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On the Myers–Briggs test, I usually score around the intj & infp region. That makes sense, so nothing was too surprising on that. But on the big 5 test, I've taken it multiple times, and every single time, I scored high in conscientiousness. Which was very surprising to hear for the first time. 🤔 Because hearing about the habits of people high in conscientiousness is what made me think that I was low in it.

But I'm an odd one when it comes to this & I think I know why. Two things stand out to me the most. It's my high percentage of negative emotion (specifically anxiety) and my high percentage of introversion. If I wasn't high in neuroticism and so low in extraversion, I'd likely be more confident in my abilities and I'd likely have a more go-getter/productivity-driven aim towards the world. But since I don't, it affects my motivations & willpower.

So, in other words, I'm the civilized, competitive, & somewhat creative yet practical shy guy that isn't very people-oriented. I mainly prefer to be alone which limits my options. And my house is always organized even when I'm depressed (can't say the same for my room/office). 😂 I'll probably even have a workout schedule going or be intensely working on some creative endeavor. And even though I don't willingly ask for change, I'm moderately open to new experiences, so it's easier for me to cope with the changes if need be.

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I think it's pretty common knowledge that most girls dislike indirectness and indecisiveness. I feel like most guys feel the same way but I just want to take a poll to see how accurate this is.

Indirectness/indecisive examples:

You want the air conditioner off but instead of stating that, you say, "It's freezing."

You're hungry. Instead of stating that you want to eat, you ask, "Are you hungry?" or "Did you eat?"

You're attracted to someone at a bar but instead of stating that, you say, "Your drink looks cool. What drink is that?"

Please be honest. I believe that if you have been indecisive or indirect, acknowledging is the first step to change this. Of course, if people don't think it's a bad habit or you really just don't care about other people, then you can do as you wish.