Nowhere does the Bible prohibit sex for pleasure. In fact, the Song of Solomon roundly approves of sex for pleasure.
Thinking of how people think sex is solely for procreation messes up my head. My mom was talking to me about it and I completely lost her when she said that the wife is supposed to count the days when she's not ovulating to have sex with her husband.
That's absurd to me, I believe that if I or my husband want to fulfill our marital duties then we can do that at any time withouth feeling like sex for pleasure is wrong.
A sexless marriage is the equivalent of living with a roommate. Marriage is designed to meet each other's need.
God created sex for marriage and this is revealed to me more everyday as I look at the state of modern society. A healthy sex life discourages sin because the couple learns to be satisfied with each other and grows closer.
(1 Corinthians 7:3–5). According to this passage, the normal, state of marriage is for a husband and wife to have sex regularly. The deprivation spoken of is not the denial of having children but the withholding of sexual relations. If a husband and wife are not having sex for pleasure, then something is wrong.
1 Corinthians 7:5 exhorts us to not deprive each other. If the purpose for sex was solely for pleasure does that mean that the couple has to deprive eachother because they're in denial of having kids?
If you think so please tell me why, and use bible scriptures to back up your claim please, thank you 💛
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I hate when I'm being taken out of context. I know sex is not the only thing that makes a marriage, some people aren't able to be sexually intimate and that's okay because at the end there are many ways you can enjoy yourself with your partner withouth being sexually intimate. This question was for those who think sex is JUST for procreation. If in doubt please ask me instead of assuming.
Christians, do you believe that sex is ONLY for procreation?
"A sexless marriage is the equivalent of living with a roommate. Marriage is designed to meet each other's need." I highly suggest that at 16, please stop, because this is toxic and not of God. It is the world that promotes self-gratification. A sexless marriage is not equivalent to living with a roommate. Do people not have friends with benefits and sleep with their roommates. Yes, they do. Sex however is not a need. It is a desirable want as every human being is a sexual creature. However, sex should be an expression of love and that is the point of the Song of Solomon. BUT, Genesis is clear to be fruitful and multiply. So it is mainly for procreation. Sex is meant to be pleasurable, however, it is NOT for everybody, which can make people to rather have a sexless marriage than to participate. Lets' be clear that there is a reason why sex and marriage aren't as heavily talked about, unless of fornication and immorality because each marriage is different. But there are consistent rules we all must follow as human beings.
"A healthy sex life discourages sin because the couple learns to be satisfied with each other and grows closer." CORRECTION, if you are not pure in heart, mind, body, and soul then your sex life isn't going to be healthy no matter how many times you have sex with anyone or your spouse. You must FIRST have compatibility, love, understanding, a good reason to be married and be equally yoked. There is a reason why people have "great sex" and still cheat and be in sexual sin. And you see this more often in Christian communities as if not more than secular communities? WHY? Because they are not being fully informed of how serious sexual sin is.
Not only marriage needs to be called in divine revelation but in UNDERSTANDING WHAT sex and marriage are. It is not ALL about the physical things, but the SPIRITUAL things that happen. For sex is also an exchange of something, not just a penis and a vagina being linked together for cuplation. But what spiritual ties, bloodlines, etc come with it. Spirits too. In order for a couple to draw close, there must be love and complete understanding. Christians especially must understand firstly that marital sex HONORS God, and it is meant to glorify and please God with your bodies.
This is where many Christians get wrong about sex and want to know why their kids are pregnant, sexually active outside of marriage, and have poor sex lives with porn and other problems besides divorce. What discourages sin is a pure sex life by both parties who leads pure lives. It isn't to say those who didn't wait for marriage to have sex, or those taught wrong about sex can't fully enjoy sex. BUT that it will be harder, and a lot of work to overcome as a couple.
"According to this passage, the normal, state of marriage is for a husband and wife to have sex regularly. The deprivation spoken of is not the denial of having children but the withholding of sexual relations. If a husband and wife are not having sex for pleasure, then something is wrong." Yes, and no. 1 Corinthians 7 3-5 is just a general guideline of what is expected in a marriage, but that between the couple themselves. Because many will use this as a way to fornicate outside of marriage. This is just an overall warning for those who are not proactive in their sex life. Couples need to communicate and be sensitive to the needs of the other. The problem is most people are in marriages many picked out of lust instead of building, maturing, and with love.
