Why are men always so quick to assume a woman is a whore?

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Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

It's a self-protection mechanism. If a man dates a woman that's promiscuous, she will probably cheat on him and leave him when she's bored. That's what "whores" do.

A man who doesn't give a woman a chance to present herself and assumes that she is promiscuous probably has unresolved trauma from past experiences, ESPECIALLY if the woman in question had no "whore red flags". Ladies you won't like this one, but dressing overly revealing is definitely a " whore red flag" to someone that doesn't know you, even if you aren't. Emphasis on "doesn't know you". I don't think it's fair to expect everyone to give you an unbiased chance since it's a free world and people should have the right to refuse you/judge you, the same way you have the right to dress however you want. It's not pleasant, but it's the truth. When I say right I'm talking about legally by the way, not morally as morality is subjective.

What I think is another problem is how often people make fun of men for dealing with "whores" and also make fun of them when they don't deal with them. It's a tug-of-war between 2 different extremes. Either you're called a cuck for being with one, or getting "who hurt you?" comments suggesting you got cheated on/got your heart broken for refusing to be with one. The issue of female sexuality doesn't just affect the woman's social value, but also her partner whether anybody likes it or not. Men care about it because a) they want to ensure their paternity and b) they don't want to be called a cuck by other men (and women).

Ultimately like I said, I don't agree with the "guilty until proven innocent" approach, and I think anyone who thinks like that needs to heal. However, it's a self-protection mechanism usually fueled by past trauma, so the wrong move would be to pour gasoline into the bonfire.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

because so many women put on a fake front to appear sweet and innocent for men until men find out the harsh truth about them which in turn ruins the chances for other women

they've learnt the hard way that women will make rules for some men and break rules for other e. g. Jane makes John wait till marriage for sex while she hooks up with Josh until John officially dates her

no man wants to believe his woman is a whore but far too often women keep their past hidden from men while demanding men be upfront about their past

and thanks to social media, the sexual perversion of women are on full display going as far as to show sexually explicit content to young boys on gaming streams. whether right or not, those women are engaging in behaviors that makes men assume those women have sucked enough dick before graduated high school, at the very least if not college

these women are only the vocal ones, many of them hide a lot of dark secrets about themselves

now does that make all women whores? no it doesn't but men should have the right to be as cautious as they want just as women should have the right to be as cautious as they want with men who could be potential rapists or murderers even though most men are not rapists or murderers

the difference being rapists and murderers are small percentage of men. whores and sluts are a larger percentage of women therefore it makes more sense to assume such statistically

dating isn't like criminal law where innocent until proven guilty is the rule. it's guilty until proven innocent in the world of dating

SisterlyTwins · Accepted Answer

On ONE hand people are going to judge you by the way you look, what you say, what you do. And as much as you want to admit that you don't do that, you're still going to. If a girl often dresses provocatively and most pictures are just body shots, men are going to think that you're a whore. All you've shown and keep showing is your body. Men have nothing else to go off of because you've given them nothing else. Luckily this is an easy fix.

Then there is the double standard. No easy fix there, they're hard headed. If they fuck five women, they're heroes. But we are criminals for fucking five men. And I don't understand that. By agreeing to have sex with me, we both went at it just as fast. You're just as quick to have sex as me. There should be no difference here.

RainbowMarinade · Accepted Answer

It’s hilarious when a man will call a woman a whore because she rejected him.
My dude, all you're saying is, you’re so pathetic, you can’t even score with a whore.
I don’t think that the message you want to send, but it is the one you’re sending. 😂🤣

MisterWack · Answer

I don’t personally buy into women being whores / women being pure or whatever, I believe everyone is their own individual and their business is their own business if it doesn’t harm others. Simply looking off or wearing something that ‘turns me off’ is none of my business since it clearly makes her happy, continue living your lives & I’ll continue living mine. It is immature and childish for this particular type of men to be this judgmental (as a man myself).

