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We met by him adding me on Facebook - we had friends in common that implied a horse rinding background. We got talking, and we just got on really well, and he was open and honest with me and asked me out on a first date.

We met up, we talked about everything from his previous relationships and marriage, to his addictions and time in prison. He talked about his career and his friends, about future plans over the next few years and joking about popping the question. I teased him by slightly pulling down my top so he could see my cleavage and his eyes widened and locked focus on them and he stood up to get a coffee and said "someone's pleased to meet you" and pointed to the outline in his jeans lol. We were at the pub for about 5 and a half/6 hours, and then he came back to mine. Accidentally met my dad and brother (thought they would be in bed!) and he stayed over at mine. He said "if it's okay, I don't want to do anything. I want to go slow and get it right, I have a history of rushing into things". (The insecure crazy female in me wonders if this was a nice way to say eww) We didn't kiss or have sex, we just cuddled together. We were up until about 3am.
Come morning, we watched TV in bed together for a few hours and I took him home about lunchtime. We both have health conditions and he needed to get home to take medicine and he said he was going to get some sleep and message me later. He hugged me and said he had a good time and we were very mature and proud of us. I gave him a kiss on the lips goodbye. And I left him be to get some rest.

I messaged him this morning because he left his vape liquid here and did he want me to bring it over. He said no thanks, I feel better how are you? And it's back to silence.

Do any of you have and advice on how to act and any inklings on how he feels? We were both full of excitement and couldn't stop talking to each other before we met; he was abused by his past couple of relationships so I don't wanna be a crazy woman!

We had been dating for 2 years and we live together. We haven’t discussed about what we were comfortable with and what not until now. We were talking about something and this came up.

This all happened before we met. He made out with a hot colleague. They never had sex and it was only because his ex was causing drama. He and his colleague decided to remain only friends. They don’t really work in the same department. They would hang out for lunch all the time. She now has a boyfriend and she knows he’s now with me. We are all working from home so they obviously don’t see. However, every now and then she would message him. In fact, he messaged her few days ago.

I am truly not comfortable with it. Had sex or not, they obviously find each other attractive. They made out and I am not comfortable with it. He doesn’t necessarily agree but he understands my perspective. It was never discussed but I am not comfortable with my partner keeping contact with exes/people you dated in the past. He respects me. He doesn’t care about keeping in contact with her, and he thinks the right to do is to cut her off. He won’t respond to her messages anymore. When they do go back to the office, he will reject her invitation to lunches or drinks after work.

I had no idea of her existence until today. I’m kind of not okay with how he never told me about her earlier. If let’s say they were meeting up alone, and I later found out he has been hanging out with a hot colleague who he made out with?… that would be a big problem. My boyfriend admitted he’s not good at communicating, and not someone who is an open book. You have to dig and ask. He just thought it should be fine. It also doesn’t make feel great.