"1 Corinthians 7:5 exhorts us to not deprive each other. If the purpose for sex was solely for pleasure does that mean that the couple has to deprive each other because they're in denial of having kids?" That is not the case. You must remember that God's first commandment is LOVE. People think sex is just sex and there is no love in many people. They use sex as does Christians in the form of pleasure and to gain pleasure and to give pleasure. That is not love, because love isn't based on pleasure. Love can withstand be it if there is pleasure or not. This is coming from a virgin. This understanding and wisdom given to me are by truly seeking God and all of what he has to say in the manner.
There is literally 80-90% of secularism being spread in churches, and that's why so many are confused, miserable, and or they cheat and even have sex in the church. If not going to church whenever service is available, living secularly outside of the church or private in their homes, but screaming "Praise God" in front of everybody. That is IF they do not deceive even them own selves caught in reprobate or even thinking if they can deceive God. Remember that God knows the heart of man.
The thing is not having sex can be for good reasons, and it must be honored by God in all THINGS. This is why when we say that God needs to be at the center of your marriage and in your lives. This is one of those areas. The song "Order My Steps" by Brooklyn Tabernacle with the lyrics rings true.
Order my steps, In your word, Dear Lord lead me, guide me, every day send your anointing, Father, I pray Order my Steps, in your word PLEASE Order my Steps, in your word
Somebody correct me if the lyrics need fixing. But what do these lyrics mean? For God to Order your steps. That also includes your marriage life and in all things. You need to communicate his with your spouse and who you desire to marry. You do not marry somebody you are not equally yoked to. If the couple feels they are not ready for children, not having sex may be benefitial. There are many couples who can do so without sex. And couples who cannot. However, what matters is that the marriage is consummated and the couple has sex regularly according to what both of them desire and feel. Years can change. And sex should be an enjoyable experience in and outside of the bedroom there must be intimacy at the level the couple is comfortable with. It is nobody else's personal business to judge their sex lives or what it is in it if there is no warrant. That is why there are too many problems in marriage.
"I highly suggest that at 16, please stop because is toxic and not of God" it's not toxic, it's just me expressing my opinion on a matter rather than keeping shut. I rather someone educate me on a subject than to brush me off and call me toxic for expressing myself. I never said that marriage is all about sex but it's essential in a marriage.
And I'm not talking about unequally yoked marriages, I'm talking about a Christian marriage.
Lack of sex leads to temptation, of course not everyone can have it with their partner for different circumstances. But for those who can it can lead to temptation when it is deprived, no matter how strong in the spirit you are, of course your spirit can fight against it, but the temptation can be strong.
And you keep telling me about things I already know.
Thank you for commenting but I really don't know why you commented this much, I'm not completely uneducated on sex I know how spiritual it can get, and I know the importance of it.
Sex is a way of showing love and building a connection with your partner, I'm sure I made that clear. Never did I say sex is just for pleasure I just said that because it was the topic I wanted to speak on.
At your age, you still have a lot and it cannot be just your opinion. As a Christian, it is about God's opinion and how he designed it. That's it. Otherwise are you really a Christian. That is very much toxic because that harms relationships and marriages. Do you want to tell that to many people I know who are divorced and suffer poor relationships because of that attitude? That is extremely toxic and very much untrue. See, no. You cannot handle criticism when it is being told to you because you hold on to that so dearly your not open to hearing.
"And I'm not talking about unequally yoked marriages, I'm talking about a Christian marriage." If you really were educated. You would know that this applies to even those who say they are Christian. Just because you are Christian, that does not mean you are equally yoked. Only God can determine that and you still need to share the same values and desires, which includes sexuality. If not, you're not equally yoked and you will have problems. That's the real reality of marriage. God sees the soul and heart of the person. It doesn't matter if your Christian or not, but where your intents lay at which is important.
"Lack of sex leads to temptation, of course not everyone can have it with their partner for different circumstances. But for those who can it can lead to temptation when it is deprived, no matter how strong in the spirit you are, of course your spirit can fight against it, but the temptation can be strong." Lack of sex doesn't always lead to temptation. It is about what it is in your heart. When 1 Corinthians 7 talks about temptation. It is for couples who do not understand the importance of marital sex when joined together. Temptation isn't strong for everyone. What your saying is absolutely NOT true. If that was the case we would be having far more marriages drop to mer thousands or hundreds if not less. That is not the case. Temptation has to do with what is ALREADY IN YOU. If you have lust in you and you never got that healed out of your genetics especially, then you are suspetable to temptation regardless if you are getting sex in a marriage or not. Trust me as I say. I know people personally and those I heard of, both on this site, and not who very much have lusts and will do so regardless maried to you or not, in secret, private or not. Dating or marriage, it matters not. What matters is the intentions of sex and of the heart. If you truly have love, no amount of the lack of sex would make you want to do anything you didn't already want to do. That is how satan comes in because he already knows because of what energy you put out there for wolves to devour. This is why Solomon speaks in Proverbs about the temptation of women, with the bed perfumed with myrrh. You have to fully understand what all of this is. And I am telling you this because I once though similar to you. I have learned that is not always the case.
