What To Expect When Dating A Guy With Kids

[FantasticDay]

Relationships are never easy, it requires a lot of work, not only one person, but it goes both ways. If either of you stop working on it, it never work out.

What if you are in a special relationship? Like a relationship with a guy that has kids. Yes, it makes it tougher. Here I want to share some important expectations when you are in such a special relationship. Those are all my own experiences. Everyone is different, but I just want to share :)

1. Every scheduled date is subjected to change. Or it will be a happy family day.

Don't get too disappointed if this happened. Cannot take it? Quit the relationship right now, because it will just happen again and again. You need to know his kids are his kids. They are very important to him. Well, if a dad does not take care of his kids, it would be really scary too. Right? Feel better?

2. He is facing financial stress

Do you feel like he is frugal while comparing with your ex? People say no comparing, but BS, we all compare. But know that he is different. He has to work hard to feed his kids. He stops working he feels more stressed. So he may be busy at work, better than busy with other girls right?

3. He will have a constant connection with his ex or ex wife, the kids mom

You have the right to understand why he got a divorce with his ex. Because it tells you, he is probably emotionally connect to his ex or not. So when he actually divorced is important too. Don't get jealous when you find out he still connect with his ex, if its just for the kids or the custody issues. You need to accept this connection will be long term as long as the kids are still kids. And it probably will not just stop because, well she is still their mom. Trust your boyfriend.

4. He may not want another kid with you.

This is very important. And this needs to be open with him BEFORE you start to date him. Since after a period of time of dating, girls tend to change their bottom line due to the emotional attachment. If he doesn't want kids with you, are you okay with it? How about your family? Are your parents fine with that? And understanding the reason he doesn't want a kid with you is important too.

5. Social and family support

I am personally an Asian, have a very traditional parents and relatives. Have tons of taboos that they want to follow. I can tell it is a war between the family and us. You need to be ready that you may hear rumors all around the society or the family. You will suffer stresses. Are you ready to accept the truth that your family may not be supportive? Then what should you do with it?

6. Responsibilities

You have a plan marrying him and have your own kids with him? You need to understand you have the responsibilities to take care of the kids ever after, even though they are not your biological kids. You need to be fair to both of your step kids and your own kids. When the kids grow up, they may develope a feeling that you stole their dad, how do you deal with it? And, are you ready to really be settle down? Can you accept the sudden life change with kids. Which means, you won't have that road trip during the weekends all of a sudden. You wake up with kids and not your boyfriend.

Sounds like a lot to think of? Haha, still so many things running in my mind. Being with a guy with kids is a very special experience. You will learn a lot during the relationship. You need to be completely mature in the relationship like this, since you are not dealing with a guy, but all kids. Know your role, know your boyfriend's role.

Love him and also his kids.

Be true to yourself, you definitely knows he loves you or not.

Hope you all have a successful relationship:)

Good luck everyone.

[meesh1220]

I dated a guy with a young daughter. He introduced me to her pretty early on in the relationship. We bonded immediately. When we broke up after about 4 months, I had a really hard time because I missed her more than him. I thought about her and how she handled me not being there anymore. Dating a single father can be good, but it can also be not so good. I wish he would have waited to introduce us until we were more established, but even then, it could have gone either way.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Of course with any parent is difficult, there will be a lot of crossover in your take and many a few in isolation for fathers/mothers. Splendid take, so upon entering any relation, have a think about it but maybe think a little harder when entering a relationship with a parent.

[FantasticDay]

Yes and I am still learning..:)

[Brokenheartedx]

It's easier said than done... my dad had no problem walkin out on me and my sisters to take up with a woman and her kid never bothering with us... I can't blame the woman for that but I blame him for it totally... men don't always love their kids. Some will turn their backs completely on their offspring without a glance back... a lot of men rush into relationships and don't think of the consequences leaving a mum a single one... so when they have to watch their children at the weekend they shouldn't moan about it but they shouldn't line a replacement mum up either... woman will take on role as partner to a man tho the kids she doesn't need to love them.,.

[FantasticDay]

Understand your point of view.. I guess there are so many different situations. Some are the women cheated, some are the men cheated or having other problems. I believe there are dads that truly love their kids and won't moan when taking care them..:) but I understand you.

[Jersey2]

If I was dating in my 20s I wouldn't touch a single parent.

[FantasticDay]

Totally understandable.. haha

[Dipsy]

Yeah.. Opinions can change a lot over 90+ years xD

[lumos]

And this is why I'm not at all interested in dating a single dad.

[FantasticDay]

Understandable..

[akanetuk]

This is true, and you have to show love to the kids.

[Psi_Unknown]

Those are great points in general, especially the ones about financial stress and rumors.

[Marinepilot]

This holds true with single mothers. In spades. IMI single mothers aren't worth the trouble and they are damaged and used. I won't drive a used car when there's
plenty of new models on the market. That aren't damaged.

[FantasticDay]

Everyone deserved to love and to be loved. :)

[Marinepilot]

That maybe. But not by me. Tried it theree times and I can't do it.

[Ruby355]

This is what I've learned as well.

[ManOnFire]

I think the same thing goes on with women who have kids.

[FantasticDay]

Next take :: What to expect to date with a woman with kids.. haha :)

[kavyareddy2]

Sorry this is not for me. I couldn't love someone else kids.

[ikissedtheskyonce]

I can not date a guy with kids nope
Nada

[FantasticDay]

Fully understand, haha its tough. I once said that I will never date with guy with kids,. never date with guy who is different ethnic, never date with guy will different religion. Well no im with a guy with kids, different ethnic and religion. Haha, thing just happened like this way..

[ikissedtheskyonce]

Lol well I never said I never will but I definitely do not do that

[kitty71]

didn't we cover this article already here on GaG?

[FantasticDay]

Didn't know this been covered on GAG, and i guess this has been covered in everywhere, haha, just wanted to share my thoughts

[kitty71]

There was a pretty similar article posted her like yesterday about the same issue that is why I brought it up.

[Anonymous]

Eww, kids are gross. I don't like how they claw their monster hands out of a woman's vagina.

[FantasticDay]

Mind your words, and be respectful. Rmb once you were a kid who was that monster you mentioned.

[Opinion Owner]

I know I was a monster. Which is why I hate kids so much.

[Sunflower19]

I wouldn't date a guy with kids. Ever.

[Lukapum]

Nice take

[Anonymous]

a lot of problem