How To Keep Your 2022 New Years Resolution When It Gets Hard?

Anonymous

It's that time of year where a lot of us start selecting annual goals. It can be inspiring and fun to imagine where you could be by at the end of 2022. Maybe you'll release that amount of weight you want off? Maybe you'll earn 7 figures this year? Maybe you'll finally quit smoking or that bad habit you have?

Unfortunately, for most of us we never complete our New Years Resolution/goal and worse we don't even get close...

I'm not here to tell you how to increase your sales, although, I have a pretty good idea on something you aren't doing that would help you immensely; but I'm not here for that.

I am here for the people who quit when the going gets tough. The girl or guy who is tired of being the "fat one"

The girl or guy who just wants to change but always quits. The underdog. The ones in the sewer.

I am here to offer you the needed stimuli and mindset change and if you take and apply it; it will give you a much better chance at getting over the quitting mind.


Fat or not we can all relate
Fat or not we can all relate

First, it is okay to call yourself fat, lazy, or a drunk; whatever you are you must call it out. Stop hiding from it so you can fix it. It may not be completely your fault. You might have adopted bad habits because your parents didn't know any better. You might have been abused or bullied and used it to cope. Whatever the case these things are now all yours to own... Nobody is coming to save you. Nobody is coming back to save you. I'm sorry. It's all on you. Life is a cold and nasty place sometimes... Nobody hits as hard as life... But it's not about how hard you hit; it's about how hard you can get hit and despite everything telling you to stay down(even your own brain) you get up...You get up every single day of your life and face these things; because they're now yours to own. That's how winning is done. When life damn near knocks you out, get up and say, "Can't hurt me" Keep moving forward.

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[How do you do that?] How do you get up and keep going even when you're suffering? How do you keep working out and eating appropriately consistently? It is simple.

You have to suffer; I'm sorry. You're going to have to suffer but it will get easier eventually.


If you want to make a drastic change, you are going to have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Discomfort is now you're best friend because comfort and pleasure got you into this mess to begin with. It got you to a place of feeling worthless, being overweight, lying to yourself, hiding from the world, being lazy, being less than what you were suppose to be.

Sometimes I think, what if there is some guy or girl that comes at your death bed right before you die to tell you how you did. He comes to tell you that you were suppose to be this amazing person. Fit and beautiful, smart, you were suppose to change the world. You were suppose to have an amazing marriage and kids. All these things. You were supposed to... And what terrifies me to the core are these words:

"This is the life you were supposed to live... but you didn't try; so this is the life you got."


I'm sorry it's not easy; but it will make it so worth it. You see comfort and discomfort are not exempt for the Law of Polarity. There are 2 sides to every coin. Yes, comfort is good but too much comfort gets you into a place that isn't so good. Many people fail to realize this because mediocrity feels so fucking good; so comfortable. Mediocrity is so IN. Same with discomfort. Discomfort can be bad of course but it can also be good. When you are growing it usually is uncomfortable. In order to grow you must suffer. Habits are not easily changed and created unless you have some emotion that is through the roof fueling it. Most of the time that is not the case. When you get hit in the mouth, how do you keep going?
1. You have to know why you are doing this is the first place? Why do you want to achieve your goal?
Ex. I can't in a world where I can't be the person I wish to be

You have to find a strong reason that gets you back up to face the suck.

2. You have to realize discomfort is not your enemy. This is the mindset change. You now realize discomfort is how you're going to change. When you lift weights you seek failure because it is the horse that leads you to growth. Like I said, the Law of Polarity. Good is in everything... Stop running from discomfort and start running toward it and away from comfort. Seek discomfort because it is the method you are using to change and get out of the mess you find yourself in. It is trying to help you. Seek failure because it is how you will grow.
There's no growth over there in that comfort zone. It might as well be your enemy at this point. Get outside the box and fight.

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[The Battle:]

We often think the battle is in doing the things we don't want to do. Now that you have a mindset change and you realize discomfort is your best friend, the real battle begins.