If you lack accountability sexually, it is one of the reasons why a person shouldn't marry nor be having sex. But since most people cannot contain it is why it is said it is better to marry than to burn with a passion so to avoid sexual immorality. If you find yourself unable to control even after you basically had a taste of sex, then you need deliverance as there may be something that shouldn't be in your sexuality. Many people are not being taught about demons and spiritual warfare and generational curses. It is not a joke about these things. Many people struggle with such temptations because there has been much sexual immorality in the bloodlines by those who have tainted it. That becomes genetic and part of your makup. If your not healed of those genetics, than that is the problem, besides if you dabble in pornography and masturbation, besides being in environments that promote sexual sin. If you live in a place that is full of lust spirits and your sensitive, then you will feel lust regardless if you're getting sex. Many people have demons and don't even know it.
From what I read of your Mytake, your not only mixing scripture but also speaking out of context, especially to those unsaved and those who lack the spiritual wisdom to understand it. Plus you barely even covered what sex and soul ties are, let alone confusing intimacy and other things together. I'm here to discourage you, but there is some pride in this you need to first gain the spiritual wisdom because this mostly coming from those who still barely understand the surface of what sex and intimacy are between husband and wife.
I don’t complicate sex. I’m a Christian and I know my understanding of sex may not be the same for other men and women whether their religion is Christianity or not. I personally believe sex should be shared with the person you get married to because it’s a special moment. Through the waiting season before marriage you learn patience and have the opportunity to gain knowledge about one another besides wondering about the tricks that he/she can do in bed. It’s all about connecting emotional and building a strong foundation of love before lust.
Once that time arrives, he proposes, and we get married then I’ll look forward to sharing that special moment with my Husband. It’ll be a pleasure moment for the both of us.
I don't think it was I think it was meant for something even deeper we only use 10% of our brain. Every living thing on this planet is energy this whole planet survives on vibration which is energy we speak words that's energy every action we do is energy energy is with in US when we use our brains when we think when we walk we talk texting this message right now that is energy. Making love having sex even fucking is energy the next time you cum, see how much energy it took to get there when by yourself, now add another person 2 Energy's working together there is a moment of bond a moment of of weather your making live or masturbating together in the same room or across the planet, 2 Energy's become one in that moment when together you can look in to each other's eyes and with out one word you know what the other one is thinking you're communicating without one word it is a higher level of Who We Are the next time you making love pay attention to 1 minute before you come and watch and see what happens pay attention to it most people just want to get off and it's done it's over as you never think about it I pay attention to it if you're masturbating with somebody I don't care if it's in the same room or long distance there comes a moment where you can communicate without saying one word all you have to do is think of something and that person can feel it and hear it next time you get that opportunity to try it and see what happens it's not just about sex in about procreation it is a higher level of Who We Are and who we are supposed to be I believe
No, but sex can create problems that are not resolved very easily. See the hebrew for knowledge can also be translated as the act of having coitus because sex is the time where people are becoming one. Sex isn´t something one could do playfully because it changes the relationship with the other person. In my experience people who had sex are less likely to be able to end their relationships patiently than people who hadn´t have sex yet. I don´t know if that fits everyone´s experiences but that´s what I´ve seen looking at my friends.
I agree with you. Sex is the most intimate you can be some one. It connects us together. God created it this way. A sexless marriage is one that has a lot of underlying issues. Even look at that verse in Corinthians you posted. Your mom might be using experience as some type of deconstruction unintentionally. She might be reading the Old Testament out of context and connecting clues together that shouldn’t be together. We can make the Bible say anything we want it to when we don’t consider context. I’d refer to your mom from the stance of an apologist and be gentle with her as the Bible instructs us to. If she’s being mislead, guide her to the correct route. Sex is amazing way to bond and feel great with our partners. Christians know this.
I'm not good at recalling specific scriptures however marriage, sexual intercourse to be specific, is designed to come together in a marriage of souls and becoming as one.
To change topic, many men wouldn't start having kids until 100yrs of age. I've also read elsewhere that you're not supposed to give your sexual energy away for meaningless sex with just anyone. Divine Kings knew the worth of their energy and would only have sex to procreate or for the intention of soul growth. It also said if you aren't having sex for these 2 purposes then it isn't considered sex. Not sure what you would call it? Exercise maybe lol? I do know they talk about sex often in the Bible because they say if you aren't cut then it increases sexual pleasure as well as drive. I'm pretty sure it was talking about Noah's son when he tries to screw his own momma and gets caught. Sorry for jumping soul over the place.
