Why is dating so hard nowadays? PLS READ BELOW BEFORE ANSWERING?

[Anonymous]

Dating is so hard nowadays. Girls expect so much from guys that it’s ridiculous. Everyone is so superficial and shallow and expect you to change yourself just to live up to the standards of someone else. Like that’s completely absurd. It’s unfair, why should we change who we are just for some girl who only cares about looks, money materialistic and superficial things. I want to find someone good, I want to find my partner in life before i get too old but i doubt that will happen cuz i keep getting rejected and friend-zoned! Girls won’t even talk to you unless you looked like a model or really attractive, it’s so ridiculous. It’s a sad undeniable truth that people somehow still deny.

[Anonymous]

Dating is difficult because too many men are chasing females instead of their life purpose. In turn the women being chased get an inflated ego and just sit back letting the simps do all of the work. If men stopped giving women free attention, sex, and validation and chased their life purpose instead of chasing women, everything would change.

What you will find is the few men that are on their life purpose have absolutely no need to chase women. The women will either come to them, give them 'choosing signals' in the hopes the men have time to approach and the men in turn will thoroughly vet and require that woman to prove her worth. Thus in short the problem is men chasing pleasure over purpose, and women chasing attention and fantasy over reality.

[Asker]

Ok? This doesn’t apply to me at all, you’re generalizing men so much in your response.

[Asker]

As i said I want to find my partner in life before i get too old but i doubt that will happen cuz i keep getting rejected and friend-zoned! I want to find love.

[Opinion Owner]

Then you've already discovered your life purpose and are working on this daily as your top priority. Building your kingdom, working towards being financially free, ascending and serving others in the process?

[Asker]

What is that supposed to mean

[chicosuave]

it is and its getting worse with each generation. Womens mentalities are becoming delusional thanks to the power dating apps have given them and also social media.

[CoolCatMar1]

Look, I am also a girl my boyfriend only gets paid a bit over 1000€, now he isn't working and doesn't have money like before. He is getting his parents money for now. And guess what? I am still with him because I really love him and care for him. I don't need money I really value love and loyalty. Not all women are trashy. You are just looking somewhere wrong.

[Asker]

Somewhere wrong? Literally the only places i could look were school, that’s it. You’re 18, where did you find your boyfriend? High school probably, so “somewhere wrong” is really cryptic and very repetitive to me

[CoolCatMar1]

We met at work. And he is 24

[CoolCatMar1]

He approached me at WORK. I was working on summer in a food processing company

[CoolCatMar1]

Called Elbak

[Asker]

Girls won’t even talk to me. Every time i try to talk to a girl its always awkward, even when i try my best to be confident when doing it its still awkward, it’s usually them. The conversations go nowhere and i just leave cuz I don't know what to do anymore. My social skills suck and I’m introverted So I don't know anymore

[Asker]

You’re 18, how are you even working yet, shouldn’t you be in college?

[CoolCatMar1]

And yet i did work. And i am not exactly in college it's something like... How can i say it... A school for different professions.. here in Greece it's called ΟΑΕΔ

[TenderFantasy]

Hello Asker, hopefully this will help. In the U. S. you can work even in high school as long as you have a work permit you can obtain from your school's Career Center. I knew about it but I didn't take advantage of it because I already had my plate full with going to school full-time at the time and this was in the late 90's/early 00's so I think it would still be the same process.

Second, when I was 19, I got a job at the mall working seasonally during the holidays. I did that TWICE. I also helped out my mom in her job, they were nice like that and I got lucky. It was a private company and they liked my mom and so they liked me enough and trusted me enough to help out some what, but that was only for a few weeks during the summer.

🙂

[CoolCatMar1]

@TenderFantasy exactly and in Greece you can work at any age except 16 and smaller

[Asker]

Ok, did not want to know that. I asked for advice on how to find someone

[XHopelessRomanticX]

If you want a good girl, you need to go where the good girls are going.

[Asker]

And where is that? Cuz i have no idea where that is

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Well, the most obvious answer is church. But if you’re not too keen on that you can always try your local library, coffee shops, the gym, or you could try investing in a pay-for online dating service. I find that people who are more serious about finding someone are willing to pay for the service. The point is your not going to find too many good girls in the same place you’re finding the superficial ones.

[Asker]

The only place i can look is school, there’s no where else i can meet people. Also dating apps suck, like so bad, idek why people even recommend them at all, it’s too superficial

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Yeah I don’t enjoy them either, but at this current moment in my life, it’s one of the few places I can actually meet people. Based on your age I assume you’re in college? Do you live on campus?

[Asker]

I don’t go to college, even if i did, I wouldn’t live on campus cuz i still live with my dad.

[XHopelessRomanticX]

You said you’re in school, are there any clubs or activities you can join? If not, you may need to wait until you’re finished with school to start looking for someone. You’re still young. There’s plenty of time.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

You do not know if you are getting the real thing till you stick your hand down her panty and find she has a bigger dick than you

[TenderFantasy]

Lol what? !

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

simple now days you date a so-called girl dinner few drinks you get frisky, and you stick your hands down her panty and find a bigger dick than yours

[Asker]

WTF? F**ing trolls! Get out of here and get a life