The real battle is in the hesitation. The period of time when you know you should do it but you hesitate. Your mind starts trying to pull you into these different pockets and control you. It pumps uncomfortable emotions into your system and starts telling you: "Tomorrow" "You can't do this" "Let's just do this other thing first"
Distraction, delay, dissuasion; it starts throwing all this different shit at you. It is a master.
And guess what it will say tomorrow?

DO NOT HESITATE... Period.

When you hesitate you are battling with your paradigm. It is a ruthless enemy and who will show you no mercy; you must do the same. The longer you battle with it the stronger it becomes and the weaker you become. It is your own brain. It has the technical advantage over you at all times. It knows everything about you. It knows your fears and traumas and where you don't want to go.
It wants to protect you but it wants to protect you so much it doesn't allow for growth. It doesn't want to waste energy on new things. It takes more brain energy to do things that are not habitual. That is why 95% of our behavior is habitual. It controls all. The only hope you have is to attack the activity. You cannot stay in the hesitation. The paradigm will fuck you up 99% of the time.

P.S: Action is more important than the soundness of your plan. You can always change the plan.
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[How to not hesitate?]

After you read this, you're going to have to make a decision. I will now define decision so you clearly under what I am saying it is you have to do.

"ACCURATE analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure, disclosed the fact that LACK OF DECISION was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of FAILURE. This is no mere statement of a theory— it is a fact. PROCRASTINATION, the opposite of DECISION, is a common enemy which practically every man must conquer. You will have an opportunity to test your capacity to reach quick and definite DECISIONS when you finish reading this book, and are ready to begin putting into ACTION the principles which it describes. Analysis of several hundred people who had accumulated fortunes well beyond the million dollar mark, disclosed the fact that every one of them had the habit of REACHING DECISIONS PROMPTLY, and of changing these decisions SLOWLY, if, and when they were changed. People who fail to accumulate money, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions, IF AT ALL, very slowly, and of changing these decisions quickly and often...

One of Henry Ford's most outstanding qualities is his habit of reaching decisions quickly and definitely, and changing them slowly. This quality is so pronounced in Mr. Ford, that it has given him the reputation of being obstinate. It was this quality which prompted Mr. Ford to continue to manufacture his famous Model "T" (the world's ugliest car), when all of his advisors, and many of the purchasers of the car, were urging him to change it. Perhaps, Mr. Ford delayed too long in making the change, but the other side of the story is, that Mr. Ford's firmness of decision yielded a huge fortune, before the change in model became necessary. There is but little doubt that Mr. Ford's habit of definiteness of decision assumes the proportion of obstinacy, but this quality is preferable to slowness in reaching decisions and quickness in changing them."

- So what is a decision as defined here?

A decision is a choice that is definite, prompt, and firm(never changed and if change, changed very slowly)

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You need to make a decision as defined above and you need to have a strong reason for this decision like we talked about earlier. That way, when it is time to hesitate you do not need to think because you have already have thought and made a firm decision that is irrevocable.

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Good-bye (See you outside the box)


I want you to remember that the thing you will cherish in the end is the journey; the growth. Growth makes life long. That's why childhood seems so long. Discomfort slows time.
Everyday you may not overcome; but get up anyway and face it. That is what matters most.
Frequently ask yourself how am I going to feel after 30 days, 60 days, 100 days of getting up and facing these things in front of me. How are you going to feel at the end of this? How are you gonna feel half way through this? How are you gonna feel two months in? Visualize yourself overcoming and doing the things you need to do. There is neural science behind what I am saying.

I want you to also know, it isn't supposed to look like a rose garden. A construction site doesn't look ready made. It's gonna look like a sewer. It's gonna look ugly; but every time you face and overcome yourself, you will feel good about yourself. Self respect, esteem, worth. At the end of this you will know that you are much stronger than you every thought. But just remember it isn't supposed to be pretty; Luckily discomfort is your new best friend...

How To Keep Your 2022 New Years Resolution When It Gets Hard?
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