Do you think these message exchanges after 4 dates suggest he will only ever be a friend in her eyes?

[Anonymous]

Girl: “I have been thinking and I really really enjoy spending time with you but I think more as friends. How are feeling about it? I understand if you no longer want to meet tomorrow! I hope your week is going okay x”

Guy: “I’m glad you mentioned it actually - I was going to ask you how you felt. Tbh, I’d find it difficult to just be friends with someone who I find attractive and I find you attractive. I do find I have to get to know someone over a month or 2 before I can take things to a more intimate level though.
My weeks been good thanks. Hope yours is good as well. I’m still happy to meet you tomorrow but up to you - I understand if you’d rather just part ways based on what I’ve said. x”

girl: “Okay, I understand! Thank you for letting me know :) I think then it might be better not to meet tomorrow as it could become confusing, I am also getting quite worried about covid again so bad timing. Thank you for being so kind and understanding :)
I hope you have a lovely Christmas and New year x. (I will still transfer the money for the ticket) thank you for organising such lovely dates :) really enjoyed them all“

4 months later guy likes an instagram post by the girl. Girl then likes one of his holiday posts a week later. Couple of weeks later she posts a story of herself with her niece and he says “Very cute. Your niece?” She replies “Thanks :) yes my little niece.”

Yes it does - he’s forever a friend only

Not necessarily - it’s more ambiguous than that / the timing just wasn’t right - he might have a chance in future

Updates

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Just to add we were not friends before. I only know her from the 4 dates we went on and we met on a dating site

[Prezzi3]

She already answered your question explicitly. She wants to be friends only for now. Could that change , maybe. Could it not change, maybe too. Don’t wait for to change her mind, just do you. I’m proud of both of you for having an honest and mature conversation about the status of the relationship.

[Asker]

Was it because he never attempted to Kiss her and just treated her like a friend for 4 dates?

[Asker]

I mean could it be. Obviously only she knows the answer for sure.

[Prezzi3]

I don't know but she not feeling that romantic connection m. Maybe she scare to ruin y’all friendship or maybe she not attracted to you in that way.

[Asker]

But we’re not really friends. We’ve only been on 4 dates and I did not know her before that.

[Prezzi3]

If that’s the case then she really not into you that way. Move on.

[Asker]

I see. She must have seen the potential for it if she went on 4 dates. I wonder if there’s a way I can ask her for feedback for future reference.

[Prezzi3]

I think you should just take the L and move on silently. Like you said, it was four dates and you guys wasn’t together so she doesn’t owe you an explanation. If y’all was in a long term relationship and she suddenly ghosted you then yeah an explanation would be nice but that’s not the case. The explanation is she doesn’t see you in that way but that doesn’t mean your not attractive or a good person. One woman trash is another woman treasure.

[Asker]

I only ever get seen as a friend though.

[Asker]

And if it keeps happening, then the common denominator is me. And the only people who can tell me what I’m doing wrong are the people who have rejected me.

[Prezzi3]

If your the common denominator then focus on you for while. Build your self esteem. Build your finances. Build your resume. Build your emotional and mental development so you have a better understanding of who you are and what you want. Trust the right person who’ll come along. N if they don’t, at least you will be established.

[Asker]

But I’ve done all that. And have been doing that for years.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Only a friend, sorry.
She isn’t interested romantically.

[Asker]

Forever?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Probably.

[Asker]

Was it because he never attempted to Kiss her and just treated her like a friend for 4 dates?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Probably not. She probably just wasn’t really interested.
It’s hard to tell, I don’t know her reasonings.

[Asker]

If she went on 4 dates with him, She must have at least seen the potential for a romantic relationship?

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Again, I do not know. She said she enjoyed hanging out with you… That might be why she went in 4 dates with you.

[Asker]

She didn’t know the guy before going on those dates.

[Asker]

Also, I don’t think people go on dates with someone if they enjoy hanging out with someone but they’re not interested romantically. Most people would make that clear from the start.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Listen, I do not know. I was not in your position or hers, so I can’t give you the answer you really want.
All I know is that when someone says they are you as more of a friend, they are not interested. It does not matter what happened in the past, if they were interested or not… They aren’t interested now.

[Asker]

I disagree on the basis that knowing whether someone liked you in the past can provide feedback for future dates. But I appreciate the only way to obtain the answers is by asking her and that you would not know.

[Anonymous]

Run from this. You've been friend zoned.