Is it weird that I wear a wedding band to prevent anyone from pursuing me?

[Anonymous]

I am committed to being single for the rest of my life. Never dating, never marrying. I just sleep around with hot guys when my heart desires. I firmly believe that men are not worth the trouble. Its so hard to find a decent good guy nowadays. A lot of guys tend to lack personality nowadays too. So I've given up on love. I wear a wedding band on my left ring finger and many women would ask if I am married. I would just say "I'm engaged" because I didn't want them to think I am weird for telling them the real reason why I am wearing a wedding band. would people think im weird? probably.

[Leapfrog00]

not at all. I wish I would have thought of that! People are terrible. Most girls I dated were cheaters. I take it you attract the psychos like me. That's all I get is psychos, psychos, and more psychos. They tell you what you want to hear and then leave you with a broken heart.

Sex is nice, but it can get pretty lonely, so that would be your only problem. The loneliness might get to you after a while and you could get depressed, if it hasn't happened already. I bought a puppy a couple years ago to fill the void, but then he was stolen. I understand though. It gets tiring having to deal with relationships after a while!

[Asker]

i don't get lonely because i live with my parents.

[Asker]

another thing i have learned over the years is: just because someone is able to find a boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband... it doesn't necessarily mean they are high quality. It just means that their partner is good at tolerating BS. Often times, bad people are always on their best character when they are in front of someone they like. Sometimes you will never truly know who you are with until years after you marry them.

My mother married a bad tempered man for 30 years and she is still married to him to this day. I wouldn't last 3 days with someone like him. Some people are just better at tolerating BS than others.

Another example: I've known an 18 yr old girl who married a single father of 5 kids. She spent the next 25 years raising all his 5 kids as her own since the age of 18. Thats a huge form of settling. Even men who married single mothers for 25 years advise me not to date someone with kids...

[Leapfrog00]

oh yea, I understand that one. One thing you probably realized by now is people aren't even worth the time invested in them. It's better just to hook up with people for sex, rather than get into stressing worthless relationships. I couldn't tolerate a bad-tempered person either. I'd probably knock them into next Tuesday! Both my narcissistic aunt and my ex-girlfriend were like that, and how I made it through that without killing them, I don't even know!

There's no such thing as "The right person". I have met few girls that have actually cared about me, and for you girls, most guys are the same way. Something I learned a long time ago, girls don't like "Nice guy" routines. It's better off to disrespect people, for some unknown, out of this galaxy reason, girls like guys who disrespect them.

I will never understand this one, and I look forward to the day when someone explains it to me! No, don't date someone with kids because you will just be another mother, that's it.

I dated a girl with kids once and I ended up giving her my whole paycheck, and no show of gratitude. None.

I don't even have to push people away anymore. I'm invisible where I am. I understand everything you are saying. Trust me!

[Asker]

@leapfrog00

it has nothing to do with you being a nice guy. I have a really sweet guy friend who fell in love with me though I couldn't return the feelings back to him. He ended up finding the love of his life in texas and now has kids with her.

he has many flaws but he was very sweet. he has a wife who is head over heels for him.

Often times people just settle even when they can clearly see what is wrong with their partners.

[Asker]

For me, I've met sexual predators, guys who refused to wear a condom, players, assholes who stood me up on dates. Guys who lie that they were in love with me just so they can get into my pants. A lot of the guys who were a bit more decent usually had absolutely no personality at all.

[Leapfrog00]

Yeah, predators are everywhere and it is scary. There does seem to be more players than lovers. People are so complex. So many narcissists and socio-paths. and then they never communicate with their partners. At least I can say I listen without the guilt of feeling like a liar. People need to be heard in relationships, but part of the problem (Or maybe all of it) is they don't listen to their partners feelings, ambitions, and desires.

I hope the next life is better than this one!

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, it is weird. And it is wrong that you have over-generalized and concluded that all men are worthless. That reflects on the kind of person YOU are.

[Asker]

its not worth it to kiss another 200 assholes just to find 1 high quality guy. just not worth the pain

[OlderAndWiser]

Most women don't choose 200 assholes in a row to date.

[Asker]

vast majority of people haven't been on 200 dates with 200 different men in their lives. but you understand what im saying...

after a certain point of non stop assholes, you just give up. you just get sick of it. and there's nothing wrong with it.

[OlderAndWiser]

First, if you don't want to date, that's your right and I would never try to convince you to resume dating. BUT. . . if you date 10 or 15 assholes in a row, there are two possible conclusions:

a. all men are assholes

b. you are consistently picking the wrong guys and you need to change your selection criteria.

Which of those two is more likely to be true?

