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When I ask this question, I hope I don’t come across as a total asshole

My parents, my gamer friend and the last guy I “dated” have all had success with dating apps. My parents are older and heavier than me, my dad tends to attract good looking women. My mom met her long term partner on a dating app and says that if she was single, she probably wouldn’t have an issue using them. Quote, she says it’s because she isn’t worried with making the first move to approach guys. I told her that I did message first here and there but still didn’t help the situation.

My gamer friend is older than me but says that he thinks a lot of people on dating apps are looking for something long term. I don’t find him good looking but he is friendly and confident (maybe a bit on the conceited side). My “ex” is not attractive but he has a good sense of humor and is friendly too.

I’m reserved but I don’t think that makes a difference, a lot of quiet people have found their match. I know I’m not beautiful but I know I’m better looking than all the people I just mentioned and still fail with finding the right one. What’s the issue here?

So this guy just messaged me after how many months since we last spoke. He’s an old friend/old coworker like 6months ago. We went one date but he told me he only sees me as just a friend and told me to go for his friend instead.

Anyways, fast forward to now, he recently messaged me out of nowhere to catch up. At first I was just going to ignore but my curiosity got the better of me. Anyways after awhile he asked me “can I ask you a question?” I responded kind of late and said “sorry what’s up? You okay?” He didn’t respond so I messaged the next day and asked “So what is it?” He still hasn’t responded and it’s been 2 days now.

Should I just call him and find out what he wants from me or should I just move on and forget about him? Please help I don’t know what to do. It’s driving me crazy that I don’t know what question he wants to ask me but at the same time I’m just trying to forget about it.