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The bible literally say's sex is a sin and procreation was a sin. Then as it goes on it say's sex before marriage is a sin. Then has mutiple examples of none married people having sex and been fine with it. hell the bible say's knowledge is a sin. So it's just what anyone wants to believe i guess. Just pick what you want to believe like how some christians kinda disregard the old testment. It's all subjective to whomever and not what it actually say's.
The Bible never said that sex is a sin. It says sex outside of marriage is a sin. Please do not speak on issues you know nothing about, it's embarrassing.
Don't know them off by heart. Not a christian. But i do know the basic story of adam and eve. Like most people. The bible is full of contridtions and weird things. Hell one thinks long hair on men is a disgrace. But jesus and many had long hair back then smh.
I'm so sorry for you, you're lost. Even though you're not a Christian any reasonable person would show proof of their assumptions.
Saying something like sex is a sin in the bible is embarrassing.
Genesis 1:27-28 (KJV) So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
How were they supposed to be fruitful if they didn't have sex ? 🤣🤣
"Forbidden fruit" was "forbidden" then it contricdicts it's self here saying. To be fruitful. Shrugs. Like i said believe in the what you want it to mean. But all of it will be interprations of what other's think it means or you think it means. When none one can say what's actaully right due to many different views and contridtions in the book.
"The bible literally say's sex is a sin and procreation was a sin" I know where you're getting this idea from, but it's not biblical. Some stupid priests in medieval times saying stupid things doesn't make it biblical.
The religions of the world have villainized sexuality and have always restricted... Criticized... And suppressed sexual energy. This has been happening for so long everyone subconsciously sees this idea that sex is wrong or shamefull... Exploring any fetishes or finding your security and comfort is now generally done more discreetly... creating more taboos and negativity influencing twisted and demented desires in those who have Over suppressed there sexuality... It has been established as way over personal and should be seen as a joyand pleasing experience... Social and rewarding... Not discracefull and shamefull... Creating guilt and confusion about one self...
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I dont believe its ONLY for procreation but procreation is what i think sex is about first and foremost. Then comes love, commitment, pleasure and so on... if you’re married, then of course i expect sex to be for all of the above, and a constant habit. But while unmarried, all i mainly see sex for is procreation
I do not think it is just for pro-creation, then again it depends on what Christian religion you are. Not all of them are that strict for it is only for pro-creation.
What if there is medical issues and there will never be children. Does that mean they can try endlessly knowing there is no hope or should they stop altogether?
I just happen to be part of a religion that says it is only for married couples but pretty much anything goes once married.
Yes because with sex comes responsibility. God has created sex inside the marriage for procreating. If you decide to have sex only inside of marriage this means that you have your own apartment/house with your partner and have a job already to take care of a family. Aside from that, contraceptive methods can be very dangerous for the human body...
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The idea that sex between husband and wife is solely for procreation is prudish and unsupported by the Scriptures (Proverbs 5:18,19). As you correctly noted, sex is only for marriage and a husband and wife must cater to each other sexually (1 Corinthians 7:3-5). This, however, is not meant to facilitate the degraded sexual practices so common these days (1 Corinthians 6:9,10; 1 Timothy 1:8-10; Hebrews 13:4).
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When I first saw this question, I only saw the headline and immediately thought of the book of Songs! As I went down the post, I saw that you DO agree as do I that sex FAR MORE than just for reproduction. So, you nailed it perfectly! Amen!
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I feel like that is the mindset as God should be the first place in your mind but I do think that Christians are simply holding out to do it during marriage. Within marriage sex for pleasure with your partner I think is ok
It should be between a husband and wife, otherwise, you'd be living in sin (committing adultery). And, I think there are verses in the Bible that says you can do it to bond and for pleasure.
No , it does say anywhere in the Bible does it say husband and wife , only have sex to have children. It does not say about birth control. It's one scripture that has been taken out of context.
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The bible also doesn't prohibit torture, rape or child abuse. But they took the time to tell people eating shellfish is wrong and you shouldn't build a statue of another God. Strange priorities.
It also doesn't make any biological sense because women are only fertile for 3 days a month (around ovulation) so if sex was solely for procreation then women wouldn't be receptive to sex all month long even when they're not capable of conceiving.
These people need to stop adding extra rules to the Bible. There are already enough actual rules for us to follow.
