Why are good looking men going to prostitutes?

[Anonymous]

I know one such man. He is good looking and funny and he has a sexy accent but he has been single for a very long time. He should be able to get pretty much almost any girl he wants. When I ask him why he is not getting any girl he simply says "i don't really know, the girls just don't love me" but I think he's just saying that to get off the hook.
He also tells me he loves women, so he is definitely not the woman-hater type. He is not the type to want just s e x, he is looking for real love.
I ask him how his interaction with girls are and he says they don't respond to him or they ghost him. I asked him to show me some dialogs with the girls but he refuses saying it is too personal for him AKA it's his privacy. But I was merely offering my help.
And so he keeps going to the prostitutes.
Men can be strange.

[es20490446e]

This has been my case no long ago. I quit doing that because it's the most superficial sex, and it doesn't fulfill me. I crave more the affection than the sex.

Why I did that? Very simple. Many women would like to have sex with me, but many of those women have quite bad attitude for being in a relationship.

As a moderately good looking guy, with hippie looks, often women, in real life, assume that I'm into free sex. Come to me and verbalize to me how they think about these topics.

They want the sex, they want the romance, but they don't want any responsibility. They are in essence quite unreliable. They expect every guys to live up high abusive demands and, if they aren't fulfilled, quit for any stupid reason.

They want to go to heaven, but they don't want to die.

When you have paid or unpaid sex, it is a clean transaction. It doesn't have all those stupid dilemmas and dramas. Still it is so shallow it means nothing.

I believe so strongly that, due to dating apps, women have been deluded into believing they have infinite options with men. The truth is that good men, like me, are selective.

I won't accept someone who is a liar, a cheater, unfaithful, negative or physical abandoned. No matter how good they look.

Sorry, I'm not participating in that kind of dating. I think we have nurture a society of bland gay like people, which lack the stamina for even put their finger into their nose. All fat and lazy.

[rjroy3]

He might just like prostitutes. I know guys like that. Especially if they have money. In their view they're just getting to the point at a deal. Which I can't really argue.

I'll go out to have sex. Not spending money on girls, but I am spending hours of time, sacrificing a decent amount of sleep and buying/drinking alcohol I wouldn't necessarily have done had I not been out to get laid.

He's definitely saving time, sleep, and potentially money depending on how much he'd usually spend going out. Some dudes gotta get the bottle and spend a lot of cash on girls to get laid.

So I don't even judge it. Just not for me mostly because of my pride. But practically speaking it makes sense and some prostitutes are very hot/travel to you. Google eros. com. I've gotten curious myself and by looking at the girls I get it lol

[btbc92]

You know why he doesn't have a girl. Take a wild guess? He sees prostitutes because something about him desires meaningless sex and relationships. So he will treat other women the same. Now even if this was before he messed with those women, that is what sadly men like him enjoys. Stop going after people simply because their good looking and JUDGE their Character. Just because he is attractive that doesn't mean he deserves or should get anyone. The question is is he SOMEBODY ANYBODY should mess with? No. The answer is just plain and simple. You want a good man, avoid the ones who does what he does, which is why is more and likely is always single and goes to prostitutes. Is it hard these days to truly find somebody, yes, but if he equates the solution is to pay for sex. Then a relationship is not what that man wants. It's sex. Period. A relationship in dating doesn't mean somebody wants or is having sex. Marriage however should and should be the standard as God made it. But there is a reason why not everybody is going to be married or with a partner. It is again what's in that man that is going to hurt every other girl unless he repents, get's saved, get delivered and wants to truly change his ways. He knows why. He is just playing with your head.

[Lifelive96]

I totally agree with you! 👏🏻👏🏻 Some men are not suitable for relationships. Without changing their mentality, they are disgusting.

[es20490446e]

@Lifelive96 I strongly disagree. Some quite good men are treated very poorly. Men that if I was a girl I would date in a heartbeat, but they just get neglected for the most shallow reasons.

[btbc92]

@es20490446e Neglect or not. You need to have a standard and morals. Nobody in their right mind wants to deal with that, and be left to handle all of that stress, what if's, who is that person, what will this relationship be like, is it REALLY a relationship. For women, especially it is distressing, it causes us to overthink, and we are the ones who feel guilty in the end and often end up regretting getting involved with that men. So she is right. Some men as well as women are NOT suitable for relationships.

