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Let me start off saying I'm pro-choice. I don't think others should have any influence over another person's body. Having a child is a huge responsibility that many women aren't prepared to undertake. The final decision on whether or not a woman has an abortion should be hers and hers alone.

However, I don't think it's fair to force men to do exactly what we're trying to avoid doing with women. Just as men shouldn't be able to force women to undertake such a massive and life-changing opportunity, women should not be able to do the same to men. Financial abortion would allow men to opt out of any responsibility towards the child before he/she is born.

To those who are disapprovingly shaking their heads saying "Men do have a choice, they can wrap up or just not have sex" or other similar responses first ask yourself whether it'd be appropriate to say the same to women regarding abortion; is it fair to ban abortion and then say "Women do have a choice, they can either take the pill or keep their leg's closed"?

Another common response is "It's not equal because the child is alive, it needs to be supported". One way of looking at this is thinking of the unwilling father as a sperm donor, is it fair to insist that sperm donors pay support even though the mother took full responsibility in birthing the child knowing the father is unwilling? This situation is no different. If a woman wishes to become a mother it's not fair to push responsibility on the father just as it's not fair vice-versa.

There would be criteria that would have to be met before a man could financially abort. These include but are not limited to:

-Only being able to financially abort in the same time frame a woman can abort so she can make a decision knowing if the child will be supported.

-If she were to abort, the man would be required to pay half the cost of the abortion.

I'l like to write more but am limited by the word count so please ask questions.

So I turned 18 fairly resonantly and never had a real relationship even though I really wanted one for SO SO LONG. I’m shy and introverted though and only have a few close friends and that’s because of social anxiety due to severe bullying back when I was younger and never fitting in with others at school. Anyway at this point I’d give absolutely anything just to have a pretty girl to wrap her in my arms, snuggle with, talk to about my day, kiss her, have an intercourse with her (if she’s comfortable with it of course) etc. People say I have so much love and empathy in my heart waiting to be passed on to others but at the present moment only people I can think of giving it to are pretty girls as they are my #1 Priority and I’d do anything I can to make a girl feel loved but if I find her and the intensity is released on only focusing on girls then yes I’ll give it to other people too. The thought of so many other people YOUNGER than me being able to go a lot farther in terms of being sexually active and stuff makes me so depressed, feel so low and want to self harm. Sometimes I think of giving myself a 3rd degree burn (please don’t judge) because I feel an urge too. Haven’t gone that far yet and yes I know I’ll need skin graphs if I do it. (Not only dating I also have a couple bad phobias too and yes I have been seeing a therapist).

Anyway bottom line is that I wanted to ask if it was normal for someone my age in my position (never having a girlfriend once and really wanting one) to be so girl crazy where all he ever thinks of is wrapping a girl in his arms, will do absolutely anything for one and gets so depressed thinking of others having it especially those who don’t deserve it. Ex. Those who just want sex.

RACIST: I am not sexually attracted to any race besides my own.
(They can look good don't get me wrong. But I'm not sexually attracted to them. I'm just not.)

TRANSIST: I do not think you can change your biologcal sex.
(If you are a man and think you are a lady I will not treat you like a lady. And vise versa. I cannot justify doing that. But I will still be nice of course.)

SEXIST: I can't make girl friends.
(Seriously I can't be friends with girls. I have never been able to. Its weird I just am not comfortable being close to them unless it is romantic or family based. I only have three friends anyhow so maybe I'm just not friendly. But girls specifically I've never been able to be friends with. I'm not sure why.)

So is this normal guy behavior? Am I some kind of "-ist" or normal do you think? Or just weird in a different way (please explain)?