Why is it so hard to find a good guy nowadays?

[Anonymous]

I've never been in a relationship, I haven't even had my first kiss yet and I'm 15.

I feel like every guy I see is just straight up trash. This seems harsh, I'm not perfect either but men are really trash nowadays.

I feel like no guy has morals anymore, they would just go sleep with any woman before marriage. They have no manners or respect, they are also very very rude to me at least. They insult me for no reason. They don't do anything with their lives, they are not masculine anymore. I feel like I'm in the wrong generation or that there's something wrong with me. Am I the problem or are the men the problem? How come I can't find love but everyone else seems to can?

I don't have high standards for the way a guy looks. I could be with a guy shorter than me, who's balding or just not that attractive overall. I just want to be with someone who loves me, who has morals and that I am compatible with, but it seems impossible to find. Good looking guys are everywhere, but guys who actually are good men are very rare. Personally I've never met a good guy, the only good guy I know is my father.

I want to find a guy that I can start a family with, but none of the men nowadays seem fit to be fathers. I just feel so sad because I'm in my "prime" now so I'm in a hurry to find someone, it's now or never. I mean when I'm 25 no guy will be interested in me. But I am in my prime now and STILL no one is interested in me.

Why are men so trash? What happened to men who were masculine, who had actual morals, who are dominant, who are respectful and kind?

My father wants me to get married, but it's easier said than done. I don't know if my father ever will be a grandfather as he wishes.

I did find a guy I was interested in. He was very nice to be, but then I found out he had like 6 "friends" who were all females and I caught him flirting with them.

Maybe I'm just not pretty enough, maybe my personality is unattractive, maybe my voice sounds irritating. I don't know anymore.

[BullShark]

Like many others said here, you're still really young right now, so don't obsess over guys at this age. At your age, I too was considered a really unattractive, basic, nobody loser who never had any friends. People would bully me because I was an introvert and really socially awkward, no girl would want to date me, and the ones I'd have a crush on and finally pluck up the courage to ask out, they'd always blow me off by saying something like they're already seeing someone else (even if they're not) or make an excuse saying they were "too busy" to focus on a relationship or any biy for that matter (but would still continue to flirt with the hot guys). Some were even straight up rude and disrespectful.

Anyways my point is, you're at that age in your life where you'll be faced with constant rejection and disappointments. Hate to break it to you bud, but the real life isn't a fairy tale, and there is no "perfect guy" or girl for that matter. If anyone asks me, I always tell them that my teen years were THE WORST and I still sometimes get PTSD from that time when I was a loser and nobody liked me as a friend or otherwise because of being different and unique. While other guys were in sports, I would read books. While other guys were banging the hot girls, I would spend hours on games like Need For Speed. But if it's one thing I was not, it's someone who's fake and who does things to impress others.

Don't worry however, because trust me, this is just another moment in your life you'll outgrow as you get older. In college, you'll meet new like-minded people like yourself, and this is what I like about it because unlike school where you pretty much have no other choice but to befriend your classmates, in college, you can meet all sorts of people and get to pick your own friends' circle. So stop worrying about the "perfect guy" because he probably just isn't there yet, but he will be.

[tzdc21]

It's not hard to find those guys. The problem is they're the guys you women don't want. Those are the guys that you reject or put in the friend zone or occasionally use for free meals (And I'm not say you specifically do that, but a lot of women do). And the reason why is because they're "not exciting." And let me say something else... Guys in general are not trash. The guys YOU pick are trash. I know a boat load of guys who aren't trashy and would treat a women nice if she were their girlfriend, however, they're the same guys that fall into the category that I described earlier. So that's pretty immature if you to categorize all of us under that derogatory term. You wouldn't like it if I were to say something like, "Why are women such bitches?" So why do you think it's okay to say that men are trash on a site where a bunch of men are? Newsflash, it's not.

[Asker]

You're right, but unlike those women I don't have anyone interested in me. No one has a had a crush on me except for one guy online, I liked him but I rejected him because he was atheist, he didn't want to get married in the future and did not want children.
I am desperate for someone to like me that has the morals that I do but it seems impossible to find.
I see where you're coming from though.

[tzdc21]

Check the places that you never thought to look in the first place. Guys in the friend zone, or dating apps are a good start.

[Summeroflove]

Because you have a problem with men in general. Good men don’t like sexists.

[Summeroflove]

Maybe stop hating men. Good start!

[BCA6010]

You're 15... Stop obsessing over guys. You're not going to find a "good guy" at that age, nor should it even be on your radar of priorities.

[Asker]

When should I start worrying then?

[MCheetah]

Maybe you need to look in a different area than where you're at now?

[AmeerX]

Lol, where do you get ideas that it's mandatory to kiss at your age 🤣.

I think abstaining from this behavior is in your best interest. You want a guy tell him to marry you period

[Sparkie460]

Just calm down and relax. You're 15 years old. You have plenty of time to find your Mr. Right. You're trying to hard. Don't try and he will find you when you least expect it.

[Tracker1958]

The good men get married young, the only things left are the leftovers just that where all the good women are.

[Asker]

Where do I find good men?

[Tracker1958]

Choose a country boy you went to school. If that not to your liking then good luck.

[Asker]

What is a country boy?

[Tracker1958]

Never mind.

[tobr83]

DM me if you want to chat about your question

[Anonymous]

I get bored from this type of talks

[Asker]

Yes, it's just a vent.

[Opinion Owner]

You're just 15
Why you're so worried? Relax

[Asker]

Because I'm in my prime and I don't have a lot of time. Men are fertile all their life and hit their prime in their 30's. Women hit their prime in their teens and go infertile in their 40's.

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂

[Asker]

What's so funny?

[Opinion Owner]

😂😂 you're cute

[Asker]

Really? What makes you think that? Also thank you!