I was treated very poorly by men, BUT am I SLEEPING AROUND with every man? NO. I am a virgin. Am I talking to, leading on and playing GAMES with men? NO. It is not that they get neglected for the most shallow reasons. They don't KNOW themselves. They are often lonely, they want to fit into the world, doing as the world does, and yet doesn't understand themselves or those around them. They, like us, have been told, to just date anybody, go for any attractive person you want sex with, etc. That's it. That is not healthy, it's not a smart way to date, getting to know somebody, etc. But people do have choices. And their choices affects their future choices and the people they interact with. I would never be with a man who went with prostitutes or think it is okay for them to do so. If it is to strict, that's them and their problems. I for one will not date them regardless of looks, personality, etc. Morals matter to me. A man's character is important. Anybody can date anybody, but it doesn't mean you will be compatible with that person. There is something about YOU spiritually not everybody will like. And some women will use shallowness to simply give you a reason to not date them. But they may not use those standards to somebody whose spirit they do like.

[btbc92]

If you date in a heartbeat and you barely know a person, that is not healthy and shows lack of consideration for your and others wellbeing. That is not a good way to have a relationship. For women, we mostly cannot afford it.

[es20490446e]

Many times, when a girl says such things, it's just pure rubbish.

It's not her feelings, it's just they lack the courage.

So excuses is the only thing that is left.

[btbc92]

@es20490446e YOU think it's rubbish, and probably think you are rubbish and therefore believe you can't get anybody so you settle for less or on your level. So you know what it boils down to? You being SINGLE. It is FEELINGS. COURAGE have 0 to do with it. GET to know a person! Be FRIEND a person! Make the effort! You just find 1 person who is a stranger and expect a date or a relationship. That is not how it works. Especially if most women want a man who is physically attractive. If you are not a person who people find attractive most would not BOTHER. That is the way of the world. If your anything but such, they won't like you. Period. That is how people treat you, which is why they chose who they want. If you have any care for yourself and those around you, you wouldn't entertain or be around those people. I CARE. And I care enough to tell you. It is up to you how you chose to take my advice or leave it. How you choose to interpret what I tell you. I tell you directly. Either you accept it or you don't. Your attitude is not my problem.

[btbc92]

I am NOT other girls. I am ME. Do not compare me or judge me like how you judge and see other girls.

[btbc92]

Courage only comes in when you are CERTAIN that you can form a relationship with a person. When I see people, and or a person, I feel CERTAIN of that I can build and form relationships with, meaning friendship. I gather the courage, regardless of my shyness and fear and introduce myself. And if I get laughed at, mocked, shamed, etc, that was a chance I chose to make. I assumed a person was genuine, kind, etc, and yet they showed their true colors. If somebody just wasn't feeling it, or uncomfortable, but respectfully, I am not going push or get made because I got "rejected". The hell is wrong with you men and some of you women? Your selfish. So who do you attract? Other selfish people, and those who you want to selfishly use for status, and gain. You people do not want love. You just want status. As long as any girl is somebody you can have. You don't care about HER. You care about YOURSELF. You only want what benefits YOU. I wouldn't want a man like that. I am a given person, but I will NOT be taken advantage of just because you never had. I never had a boyfriend either. You don't see me using men.

[es20490446e]

I'm very attractive :D

[btbc92]

@es20490446e Then why are you still single if that is the case? You people worry too much about that, yet can't have solid relationships.

[es20490446e]

The people that I have dated were horrible:
- Last girl was fighting all day long with plenty of people.
- The previous one wanted to have sex with anybody else.
- The previous one quit to return with her ex, then got dumped, and she cheated on her next partner.

[btbc92]

@es20490446e So whose fault is THAT? YOURS. Stop blaming other women. YOU picked them. You have problems, THEY have problems. Guys like yourself are a lost cause because you go down that path by choice.

[btbc92]

Proven my point. Picking people who lacking good character.

[es20490446e]

It's not that easy. Those girls looked good in the beginning.

[btbc92]

@es20490446e No, it IS that easy. How do you think I avoid and know how to weed out bad men or men not good for me? Because by the grace of God, the wisdom that is given. You men and some women do NOT want to heed to wisdom. You want what you WANT. And you want it so badly to the point of your destruction. If I told you do not date a woman who has premarital sex, you would do it anyway and have sex. THEN when a problem happens --> "- The previous one wanted to have sex with anybody else." AVOIDABLE.

If I told you not to date a person who just got out of a relationship so they can heal and figure themselves out first. NOOOOO, you will do it ANYWAY, because you know why? She looks good, sexually, you want her sexually, then when she is confused, your shocked. "The previous one quit to return with her ex, then got dumped, and she cheated on her next partner." AVOIDABLE.

