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Ask guys what they understand about girls and relationships and most of them will eventually say that girls want their boyfriend to be their best friend. We understand that. You want your boyfriend to be closer than anyone else, to be your confidante, to be supportive and caring, to always be there for you. Yeah, we get that. And actually. . . many guys want the same thing in a girlfriend.

So, when your best male friend indicates that he is attracted to you, why do you automatically go to that instinctive, sub-cortical, knee jerk reaction: "But I don't want to take a chance on losing our friendship!" Do you know how lame that sounds to guys? Do you know how STUPID that sounds? And it actually makes some of us angry just to hear those lame words!

How often do you actually have a relationship in which your partner DOES become your best friend? If you feel some physical attraction to your male best friend, wouldn't that give you the best possibility of finding that boyfriend/best friend combination?

Or, is this "But I don't want to take a chance on losing our friendship!" line just a pathetic way of avoiding telling us that you aren't attracted and the idea of actually kissing us makes you want to vomit?

OK, here it goes.

I matched with a girl on Tinder a while ago. She seemed like a normal, down to earth girl, we had a few things in common. I wouldn't say I was in love with her personality, or it was 100% match - not by a long shot. But I saw potential.

This was the picture she submitted to Tinder:

After talking a while, we decided to exchange facebook accounts.
When I looked at her profile, turned out she looks more like this:

Now, I am not exactly the most handsome guy around. But for one, I feel deceived. The picture she submitted to Tinder looks literally nothing like her. Which I guess I could have expected... But I did not.
And I really want to avoid sounding like an asshole, but let's just say I don't find her in the least bit attractive. I don't want to criticize her appearance, because I already feel horrible about the situation, but you get the drift.
And I will be honest, appearance and physical attraction IS relevant to me. If this was a one night stand, maybe. But she is looking for a long term relationship, and I don't want that with her. There's a zero percent chance of this working out.

The problem is that I foolishly agreed to a date at a non-specified time on the weekend. I could probably tell her some bullshit about not being able to make it, but that doesn't solve the issue, just postpones it.

Right now I see three options: Either I
-tell her as it is that this is not going to work out and that I am not attracted to her
-lie that I have something going on with someone else
-or ghost her.

I know probably the best course of action is to just tell her. But frankly, it sucks, and I am probably looking for some encouragement, or understanding. I am not experienced with these kinds of situations, this is pretty new to me.

So what would you guys do?

For the record, I am asking this anonymously because I don't like talking about my private life with people knowing who I am.