Lliam · Answer

Most guys who assume women are whores treat women like whores. They fuck them and leave them and then call them whores for consenting to sex.

Some guys call all non-virgin women whores.

Some guys call women whores if they have libidos, like men, like sex, and are sexually active. But, as far as I'm concerned, women like that who have self-esteem, self-respect, and are choosy about her partners are the normal and healthy minded.

And even more promiscuous women aren't whores. They just revel sex and are into experimentation and self-indulgence. They may be sensualists or hedonists but not whores.

An actual whore is a person who engages in sex acts and especially sexual intercourse in exchange for pay : sex worker : prostitute.

It's funny how there are no epithets for guys who have lots of sexual partners. Men are often praised and envied for their conquests.

So words like whore and slut are chauvinistic hold overs from patriarchal times when men were free and women were property.

YevgenyMikhail · Answer

That is usually red pill guys that think that way. It's similar to white supremacists and racist people. I am a White guy and I think white supremacists are really stupid people. Race is really not everything I mean there are differences between races not all of it is genetic there are also a lot of environmental factors but the differences are meaningless they do not matter nobody cares except for really dumb people who have nothing better to do than all day but think about why they're failures because that's what it is. It's the same thing with the red pill it's a community of people who are victimizing themselves obviously, men have problems they have their own issues but Manosphere is just a sphere full of people who have a victim complex and are desperately trying to blame someone else for their problems in that case it's women.

And in the case of white supremacists it's other races like they cry because other races or other people are better than them and they wish they could just get a job because they're white and that's it they're worthless people that have nothing going for them and they're "Like, oh man I missed the old days when we didn't let black people have jobs because then I'd actually have one
because I'm worthless and I don't deserve a job because I'm really stupid" that's what it comes down to but like you know most white supremacists also don't believe the vaccines are real and they think climate changes a hoax. They're just dumb so like no you're going to struggle to get a job if you're just a fundamentally very stupid person.

Same things with these red pill men who wish they can go back to when women didn't have rights, so women would have to depend on a man and marry their useless ass, so they lash out and call women "whores" because they are bitter about people who are successful with women.

BullShark · Answer

I don't personally know a single man who I'm friends with that outright labels women as whores by default, so maybe you're surrounding yourself with the wrong men who specifically have thoughts like these and think of women as lesser species.

A self-respecting man who has a loving wife, or a mother, sister and/or daughter which he loves more than his own life will never label a woman as a whore, and if you don't see the women close to you that way, you won't see someone else's sister, mother, daughter or wife that way either

mandyfire98 · Answer

Let's be honest if you even let on that you're even a little bit sexual as a woman then you're gonna get called a slut or whore or thot by a lot of men.

GallopAcrossEurope · Answer

The quick explanation is that the person is hot, has some sort of attractive 'quirk' or way of speech, and is seen with the opposite gender a lot. Maybe she has a lot of phone numbers from men. So obviously, she hooked up with all of them, right? Nope.

Reverse the genders, and you get the notorious "ladies man," who has " gotten into every girls' panties," which is word for word what I've been called in high school by a guy who I myself thought got around. I must have been really at acting, because I was a virgin bordering-on incel, and only either had crushes that led nowhere or relationships that blew up in my face.

V_Injector · Answer

I don't think men always quickly assume. Yeah if she's dressed like a whore and is outwardly acting like a whore, she's probably a whore... or at least a slut (uses sex for attention).

Some women, you have to get to know them a bit before you figure out they do nothing but sleep around. You quickly figure they don't have hobbies outside of attracting and sexing with men, and they're empty, vacant and fake...

Plus, what is the majority out there right now? I would be more likely to ask "Why are men always so quick to assume a woman is not a whore?"

