Why are attractive men such “man whores” (for lack of a better word)?

[Anonymous]

I've noticed most highly attractive women are often single, talking to one to no men, don’t hang around a bunch of men, or just aren’t super flirty with everyone.

On the other hand I’ve noticed that the majority of decently attractive men and up will surround themselves with girls, text 6-7 different ones at the same time, always dating someone new, or they are constantly flirting with women left and right.

Personally I’ve found myself disinterested and avoidant of even very attractive funny sociable men because they seem to just go around with every woman they can find!

I’ve also seen it happen with guys who go from being unattractive to attractive, suddenly they’re very cocky, flirting, always out with groups of women, constantly having one night stands and sleeping around while I know many 10/10 women who are celibate by choice or very selective despite having men who find them attractive.

broad generalization I know, but it’s a common trend from what I’ve seen. What’s your take on it?

[inhua]

like others have said, attractive men have options because women keep throwing themselves at these "man whores"

more sexual partners for a man benefits him due to the principle of pre-selection where for a man to get sex he has to have some sort of value whether it be financial, social and in a "man whore's" case, genetic value and it's much harder for men to get laid. if women had any self-worth, they would analyze this as a man who only uses women for sex but logic isn't the natural default for women, it's emotion i. e. uncontrollable lust for a hot guy. some women are able to analyze this but most can not thus an attractive man will continue to be "man whore". more sexual partners don't actually benefit women, it does the opposite due to the paternity issue. when it comes to sex, a dude won't care about a woman's sexual partners but when it comes to relationships and showing commitment and investment into a worthy, it's gonna matter then.

here's a recent interview from Dr Jordan Peterson I've found that pretty much sums up what I'm explaining. skip to the 18 minute and it ends at the 20:40 minute mark. you don't have to agree with everything he says but that 2 minutes and 40 seconds explains a lot as to why we are in this predicament in society as we are in today.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gfGOSpg9Pds

and as far as attractive women being single is concerned, I don't know which women you're talking about but the one's I've seen are always surrounded by guys. mainly orbiters.

[MCheetah]

Because they can be, and women today are so shallow, they won't be with a man less than a 7. You can't be a shallow superficial person, then complain that the only men you're getting are f*ckboys. But of course, women still do it, despite rational common sense.

You CAN be with good men who ARE less than 7s in looks, don't have abs and toned bodies, and aren't six foot+. But what women are going to do that nowadays? That's crazy talk!

[Asker]

I get your point but having casual sex with women “under sevens” isn’t really a compliment. It’s basically just admitting men will fuck anything that moves. I’ll admit some women can be way too selective but I’ll also say men are way to free about fucking anything posible.

[MCheetah]

No, not really. I never brought up sex whatsoever. I'm talking about relationships and you assumed something else entirely.

Either way, women will always excuse their laundry list of demands by saying "I have standards." I mean, everyone has standards, but women have more UNREALISTIC standards than anyone else. I look at it this way: If you yourself can't meet the same standards or female equivalent of what you're asking for, then your standards are unwarranted and you're just entitled. If you're asking for a successful man, you better be nearly as successful. If you're asking for a toned man with a six pack, you'd better also b a gym rat. If you're asking for a man who's 6'3", you'd better be at least 5'10".

[MCheetah]

... In regards to dating, I'm talking about.
You implied you want to date someone, but the men you keep getting don't want to date.

Sorry, I'm really multitasking right now and not that focused on GAG at the moment.

[Asker]

Well I mean I agree with your point mostly now but my original point was in reference to attractive men who sleep around vs the average attractive woman so you can see why I’d assume you were talking about sex. But I agree in relationships you shouldn’t have impossible standards, I don’t remember saying anything about myself, I just did I’m turned off my many highly attractive men because they seem to be so “friendly” with so many women. Although I don’t think high standards are bad unless it’s messing up your dating life. I’ve known some women who may not have the same positive attributes as their parters but always attract very high standard men and others who only seem too attractive guys who are ugly and treat them like shit.

[Asker]

Sorry for the long block of text didn’t realize until I replied

[MCheetah]

Attractive women sleep around almost as much as attractive men, do. But women just have a much lower sex drive than men do (and higher risks with sex), so don't want as much as most men want it. But I've rarely ever seen attractive women not sleep around, unless they think they're above all of the men around them.

Attractive men also tend to be honest and open and don't have to lie or play games to get laid, cause they have so many options. Only some unattractive end up playing games and lying to women like that, cause they have to.

[LittleSally]

Because they can + can't get pregnant and don't care about std's.

[Asker]

So in short they’re impulsive, lucky, and unsanitary.

