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Best Family-Member Friendship: The Point Of No Return

As many of you may know, my cousin SweetHomicidalQueen and I live together. We've found that we're basically the same person (apart from the differences in how we carry ourselves/communicated and such). We've gotten incredibly close since we officially met in August, maybe even too close. But just how comfortable can you be with one person? Here's how to tell when you've hit the deepest point possible in your friendship/relationship.


1.) You share food and drinks.


This may seem normal to you, but a lot of people find it disgusting. I've never minded sharing food and drink with people, but a best friend/family member can reach for the food or drink you currently have lifted to your mouth and you'll hand it over after you take your own bite or sip. It's just second nature to pass it over to the other person, and then they pass it back. We've even shared an apple at school once before realizing that it wasn't normal teenage behavior, woops!


2.) You can comfortably change in front of each other.


When you share a room with someone, it's hard to avoid an accidental look at way more than you wanted to see. It's gotten to the point here where Jade and I don't even bother hiding behind the closet door, we just strip down and say," one sec, getting changed." Let's just cross our fingers and hope we don't slip up and do this with company over. Talk about awkward.


3.) Randomly sitting on each other is totally normal.


If you're laying down, your best family member friend sees it as fair game to use you as a cushion. I can't lay down for five minutes without looking up to find her laying on top of me and using my forehead as an arm rest. Maybe a little too touchy-feely for most people, but it's totally normal when your best friend is also your cousin.


4.) There is no such thing as TMI.


Most bffs share secrets, but with a best family member friend, the sharing becomes extreme. For example, Jade and I share everything. A room, a fashion sense, a taste in music, an interest in the arts, and some people would even say a brain. It's only natural that we can say the most vulgar things to eachother.


"Hey, were you skyping that guy in the shower?"


"Yeah, why?"


"OH MY GOD TELL ME EVERYTHING YOU GUYS SAID AND DID!"


"Okay so first he said... and then we... and after that we..."


"Holy shit, that's hot."


5.) You're completely synchronized.


It's normal to be very much like your bff, but the similarities become kind of creepy when you're best family member friends. From periods to speech patterns, Jade and I are one in the same. We often find ourselves saying the exact same things at the exact same time. Just ask anyone who has skyped us; we usually end up sitting side by side and exclaiming words together by accident, even if only one of us knows the person we're talking to. We've even worn the same band shirts on the same days on several occasions. Our brains have become hardwired together (or as my uncle would say, the half of a brain we both share has.)


6.) You have late night chats that you probably shouldn't have.


A bff will sometimes call the other up on the phone at midnight for a one on one talk. These conversations can be pleasant, or they can be too deep for comfort. This level of trust is totally surpassed when your best friend is also a family member your age. Jade and I have stayed up until 3 in the morning on school nights talking about much-too-personal things like our odd kinks, secrets we have that no one else in the world knows, or even just random thoughts that we have that we're too afraid to share with eachother. This usually ends in one of us feeling kind of depressed after talking about issues or worries we have, or feeling to excited to sleep when we get into our animated fits of histarical chatter and giggles.


7.) You're told constantly to shut up, but you just can't.


You can't resist talking to your best family member friend. It is literally impossible. Jade and I have even made each other cry and we still end up talking not even ten minutes later just because we have to share every thing we find or think of that we think the other will like. There's just no way to avoid speaking to your bfmf, even if you have to chuck a brush at the other person to let out some steam before you both start speaking again. We don't even need to say words to each other most of the time one look or a random noise we've heard together can cause a massive fit of giggles that prompty gets a "SHUT THE FUCK UP" from the parental units before we're silent for a few more minutes and start the process again.


8.) You have inside jokes that even you don't fully understand.


When you're around one person for hours on end, you usually hear some pretty dumb stuff together. Once we even had a joke where one person just screamed "NYAAAAH!" at the other and it was met with histerics. This one stemmed from the sound a sick kitten made while we were trying to clean something out of his fur. We've built up an unending list of inside jokes that would make us seem down right mental to any innocent passerby who happened to get a whiff of our conversations. (For example, we would call cats "land otters", and we'd call cars "elephants"- if we heard a loud car/truck, we'd say "Wow that elephant is obnoxious. -Jade wrote that)


9.) You love each other so fucking much.


People are naturally pretty close to their family members. Both Jade and I were raised in pretty bad families, so neither of us got as much of that family bonding as we should have. I have so much trouble expressing emotions and warming up to people, and at first I couldn't even say "thank you" to Jade when she complimented my hair during our first meeting. I just smiled. And yet we still took to each other almost over night. By the next day we were already cuddling on the couch while watching stupid videos on youtube, and we just sort of fused together at the hip. We can't go a day without each other. I honestly don't know what to do when she misses a day of school or when she's out somewhere without me. This summer I'm going away to stay with my mother, and we're both convinced that we'll just turn into lumps of sadness and loneliness. We even turn to each other to tell a lame joke before we realize the other person is in another room. Jade is a huge jerk who some times gives me homicidal thoughts, but I couldn't live without her now that we've been together so long.



10.) You hate each other so fucking much.


With a bff there can be some hidden animosity burried down deep when your pal Becky steals your man, or when Julia steals your big idea. However, with a best family member friendship, you end up hating each other so much for no real reason. I see way too much of myself in Jade, and oddly enough that makes me want to punch her in the face half of the time (and I'm pretty sure that she feels the exact same way as I do; good thing we're both too wimpy to start a fist fight!) We get the urges to just hit each other with things or piss the other off some times. We even stoop as low as to complain abut each other to our friends. But at the end of the day we get into bed (the same queen sized one, since my uncle/her step-dad is too cheap to get us two small ones), we hug it out, and then we hate each other less until the middle of the next day when we start the wars all over again.



Our closeness may be strange to *most* people, but we wouldn't have it any other way.



(Aw Lex, I love you. -Jade)




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