You have probably seen it happen. A girl twists a guy around her little finger and then leaves him heartbroken. That just makes it worse for the next girl who is genuinely interested in him. He may not open up his heart to her and maybe even treat her like dirt. So why?
I think there are two major problems in the life modern guys.
1. Many guys haven´t learned to be happy without sex and/or a relationship to women. The problem is that due to porn and video games many guys are pleasure addicts. They won´t do something that doesn´t give them gratification. Ever wondered why open relationships, friends with benefits and all those types are a thing because one can have pleasure without consequences.
2. Many guys have no clue who they are what they want and what kind of women to look for as a partner. The problem is that many guys have no clue what to actually look for in a woman and what should be redflags and greenflags in order for her being a good fit for a long-term relationship. So because they don´t have a measurement scale they gamble and ask out the first woman they meet and get along well in a conversation and less weight on what she´s doing, her values and beliefs are and how a future might look with her.
3. An additional problem could be that some guys don´t ask other people for advice. They don´t go to their friends and talk about a woman they see as a potential partner but instead make the decision themselves.
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Really great question. Every man has to go through it. Even I did. A lot of guys meet a woman they think is super special, not seeing the signs and how she's just a user, whether it's to get attention (women are enormous attention whores) or to get money or something else from a dude.
But I also think a large reason for this is because most men are taught to be loving gentlemen, to be chivalrous, generous, and caring with women, so when they meet a woman they think is special, they feel like they should be treating her like the prize that they're programmed to think all women are. Women know this, and they exploit a lot of men for it.
Although lots of women are also fools for all the wrong guys. In fact, women are much more often than vice versa. Most men usually learn their lesson the first time, but women will more often repeat the same mistakes with different men. You got chicks out here spending money on guys who don't have any, buying them shiny shit, and all the while this guy is getting all the same TLC from another woman. What makes women worse for being fools is that the guy can even treat her like total shit and she will still want him, or want to go back to him, knowing entirely well how awful he is, but they'll make tons of excuses for why they can't let him go.
There could be many reasons for this kind of behavior. One reason could be that the guy lacks self-confidence and self-respect. He may feel like he needs to have someone in his life to feel validated, and he may settle for someone who is not treating him well because he doesn't think he can do better.
Another reason could be that the guy doesn't have a clear understanding of his own wants and needs in a relationship. He may be easily swayed by the attention and affection of a girl, even if it's not what he truly desires.
Lastly, it's important to note that not all guys behave this way. It's unfair to generalize a whole gender based on the actions of a few individuals. It's important to treat each person as an individual and to not make assumptions about their behavior based on their gender.
Because those people have poor judgment. It's not just men, it happens to women too.
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Can you blame us? Pretty sure it happens to women too.
For me it would only take a sweet and persistent girl to fix me up. Not, that I can't do it myself but still. It's easy.
Ah. I'm loving the story of Final Fantasy 8. It's about a self-reliant young lad, who's isolated and socially distant - pretty similar to myself. Most likely got burned too (not "MGTOW" level damaged). And then there's this one sweet girl, that keeps persisting. Very interesting story development. I love it.
Me can dream.
Yes!
See? It's that easy (with me). 😁
I say it is because we don't have as many opportunities to learn.
You date enough women you learn how many are absolute bat shit crazy. You develop standards.
But a lot of men don't get to do that. They don't get to date around. They don't get to learn because for men it's much harder to have a relationship than on reverse.
It's just those men have yet to learn those lessons.
I think women learn those lessons very early on in life. And it explains a lot about why women have standards and men do not.
Also women have weirdos throwing themselves at them all the time. Men do not.
So generally I think men on average are more immature when it comes to these relationship lessons.Men are attention-starved. Plus, the thoughts coming from the smaller head are more concentrated than the thoughts of the bigger head because of the area of the thinking surface.
At your age and younger men don't have anywhere near the dating experience women have. Most men aren't able to date much until they are in their 30's. Women have all the sexual market value, experience, and power through their 20's. Men are easy prey during these years. And you are correct in that women CREATE fuck boys and abusive men.
Often, she's hot, he's shallow, and his lust is blinding him. Sometimes he's got some real feelings (or what he thinks are real feelings). And sometimes he's a guy who struggles to get a girl and is terrified to lose the one he's finally managed to attract.
Guys who do this are either outright stupid, naive and inexperienced, or stubborn and hard-headed. They usually end up paying a high price for their error.Can you imagine what would happen if men were able to keep their wits about them when in the presence of desirable women?
The earth would soon no longer have homo sapiens walking its surface.
I think it's crucial that men totally lose their shit around some women.
Both genders fall for that especially when they are young. But should you shame the one that get fooled? Shouldn't you shame the one fooling instead? Because doing the first encourage bad behavior, while the later does the opposite. Since everyone around them will blame them for taking advantage over the gullible guy/girl.
take times to heal after too much heartbroken...
plus with last girl attitude he face more betrayal and low self esteem. more than that she could make him toy even before breakup..
with the true love have to heal... it could take 6monts or more than a year...
but he will keep improving... the true love give support continuously in genuine way that I hopeLets see.
If you spend your whole life being told that showing any negative emotion is bad and having weakness is the greatest sin you can commit but then one day someone beautiful comes along telling you everything is okay an that your finally good enough what would you do?Generally a lot of women don't find it attractive when a guy is vulnerable with her. I am linking a video a where even a gay guy admits he doesn't vulnerable men because he wants to feel secure around a guy he likes.
https://youtu. be/9nE3EQEBzc0Because women are the biggest soft spot for most men. Women have a lot of power over men. And usually people start to misuse this power and use it for their advantage.
Because some men are hopeless romantics and see what they hope for instead of what is. They don't yet have the experience to be jaded and cynical and see women as the fallible, moody, and annoying creatures that a lot of them are.
That's usually done by girls (or trans persons) who expect and need some level of sexual intercourse and acceptance when such a (high libido) person does not get what she needs and is looking for.
As a high sex drive person myself, I can understand why. Such a girl/person would find having a sexual relationship with me satisfying (once all the inhibitions and stigmas that constrain natural urges and impulses and create fruatration get removed/dealt with)
Because women can be dishonest manipulators. It's both sides, people don't want to act right anymore.
Hardly just happens to men , far more often women would be involved in exactly the same , everyone just wants what they can't have , or want what they think will make them happy , it virtually never works out that way.
Would that not be the fault of the previous woman that used him or strung him along? I agree he needs to be mature about it and do a better job at compartmentalizing, but he didn't start the process.
like love is worth it.
Selfishness. Same as when a guy does it to a girl. They use people like objects and discard them when done.
What certain women? Some are quite good at being what you like. From the outside you might see her manipulations but I am just liking everything I see. Hope springs eternal.
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And girls don't act like fools for certain guys?
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