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0m/36f have been together twelve years, married ten. Have four kids. Both have decent jobs, house paid for.

So the husband resents the wife, calls her “loose” multiple times during arguments, blamed her for loosing contact with his family. doesn’t pay attention to the wife, help with the kids, wasn’t going to bed with his wife for months. Had an argument and she gave him one last chance to get his stuff straight. Also told him during this time she was going to get her financials squared away so she can leave at anytime.

The wife felt like she was just existing, unattractive, unwanted for about two years. She started selling “used garments” online for attention. Ended up having an emotional affair that she met on the website for almost three months. She told this other guy she’s falling for him making plans for their future and promised she’d go with him when her marriage ends. Also mentioned she’s pretty sure her husband won’t change. Mentioned swinging to her husband, and said her marriage is indifferent if it ends. Promised the guy when the marriage ends she’ll go to him.

Husband found the correspondence with the other guy told her to stop. She went no contact with the guy for about 27 days and wrote him saying she’s thinking about him, but she can’t open up the door to him or a relationship right now, and and wished him a happy birthday.

So is this marriage doomed? Will she stick it out? Odds she’ll leave?

40m/36f have been together twelve years, married ten. Have four kids. Both have decent jobs, house paid for.

So the husband resents the wife, calls her “loose” multiple times during arguments, blamed her for loosing contact with his family. doesn’t pay attention to the wife, help with the kids, wasn’t going to bed with his wife for months. Had an argument and she gave him one last chance to get his stuff straight. Also told him during this time she was going to get her financials squared away so she can leave at anytime.

The wife felt like she was just existing, unattractive, unwanted for about two years. She started selling “used garments” online for attention. Ended up having an emotional affair that she met on the website for almost three months. She told this other guy she’s falling for him making plans for their future and promised she’d go with him when her marriage ends. Also mentioned she’s pretty sure her husband won’t change. Mentioned swinging to her husband, and said her marriage is indifferent if it ends.

Husband found the correspondence with the other guy told her to stop. She went no contact with the guy for about 27 days and wrote him saying she’s thinking about him, but she can’t open up the door to him or a relationship right now.

So is this marriage doomed? Will she stick it out? Odds she’ll leave?

There are a few times out of curiosity I’ve approached heavier girls and even though they were traditionally not very pretty there was something intangible about them I found attractive.

Surprisingly these girls were actually extremely bitchy when I gave them keen but innocent attention. The attention wasn’t sexual but of intense curiosity that might become sexual.

Anyway they got bizarre deluded sense of pride that they just had to play “hard to get”. Yet I would have no problem walking the second I felt a shit test happening. Admittedly attractive women are much more likely to get away with playing games with me (but I know where to draw the line). But it’s like a unattractive woman thinks that acting bitchy somehow puts her on par with the very pretty girls she is so jealous of.

I remember years ago I went to get a few drinks with a girl I didn’t find attractive at all. I’m not sure how it started by she ended up going mega bitch and saying something really nasty.

Then next day she messaged me and apologize profusely. She begged me for a second chance. I told her I felt better she apologized but I wasn’t interested in hanging out again. She sadly wished me best of luck and I did likewise.

But anyway why do these unattractive often self sabotage the few rare opportunities they do have to date a decent looking guy who gave them attention? Does the feeling of deluded pride of being “able to turn someone down because I think I am hot and have options” more satisfying then actually having a real tangible rare opportunity with someone?

I know no fat guy would turn down a woman who is a 7 or above. But why would a BBW woman turn down the same vice versa?

I hate to say it but as man I usually have my mind made up within 30 seconds of meeting a woman of how physically attracted I am to her.

Emotional attraction does still weigh heavily into it though. She can be hot af but if I can’t stand her personality and/or she’s has no genuine interest in me I can move on. I can also move on a lot faster nowadays vs. when I was younger.

But the issue is often come across women I find that are 5’s or 6’s. They aren’t repugnant or anything but I don’t feel any butterfly’s in my stomach either. More often than not they really like me because while I am nice to them I also don’t bend over backwards for them either. I’m just as happy to be there or not be there. Either way is fine. So it’s easy to be myself.

But as a man I find that the ugly truth is I have never found myself growing in attraction for average looking women despite some of them having excellent personalities. I really have tried to “check myself” on this. Tell myself to look deeper. Tell myself to “grow up”. Feel guilty af about it.

But if tried to force myself to date and commit to average looking yet great personality girls in the past. It always ends in disaster. I quickly lose interest in sex and find myself having less patience about their problems. And I know that’s not fair at all.

Is it possible for a man to slowly fall in love with a woman he isn’t attracted to?

I am asking this because I have an opportunity to get married to an average looking girl who is outstanding in all other ways. She’s a very hard worker, respectful, excellent personality, moderate conservative, has no vices, etc. She’s also younger (27) yet mature and independent.

Yet she has a rather unattractive face and I feel Iike complete shit saying that. She’s was born with that those facial features and has zero control over them. I keep kicking myself not to judge that but it’s hard.

I did the female version. Now the male version. Although Philadelphia is the Ugliest (major) City in America, whether that be for males or females, male celebrities from this toilet bowl of a town, tend to be less ugly than their female counterpart. Hell, one might even say they are all "average looking" (whatever that means).

I said before that Philadelphia is like the opposite of Los Angeles, except both are full of sh*tty awful people (especially Hollywood and Center City), both are hyper liberal/Democrat, and while LA is phony, Philly is authentic, but they're both still extremely rude.

Since Philadelphia is an ugly, ugly, UGLY urban hellhole of grime and wokeness, I'd like to know which of the most attractive male celebrities from there, would you consider the best looking?