If I had TOLD YOU to NOT date a stranger, date a friend who you already know. Somebody who is compatible with you and have good character. Or suggest being friends for a long while and get to know who they are. But oh, no. You don't want that. You don't want to be stuck in the "friendzone" so you date them. And now "Last girl was fighting all day long with plenty of people." AVOIDABLE.

So it is YOU who makes excuses and refuse to see your own faults. But blame another. You are half way across the world from me. You don't think I don't pay attention what you people do? I study you people. And you always make the same patterns that results in your relationship issues. You don't want to listen and now your stuck with all of that baggage that is once again, avoidable. But again, you want to experiment, you want sex, you don't want to be alone. So you risks this for the sake of what you want, and now your complaining about them. So again, you are responsible.

If they looked so good in the beginning it is because you think with your penis. That is why.

[btbc92]

Your mentality is the problem. Like I said, you see a "Sexy" woman, you go for it. And you want to know why so many women play mind games with you men and seek attention and to be entertained. And then when their bored they look for another guy. Most of you done this for years. Now the tables have turned mostly and your shocked. But you don't want to listen to me because I never dated or had a guy. Yet, I supposedly know a lot more than you do and your the one with all the experience. This is common sense. What other problems you have that you want to use as an excuse? I probably would know what the issue is unless somebody more advanced than me or have more wisdom in that area would know. I guarantee you, it is not as complicated as you want to make it sound like. You just make it more complicated than it has to be. If you follow the world's way, it will fail you and n turn you end up failing yourself. You want to have a successful relationship. start changing your tune, your mentality, mindset and attitudes. It's all avoidable. What your telling me is all AVOIDABLE. Do you not hear me? It is indeed, avoidable, you just chose to go in to the landmines for the hell of it.

[btbc92]

You need to stop playing games and start deciding when are you going to be serious, or else these women wouldn't be an issue. You pick women who represents your state and level of conscious. And if you hate that part about you, FIX IT. So you won't continue to make these mistakes and be attracted while also not attracting these women.

[btbc92]

You picked*

[es20490446e]

Okay, I made bad choices. Partly because I overlooked things, but also because I was too innocent.

But that isn't the root of my disappointment. The point is that, when I started really qualifying women beforehand, I literally found none to date. All were pure rubbish.

I don't even know where to go to date them. If I go online nobody replies, if I go to real life there are only drunk beaches. Everyone else staying at home, staring at their phones and blablablabla.

[btbc92]

Innocence is not the issue. Your mentality IS. or else you wouldn't be saying what women say is rubbish. You need to figure that out. You are not qualifying anyone. It just something that you yourself shouldn't be in until you mature enough as a person to know what you are seeking and what type of persom to be around. I understand again, it can get tough. Just not lile this.

[es20490446e]

What I'm saying is that I'm fully responsible for it, but still it is quite tough. There aren't as many capable candidates.

[btbc92]

@es20490446e That is sadly the reality of this life. It is not like how it was 100s of years ago. It is just going to get harder. But don't have an attitude that prevents you from finding that person either.

[es20490446e]

Thanks 👍

[Dtate]

Hookers and blow. That's my motto.

[Subarugirl]

Because it's straight forward, and you know what you are getting. You don't have to worry about being judged, and you have someone who will listen to and accept you, for a price. If that's what he enjoys, then why not?

[NamerOfStars]

It's not strange at all- it's actually quite reasonable. Relationships take work. They're a huge investment of time, effort, and energy. Emotion, too, come to think of it- it's easy to get your heart broken. I've never been the type to go to prostitutes, but unless I'm very much mistaken about the way it works, you know EXACTLY what you're getting into, and it's a very limited, direct, and clear exchange.

If sex is all you're looking for, taking the option with clearly defined boundaries and no change of rejection is pretty understandable.

[oddwaffle]

The girls ghost him. That's 100% true. 5/10 girls will randomly get cold feet and ghost. The other 5 will give some sort of last minute excuse. It's a hit and miss for a lot of guys.

It's really really hard to just get a friends with benefits or NSA girl that is hot and available. Even if the guy is hot himself. He will need to seek out hundreds of women before he can find someone compatible.

It's like eating at home or eating at the restaurant. Even if you are a top chef, you still eat out sometimes for different varieties and experience when you are too lazy to prep and cook for hours.

