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Once you have dated a kind of person who knocks your socks off,
who is great in every way and in other words, he/she is your dream partner but they broke up.

Now, the next partner that comes in your life, you end up comparing that person to your ideal partner and almost always they cannot compare to that person.

Now, you lose attraction and the depression sinks in because deep down u feel that u will never meet a partner like your dream guy/girl.

Is this normal?

As we know men tend to have a vague idea of what they want in a woman, meaning they don't have a specific height she needs to be or hair colour. Thus, men often can find a wide range of women attractive and don't write people off just from the get go.
However, women on the other hand are VERY specific on how their mate should look like, and what lifestyle he should have. Thus, we often see that women reject men for not only physical self but for things such as their house, car, and so for forth.
With that being said it has been shown that women don't fall in love with men per say but rather fall in love with the idea of a man. Women create broad assumptions about the man, his personality and his struggles in life just based on how he looks and dress. Of the 2 genders, women are more easily influence by the media and thus more susceptible to believe in stereotypes.

Thus, let say a girl always envisioned travelling the world on a boat, loved the beach and had in her head that she wanted her boyfriend to be a surfer or someone with strong connection with ocean. If she encountered that man who matches "the look", he could have the personality of a potato and she will chase after him like crazy. Filling up all the gaps of what she doesn't know about him with her own imagination of her ideal guy.
However, as time goes on and you get to know more about a person, those mysteries about them become revealed and the areas you filled with that of your imagination gets replaced with reality of said person. Eventually, if they stray too far from your ideal man then you will fall out of love and leave them.

Poll Question: Do you think the reason most women are responsible for break ups is due to reality of the man they are with eventually not matching with their ideal man?