, he adored me etc.

I was in a bad place at the time and couldnt see how I was treating him. He kept warning me to treat him better, but couldn't hack it in the end and we ended on VERY bad terms. I know this sounds mad? But I had so many issues with commiting to men at that time, although he was a good guy :(.

He was angry with me for months... even after months he was still mad. And I was mad too. He'd barely speak to me and any conversation led to an arguments.

Now it's been a whole year since our split. Tonight I saw him and noticed a mark on his neck. I questioned it (I'm pretty blunt) and he was relcuctant to answer. But he admitted flat out that someone had kissed him there. I was like... ok.

He said it had been a whole year since our split, he was drunk and he was down. So that's how the kissing happened. He was very quick to say he has no intentions of sleeping with anyone, seeing anyone or getting in a relationship. Neither did he intend to kiss this girl again. He is honest with me about these things, and I do trust him.

I wasn't annoyed with this kiss? Just a little... I donno. Anyway, we then went to talk about our relationship and how he'd been flirting months back and hoped to see things working out. But we were still pretty raw, so I guess things broke down as a result again.

He was very apologetic towards me tonight, wrapped his arms around me and gave me a full body hug. All of me was touching his body. He apologised in case he'd hurt my feelings and rubbed my back gently as he did so. Hug lasted about 10-15 seconds. Then he joked about me crushing him with my hug and how he 'bruises like a peach' to that I replied 'well, that's apparent!' It was all in a joking manner really.

Help? He's a person I have a huge soft spot for :

Do guys kiss girls and not really mean it sometimes?