A majority of us wish to have that all encompassing relationship. One in which they support us in everything we do and we support them. We crave these relationships because they are abnormal, they are not seasonal compared to others that will simply wither away.
Many times I notice others seeking some sort of validation as to why they are simply not holding a relationship. They wonder why, how and when or even if going wrong was all part of their act. Feeling as though they are not worthy of such a relationship or simply falsifying the reality they live in to justify a means to an end in such a circumstance.
Well if things are not going as planned, as we unfold the inner workings of a new friendship we immediately curl away from it. Almost leaving that bond to be disintegrated. What nearly all of my generation does not realize, is that while its all good….to bounce around from one relationship to the next; a relationship that pushes you to do better, one that is nurtured and grown is the one that will push you further and harder than you have gone, but it is worth it.
A false friendship is of course an illusion of a bond existing between two people. You can act and pretend to feel like you two are so called “BFF’s” (best friends forever) but that phrase in itself cannot be true let alone have much meaning with the emphasis, the younger generation puts on it. Automatically meeting someone and within the first few days they become BFF’s, is not uncommon and does not induce a true friendship.
Now you may ask me or even yourself at this point, what is a true friendship? Well of course a personal view of friendship will always differ to the next person however here is one of the basic guidelines I have seen, sorely needed now. This one thing can be summed up in a simple word in fact and that word is nurturing. To raise a child you must nurture him, to teach a dog to attack on command or even fetch is to nurture him. To put into context what nurturing is by example it is to build something up over time, much like if you garden, you come across a dying plant you water it you give it sunlight, you fertilize and make sure it is in a good place. Friendships are the exact same way.
People now all expect the other to come through, when in reality it is two sides never coming through…and the friendship fades. We sit and ponder if they want to hang out, we get worried they will get bored of us and simply run away, however you are in fact killing the friendship with neglect to satisfy some misplaced sense of need. This is where people fail, they simply give up, waste a fruitful endeavor with a similar minded person by doing nothing. So I offer this advice to others…simply do instead of do not and see what happens.
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