[ohshee]

I live in Nevada where prostitutions legal and from 17 to my mid-20s my friends and I would go to the brothels and you can get laid for like 15-20 bucks now I'm sure it's I've been to the five hundreds or somewhere probably but no I don't go to them there's prostitutes on the streets and the casinos know I'd will not go to them if I have to pay for it I'm not going to them if I can't get it for free something's wrong plus you older than I've gotten it means a lot more to me and if I'm going to have sex with somebody it's going to be because I like them and they like me. I mean I'm even approached online I won't even pay for a picture LOL it does nothing for me
One of my best friend's is a prostitute and she has many regulars so I guess they don't mind paying for it,
I think my problem is is I think I'm special and when I touch you girl when I'm with the girl I want her to know that she's special and you can't do that if you're paying somebody so no it's not for me

[moviedude714]

Interesting, just saying that because a lot of men don't like to admit or disclose having had paid for sex

[FilmGuy93]

Because the real women aren't great. Your friend is probably tired of interacting with women who are just so unpleasant and draining that it's literally better for him to pay a prostitute than have prolonged interaction with a real woman. Tbh, your friend is exactly where I'm at. I'm not single because I can't find a woman who wants to fuck me, I'm single because the women I've interacted with are so draining and unpleasant that I would rather masturbate than interact with them on a regular basis.

[CallmeTheKnight]

You have to really understand it from his point of view. There's a big chance he may be a bad judge of character when it comes to partners or he's just had a few bad experiences with women. No explanation is owed, but he may just seem satisfied with getting his needs met and find it better to be out of a relationship.

Most of the time, Women don't deal with women the way men do. Some women are good, some are evil, and some are just confused. So it's not easy to paint a decent picture for you

[elizamichale1]

Well why not darling? Don't we deserve good looking and nice men huhh
And there are quite a few reasons that some men prefer prostitutes instead of being involved in a relationship as it has its perks
And that friend of yours is not alone in this i know many clients of my club which are like him

[Bklynbadboy12]

So why do you think it is they prefer a prostitute over a relationship

[elizamichale1]

@Bklynbadboy12 mainly coz of no responsibilities no emotional dramas and all

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's makes sense plus sometimes you just want a pro

[elizamichale1]

@Bklynbadboy12 well yup u r right

[MCheetah]

Because women are often more trouble than they're worth and prostitutes will give you a better experience without yapping all day or expecting you to pay for their dinners. And if a guy says "the girls don't love him," then maybe you should believe him. So maybe you should believe him and stop thinking all these women are angels and going to treat him like a king.

[TheFlak38]

"He should be able to get pretty much almost any girl he wants"
no he shouldn't. the sexual marketplace is rigged in women favour to such a degree that even the most attractive men aren't enough to satisfy your astronomical standards. So why shouldbt attractive men bang prostitutes when even they have such astronomical standards that they refuse to take any money if the man is not attractive enough? Im a regular customer to a high class escort and when I fucked her the first time she literally told me that she liked how tall I am and how I have a masculine square jaw. Thats how high your standards are today.

[loves2learn]

I wonder if he is on the autism spectrum tbh. Social interaction can be very daunting foe many. There can be a great deal of appeal for paying for no strings attached sex.

[Asker]

No, he's not

[loves2learn]

Ok. Sounds like he just wants no strings attached sex.

[CasaNorba]

I dont consider myself good looking though I always been told I am but I seek prostitutes because...

- Prostitutes get straight to the point and never play mind games
- They are hotter (unless you go for nightwalkers)
- They perform better, they dont mind fucking like a pornstars for the fact that they're being paid
- Lastly the best one of all is that once you paid them they leave your life and you and her remain anonymous unless you decide to pay for her service again

[FictionalCharacter]

I need a male prostitute

[CasaNorba]

@FictionalCharacter why do you? more than 90% of the men in this world would do the above for free or even better they will offer you free drinks and dinner before they give you all the above

[FictionalCharacter]

Nah, lol. Typical guys who do it for free still play games and I don’t want that. If wanting to feel good from a guy has a price, I’m willing to pay straight up.

Also I’m below average in the real world and I’m not having luck with guys cause of my looks. Even hot girls are struggling with guys cause of mind games.

I don’t know where you guys think girls are having luck with men, have you seen girls resorting to online searching for guys? Cause there’s a lot

[CasaNorba]

@FictionalCharacter how the hell do they play games if you dont mind me asking?

I highly doubt you're that ugly, we men are the sex that dont mind lowering our standards specially when its a simple thing like a hookup or just one night of sex.

till then we are in 2021 almost going to 2022 like who the fuck doesn't go online to look for a date nowadays, we are not in the 90s anymore. if anything you women will always have the upper hand in dating whether if its online or in person.

[FictionalCharacter]

So you’re saying girls play mind games and not guys?

Guys play games by lying, no communication and make girls feel bad or guilty just for questioning these behavior. I don’t have time for this.