[LittleSally]

Haha That's the gist of it, yes. :)

[FilmGuy93]

It’s just the difference in biological priorities; it’s definitely not a social engineering thing. Guys are biologically programmed to be desirable to as many women as possible, while women are programmed to use their desirability to select the best man possible

[DoctorSex]

That's an inaccurate assessment of the behaviour of attractive men and women. Women are often very sneaky with their sexual escapades.

Odds are you're venting about something. Sorry for what you're going through, hurt people hurt people. Try to figure out what's going on in your head that's giving you a certain outlook. There's probably a certain personality of male you're going for and you should probably ask yourself why that personality appeals to you. Just my 3 cents.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[HighValue]

I'm attractive and get hit on by women and I don't behave like that. However, I have noticed that many women often post provocative (slutty) pictures online for attention and flirt with many people, and that includes married women with kids.

I have also noticed that a large percentage of average looks women THINK they are highly attractive because of the attention they get from their slutty posts.

[jshm2]

You're either fucking small minded or, vapid and ignorant.

There is a big difference between being "sociable and flirtatious" and the philandering bum you seem to be stereotyping all "attractive men" as being.

You need to get your act together, kiddo.

[Berethor]

Because a man is like a key, a woman is like a lock, also because of female hypergamy.

[Asker]

Ya’ll need to stop comparing humans to literally objects. I’ll admit the hypergamy stuff makes sense but the whole men should sleep around because women like it is some bs men asume about women.

[Berethor]

Many woman would marry a player even know that he a player, not many man would marry a whore, so how is that BS? as for key and lock, it's just an analogy, an good analogy. :)

[Asker]

Most women are know actively avoid men who sleep around. Men think it’s attractive but it’s not really a thing women like, don’t know why you think you know women better than women themselves. I know many men who would marry whores by the way honestly it’s what a lot of them perfer.

[Anonymous]

Because generally most men want to fuck a lot of women. There’s so many hot women on the face of this earth. So when you have the looks to attract all these hot women it makes it even easier. Women tend to go for the top 20% of men on this earth, so you’re all competing for the same men which again makes it easier when pussy is just being thrown at him. A lot of women let a man treat them like shit but still come back for a number of reasons which just boost the dude’s ego more.

[Stickykuza]

You shouldn't judge everyone, I mean I'm not attractive at all, but I sit with 3 girls, and they are my friends... it's not like every guy is ther to fk, I can't be sure about other's, but I'm A-okay, so will ya mind dating me, lol🤣

[Truthatanycost]

You say all of that but if you were to find a way to honestly tally up each of their body count you would notice all of the men had lower ones by far...

[Asker]

Never met an attractive man with a higher body count than an equally attracted woman unless she was some big club girl or social media or something. I’m sure it he happens but the average attractive woman aside from the photoshopped brand marketing types you see online don’t seem to sleep around as much.

[Anonymous]

I'll answer that if you answer me why if a woman is ugly she usually a nice person while if she's attractive iusually she's not? My guess is. The answer to both questions can be found in the same spot. HUMAN NATURE

[Anonymous]

Most of the guys I know who are considered attractive by women are anything but man whores. In fact, most of them are married.

In 2022 this question coming from a woman is pretty ironic.

[Asker]

Funny you assume every woman in 2022 sleeps around. I’ve noticed that’s much more of a man thing.

[Opinion Owner]

Recent statistics show that women are having sex more than men, and on average women are sleeping with multiple partners more than men are, so what you have "noticed" is not consistent with what is actually happening.

[Opinion Owner]

There are more women having sex than men. That is an obvious indication that more women are sleeping with fewer men, meaning women on average have more sexual partners. It's simple math.

[Asker]

Hmm I don't know it doesn’t apply to my question though. I’m talking atarugue women and attractive men which I think screws with results almost similar to pretty girl syndrome. Average Jane might be approached 100 times a day and have a shit ton of sex while a very attractive woman might now have as much, while an average man may have very little sex but a highly attractive man is always doing another girl.

[Asker]

Might not* and attractive* typing fast left some errors :/

[Opinion Owner]

It's just an odd question given the facts. You seem to imply men are the ones exhibiting this behavior when it's actually women doing it more than men. But ok.

[FunkyMonkee]

Would you rather have ugly men?

[Asker]

Not sure what this means? I’m saying attractive men sleep around a lot and engage in more unfaithful behavior in comparison to attractive women (from what I’ve noticed), nowhere does this mention unattractive men. To me a man sleeping and longer sound with women 24/7 is very unattractive and I’ve found women women who feel similarly.

[FunkyMonkee]

A guy can't fuck around if women aren't attracted to him, right? Why do y''all only go after the attractive one ones that fuck around? There's a lot of us that might not be the prettiest apple on the tree but, at least we'd be very loyal and loving to you. From what I've been seeing for the past 30-some years, women PREFER guys that cheat and abuse them!