Why are men always so quick to assume a woman is a whore?

buzzword · Answer

It's pretty simple really. Courtship is the process of getting to know one another before sex and commitment right? Who's expected to pay for the first date? 75% of women say the man should pay. Who's expected to pay for dating expenses after a couple has been in a relationship for a while? According to roughly 60% of women, men should pay even once they are in a relationship. So according to women, the majority of women are flat out admitting they want men to pay for sex. When a women expects to be paid for then by definition that makes her a whore. Most women are whores according to women.

RavVid · Answer

To be fair to us, that is what girls are telling us and we have no reason to disbelieve them.

Here on GAG for example, there are girls saying they are waiting for marriage. Others have been in long relationships from high school. Some girls emphasis how... ah prolific... they have been. So it is highly variable.

At the end of the day because the messaging is what it is and because girls can simply lie about it then we do need to assume girls have been whores.

236color · Answer

I'm going to need some context here. I'm assuming you are not using the term "whore" in the literal sense, as in prostitute. More likely the question is "Why do so many guys assume I'm going to sleep with them just because they want me to?" Have I got that right?

Oncewildtwiceburned · Answer

Parental Certainty. We don’t have the luxury of knowing that we are 100% the biological father. So how we behave has been built around that. Its better to be cautious especially today when a woman can ruin your life, take your kids, wreck your business, etc.

Who cares if you are anyways as long as you don’t plan on being a home wrecker or a mother.

Agape93 · Answer

It's a quick way to shame and dehumanize us of we stray from their perception of acceptable looks or behavior

Curiouskitty99 · Answer

Men who assume/say that are pathetic losers. They have one or two bad experiences with some girl and just automatically assume we’re all whores. Their reasonings are stupid

Berethor · Answer

Because most women are whores nowadays, a virgin woman is hard to find.

genericname85 · Answer

cause that's really quite simple to assess. people generally use the word "whore" to mean that the woman gives sex to other man too easily according to the one who uses the word. and that's really not that difficult to figure out.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Because those who do are rejected quite a lot and probably for good reason

normalice · Answer

Because men would be whores if women wanted us as badly as we want the sort of women who get called whores.

coxoabean · Answer

They shouldn't assume, but I think it's because most girls these days really are

Babygirl_S · Answer

No, I haven’t met a man who thinks that about all women. I do know that Indians like to flirt with white girls because they’re seen as easy and not conservative which isn’t always the case

Anonymous · Answer

Men learn to recognize the signs. If it qucks like a duck and walks like a duck.  I think the better question would be, "why are so many women whores today".

Jackblue · Answer

To incels all American women are, I suggest just ignoring them.

Benedict234 · Answer

I don't know, but it sucks. Hypocritic society of ours. Depends where you live too

Alex-Snow · Answer

I do not think that is true. Sure there are some jerks like that but not most guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are women always so quick to assume a man is a sexual predator? I don't know any men who automatically assumes a woman is a whore, but I know quite a few women who automatically assume a man is a sexual predator.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Degrading others makes some people feel better about their own pathetic lives.

Anonymous · Answer

No one should assume anyone is a whore, but it still happens a lot today because, well... there are a LOT of whores around today.

Anonymous · Answer

Is she exchanging money goods or services for sex?

Ariesman81 · Answer

Cause most of you try and make us pay for it

DerekC321 · Answer

There are a lot of assholes out there, I know. i'm sorry, that sucks

seviyorummm · Answer

These are just simple prejudices, these thoughts change depending on what happens.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are some women quick to generalize all men?

Caroline91 · Answer

Lol... It's YOU again.

DryGermanGuy · Answer

We are not. 🙄 Ignore the idiotic minority.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Why do SOME women assume that all men are alike?

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I've never done that.

Nerdvana · Answer

What's wrong with being a whore?

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Are we really, though?

Slim57 · Answer

Because usually she is

Reddreams · Answer

A whore is a whore

Anonymous · Answer

Because many of them actually are

periodictaco · Answer

I agree with this

Tstrbrainer · Answer

We don't really.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Is she?

MasterKS · Answer

seriously? I am not!

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