[MrPlentiful]

Where can you find good prostitutes

[CasaNorba]

@FictionalCharacter yes, I'm saying women are the ones who play mind games beyond oblivion. seriously is not that hard to have sex with someone. just be clear and say you just want to fuck, which is what I've done numerous of times just to hear women I told this to tell me nonsense such "I'm no sex object" and the list goes on.

we men are the ones that fuck and move on with our lives while you women are the ones who not only overthink it but want to cling on and sent wrong signals like if you all had ulterior motives or something. and you're no different, it sounds like you repulsed all the guys that could of been your fuck buddy for the night because you spoke out your ass whenever they brought it up.

so yeah I have I dont have time for your cognitive dissonance and wishful thinking either.

[CasaNorba]

@MrPlentiful they're all over the place my friend. go to your local Asian spa and ask for the happy ending, go to the strip clubs and ask for the champagne room or google up some escorts in your area. you also have the option to cruise down the ghetto and pick up a nightwalker even though I would not recommend this option

[FictionalCharacter]

Down the road of insults for asking questions. You proved my point right.

[MrPlentiful]

I know i just was being fun y

[MrPlentiful]

Funny

[CasaNorba]

@FictionalCharacter hahaha not sure when telling the truth was consider an "insult." exactly how many people in this site suffer from special snowflake syndrome?

[molonski2]

I dont think any of that is true , far deeper reasons , this particular guy does not want the drama , he going to the hookers by choice , personally I can't understand it either , but I know plenty of individuals who are similar , but he certainly does this by choice , he could easily get many girls.

[Anonymous]

Why do hungry people go to restaurants? They could just eat at home.

You go because its quick, easy, hassle free maybe the professional is better at it, and sometimes you're in the mood for Chinese, Asian, or something domestic, or whatever.

Not everyone wants the same meal every day.

[Pj1981]

a lot of men find it easier and more convenient to have the woman when they want without the commitment of a relationship. Many feel it's cheaper to pay occasionally when the desire strikes than continuously in a relationship. Plus there's the variety. It seems to freak some guys out to think it's the same person over and over. This doesn't account for all men it's just reasons some attractive men may choose prostitutes over love

[Jackblue]

Even Justin Bieber went to a brothel in Brazil. I have never visited a lady of the night, but I suppose it is about having the benefits of romance without the pain. It probably isn't just sex that he is getting either, if he is willing to pay for the time I am sure she is willing to listen to his problems and comfort him.

[Jackblue]

I have heard strippers sometimes act as therapists to patrons like that. A regular girlfriend would expect emotional support in return, women in those sorts of trades just want cash which can be far easier sometimes.

[igaveyouanickname]

He doesn't have game: he doesn't know how to make a woman sexually-interested.

I often turn-off my game because there are women who are objectively attractive, but I'm not interested in them.

If a man doesn't have game, he can't get laid and he can't get a partner.

That's how it works.

[Dtate]

Damn right. Dealing with females is like a game of chess

[Anonymous]

Story of my life 😐, although I don't go to hookers. Even you are a attractive guy , if you have standards , want real love with decent women , it's almost impossible now. Can't find a decent, kind women anywhere. It's like all are attracted to bad dudes , partying all the time. Women have rejected me and dated/fucked way less looking guys who also treated them like shit.

[White_Boy_506]

And all this time I was raised to respect women but it means nothing to them…..

[es20490446e]

@White_Boy_506 Exactly. This is the problem, so many girls like this.

This is not a random complain, but the actual truth. The terrain has gotten so dry.

[White_Boy_506]

@es20490446e Naw yeah its true. I mean I see them dating such abusive guys all the time and then they complain that all men are like that

[rcljr]

Because we are tired of the rhetoric, brow beating and bull shit from the feminazis and their supporters, not to mention plain old psychotic women that want a “ real” man, but she has fake hair, fake eyelashes, fake lips, fake tits and a muffin top and thinks she’s gods gift to the world, even while she has 5 kids from 4 different dads. Yeah, I’ll pick the hooker every fucking time, it’s cheaper financially and psychologically.

[Miristheiss]

I have no idea why any man in the universe would pay a stranger who has been with hundreds of strangers... thousands of strangers, gross, fat, smelly men... etc.

I find the entire concept disgusting.

[jshm2]

Not "strange" deary, some men are just lazy, others entitled and other clueless.

He feels he has money enough to pay and not work a relationship, that's fine. He'll get chlamydia, herpes or stung by the cops and lose that attitude and access real quick.

Being "good looking" usually means you make shitty decisions as you have little brain behind it.

[Sohard]

Lack of confidence and past experiences of being shot down and too, seeing too many beautiful women with what appear to us as ugly or loser looking or dorky looking men.