[Asker]

i've been through way more than 10-15 assholes. i've met more decent guys but none of them have any personality whatsoever. being nice isn't gonna keep me there. you need to be fun and interesting to be around.

[OlderAndWiser]

And you only need to meet one guy who checks all the boxes.

[Asker]

nobody checks all the boxes. i haven't met anyone who checked all the boxes. i don't even think someone like that exists. I've been through so many dates over the past 7 years and I've only been able to develop feelings for 2 people. I've probably went on dates with as many as 50 different guys.

I've been through hell for years trying to find a partner. kissed so many monsters and sexual predators and all sorts of different characters, weirdos. At some point, I just have no faith anymore. its honestly easier being single than to keep trying to look for something that does not exist.

[Asker]

what i have learned throughout my experience is that people are able to find boyfriend/gfs because either they have low standards or they do not know how bad their partners really are. everyone is on their best behavior during the dating stages. I have met sexual predators who told me they had ex girlfriends who were madly in love with them. I've met sadistic guys who have major personality problems get girlfriends. I"ve met "rape-y"guys who told me they had girlfriends in the past (who cheated on him).

my own mother married a bad tempered father and was able to stay married to him for 30 years. i wouldn't be able to last 3 days with a guy like him.

[OlderAndWiser]

Do what you want but understand that most people who are happily in relationships would disagree with your assessment, and their opinions outweigh your opinion by far. But if that is what you believe, do what you want. And just engaging in casual sex with guys when you are horny is far more likely to expose you to undesirable characters.

[Asker]

@olderandwiser

No man will reach past the 3rd or 4th date without any sort of sexual contact. You will eventually lose his interest unless something sexual happens.

[Do what you want but understand that most people who are happily in relationships would disagree with your assessmen]

Because I've literally seen sexual predators and all sorts of bad characters say theyve been in long term relationships.

Just cuz a guy has a long time girlfriend, it doesn't mean he is high quality

I know of a maintenance worker at my job who tries to sleep with every woman he sees. He even tried to pursue me. Until i found out he has a girlfriend and 2 kids at home. His girlfriend has no idea what is happening.

[Asker]

@olderandwiser

[Asker]

My own mother married a bad tempered man , has 2 kids with him and stayed married to him for 30 years. I couldnt stand my father. I wouldn't last 3 days in the same house with someone like that.

As you can see, many people are just partnered cuz they have low standards.

[OlderAndWiser]

And man people have high standards, have partners, and are happy. But you are the one who will live with the consequences of your choices so it is your decision to make. At some time, you should consider whether your attitude about this is simply a reflection of your bitterness and not an accurate assessment of all men.

[Asker]

@olderandwiser

people are always on their best behavior around their partners. you dont truly know someone until YEARS after you marry them.

you just seem ignorant. not wise at all.

i have lived and experienced and seen. i know what im talking about

[OlderAndWiser]

You are 18-24. Do you REALLY think you have seen that much and know that much? Sounds like defensiveness to me, but you can remain in denial if that is what makes you feel better.

[Asker]

I'm almost 30 years old. I know what you're saying is wrong because I have seen plenty of people settle down with incredibly flawed people that I personally would never ever date. You probably know this yourself but you're just in denial because you are probably getting married sometime soon. You don't want to believe this fact because the possibility of this frightens you.

Neither maturity or wisdom comes with age. Just because you are elderly, it doesn't mean you must be wise or mature. Maturity and wisdom is all due to how you have lived.

[Asker]

@olderandwiser.

[OlderAndWiser]

I always appreciate condescending lectures from young people.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s weird but honestly who cares what others think. It’s your finger, your life.

[FunkyMonkee]

Wouldn't matter to me! So far, all I've ever had were married chicks and they came after ME!!

[Billlewis]

@FunkyMonkee to me, there is nothing hotter than a guy who fucks married women regularly, especially if it's bareback sex.

[FunkyMonkee]

@Billlewis ALWAYS bareback!! The ONLY time I've ever used rubbers was if I wanted to have a wank and didn't want to stop it from hitting the floor or anything else.

[Billlewis]

I'll bet you've fucked at least 20-30 married women in the last ten years or so...

[FunkyMonkee]

@Billlewis I haven't fucked ANYONE in the past 10 years!! Last time my pink soldier was sent into battle was over 27 years ago!

[Asker]

only a matter of time someone tracks you down and beats you up

[FunkyMonkee]

For not being fucked in 27 years?

[Iron_Man]

That’s kind of weird all you have to do is say no

[stargazeraug1989]

Does it really matter what we think?

[Asker]

yes. i don't want to walk around as the weirdo

[stargazeraug1989]

Okay. Yes, it's weird.

[justabuddy]

It's not uncommon actually.

[KrakenAttackin]

Troll.

[In_Trance]

Does it work?