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At first I'm from Asia in Muslim country, I mean totally different culture. I meet a girl about 3 years ago. I'm in holiday and she traveled there. we start talking, because both don't have a time, accept to spend a time for better relationships with specific marriage goal. I never want a child cause of higher risk of genetic issues, she asked for support that's all. (I'm 36 and she has 24 and please consider it the traditional way for marriage have a lots of cost even she denied to have a wedding ceremony it's very good and unusual).

Considered we never said we are falling in love but we like each other.
At the first month I feeling she hide something, I don't try to ask about 2 years but try to understand and support her after 2 years it's clear for me why she ask support.
It's not common to be homeless here, the family is very important to us.
The only reason of she asked for support cause she has a very hard life since she is a kid (bad atmosphere، addicted father and mother take care of all 3child) till right now.

when I asked 3years ago about going for official tradition she refused after all I understand the most of the issues are commercial and she has a poor family. She is very nice to me and I seen that she trying to be a better partner and it's important for us.

She denied to have a meeting for therapy or any kind of help (she doesn't believe such a way just wanted to talking but we can't figure out yet and I very tired)

for starting our life she start working at 2jobs and I only have a 2 hours sleep per day for 1 and half year.

So here is the situation. I have a best friend, Against my advice he married one of those feminist types. Anyway, a year into their marriage they choose to try for a baby. She wants a daughter apparently. He does not care as long as its healthy. Later in the pregnancy she finds out that she is having a boy. She goes behind his back and without telling him, she has an abortion. Later she tells him that she miscarried. When the medical bills come in, he discovers the truth, confronts her, and she said that it was her body, her choice, and she didn't want to bring another nasty disgusting boy into existence. He comes to me devastated, I chose to put him in contact with my lawyer, and paid for his retainer. He divorced his wife.. Thankfully they were together just over a year so she is entitled to nothing, The divorce happened, and she is out on the streets. Both he and i have been receiving death threats from her family and friends because of the divorce.

In this situation i personally believe she was the asshole.. She chose to kill his child behind his back, and lie about it.. Yes her body her choice.. But on that same token they're married and she should have at least had the balls to have a conversation with him.

What do you think GAG