[Asker]

Plenty of ugly / unattractive men get hitched in the end usually to other conventionally unnattractive women. Men love to assume women just want dicks who abuse them when nobody looks for abuse it just happens , you most definitely wouldn’t say that to men who get abused so don’t say it to a whole gender. Women could say the same thing about men it’s all about point of view from a woman’s angle it looks like men are always hitched to mean bitches.

Honestly I have never met a woman that looked for men who were constantly sleeping around and cheat it’s just about who approaches. Most of the time the funny confident guy who approaches is gonna get the girl but most of those confident guys are cocky bastards with hidden intentions, seems like all these nice medium guys just need to approach more in an interesting manner. Almost all the woman I know would choose a charismatic 5 over a asshole 10 (or at least the 5 in the long run)

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, from what I've seen that IS all women want!! They all CLAIM they want someone like me but, when I'm standing right in front of them, they zero in on the asshole across the room and get heavily involved with him! Then, once he starts abusing her, guess who she comes to for a shoulder to cry on!! Me, her emotional tampon! The OBVIOUS answer to her problems for her to leave him!! Does she? NO!! Or, if she does, she goes right for the next asshole waiting in line to abuse her!! If she doesn't choose me, that's fine but, at LEAST choose someone that's gonna be NICE TO HER!! I'd MUCH rather see her happy with someone besides me than in fear!!
Okay but, how many men get abused compared to women? I know it happens but not very often!

[Asker]

I think your spelling less from a logical perspective at this point and more from a hurt perspective. I mean shit happens men have tossed me out and an option for full ass ugly women with shitty personalities but I don’t think all men want bitches.

Ever consider it’s the women you go after that like dicks, maybe you just like dumb ass women? Maybe you never showed yourself as a viable option as in actually asking the girl out while she’s single, maybe she wasn’t being abused and they just didn’t work out (which happens).

One thing I can say for sure though as a woman wis that woman do not seek assholes I’ve never met a women who’s stayed with man after she showed any disrespectful behavior to her. It may seems that way as a man who gets rejected a lot but impossible for you as a man to tell a woman (and every other omen who’s consistently said this) that women look for asshole.

Some people just have shitty taste and maybe your just attracted to those types of girls (which I find is pretty common with men)

[FunkyMonkee]

And, HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN ALONE? In 2 weeks, it'll be 27 years, for me! I've had my sites set on dozens of women over the decades and, so far, only got 3 and the first two only lasted a few months. Number 3 ended up cheating on me! Most of the ones I was going for always went after abusive assholes rather than to try me! When that happens more often than not, it becomes the norm!
Okay so, if women can, supposedly tell which men are good and which aren't, as I've heard other women claim, why is it EVERYONE ELSE can see that this guy or that is a flaming asshole but SHE can't see it, even when we TELL HER he's a known asshole? This ISN'T JUST from what I've seen, lots of other people have seen it, too!!
Well, apparently you haven't been around, much. Maybe when you get into your late 20's or 30's, you'll start to notice the pattern. My best friend moved here (about a 12 hour drive) from Conn. to be with a guy she met online. After we met, she'd tell me about all the sick, insane shit he'd say and do to her and I kept telling her to leave him!! Finally, about 2 years later, she FINALLY decided to leaver his skanky ass!! She was coming over to my place that day to write music with me and never showed up! He called her up, said more abusive shit to her and she ran hone to Conn. to think!! A week later, she went back to him and MARRIED HIM!! They had 2 kids over the next 2 years and both have mental issues like their dad!! He rots in jail right now because he also abused and molested the kids!! Had she listened to me, she might've found a much better guy!

[jayhams]

Because they have the options

[Asker]

Attractive women have options yet most don’t fuck every guy they see

[jayhams]

Well yeah evolution has made our biology so that women are nesters and men want to spread as much DNA as possible. It is advantageous for our species.

[Asker]

You realize humans are monotonous right, that whole men need to fuck every woman they see thing has been debunked.

[jayhams]

You put words in my mouth but your sentiment is incorrect

[Asker]

Monogamous*

[Asker]

About humans being monogamous? Because if you actually believe that bs then thank you for your opinion but I’m not gonna try to convince you otherwise. Too much energy on dumb shit.

[jayhams]

Likewise. Was just dropping my opinion on an opinion forum

[Anonymous]

Because women like it and allow it

[Asker]

90% of the women I know actively dislike men who are surrounded by women because it feels like competition and competing for a man is demeaning. Most would perfer someone obsessed with them and only them over a man whore. It’s just gross, how would even know if they really like you.