Is it normal for my brother’s fiancée to attack me when she drinks?

[red324]

drove 3.5hrs to go see my brother for my birthday. Apparantly I already pissed them off by not knowing exactly which day I was going to drive up. They think since im self employed I can just do whatever... not how it works. Anyways, I thought all was good until his fiancé got off work and started drinking and she just goes from 0-100 full on complaint mode about me. I dont even remember what she was talking about or what she said. It just all came out of left field. They didn't even do anything for my birthday or get me anything. Is that normal? They both work from home, so she was in a perfectly fine mood until she started drinking after work. Its the same thing she always complains about like a broken record. Im selfish. I dont give anyone any notice on what im doing etc. My brother is all I have left. (Parents are deceased). in my opinion she needs to mind her own business. I don't know. But next month is my brother's birthday and all he's gonna get is a phone call saying happy birthday after that bs. Opinions? Im not driving up to his house to be treated like trash like what happened here

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Update: The title of the post is supposed to say get mad at me. Not attack. The forum admins reworded the title

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There's no sense in going up to his house anymore if im just going to get the 3rd degree about everything. Im not a child anymore. Im 37 years old.

[Finchie40]

Whether it’s normal or not , She definitely has a problem if she can’t control herself when she is drinking , unfortunately alcohol can make people grow a pair of balls that they don’t have when they are sober , so it sounds like she needed alcohol to say what she wanted to say to you , whatever she had built up about you inside of herself , finally released once she had alcohol to do so. I don’t blame you for not wanting to be any part of that again , your brother and her definitely had a lot of conversations about you behind your back and more than likely talked shit about you trying to rub their 2 cents together when they clearly don’t know shit about you , thinking they do , when clearly they don’t. Your brother is unfortunately pussy whipped and is siding with her if he didn’t stop her from being out of control. So don’t take it too personally , some guys’ just don’t have the balls to tell their partners’ to shut their mouths about things. Which indicates that your brother is a wimp. My brother and I are very close , but every time he gets into a relationship with a girl , he pretty much turns into her and agrees with everything she says , I bust his balls about it all the time , I still love him to death , but man he is a pussy when it comes to girls’ and then he wonders why she betrays him or leaves him. I tell him all the the time to stop kissing a girls’ ass like he does , most girls’ are feisty bitches when they don’t agree with things about someone else , so if he doesn’t put a stop to it , she will continue being that way , so again you have every right to be upset but understand your brother is a wimp lol

[Finchie40]

Also tell your brother to grow a pair of balls as well and that he needs to put her in her place and to not come in between the both of you

[BlondieGirl_]

If it were me... and someone kept coming to my house unbeknownst I'd be upset and tell them to please give notice in advance next time. If they kept coming round without telling me when I'd be upset yes. I don't know the full situation or know the people involved though.

[red324]

I give them notice.

[exitseven]

not normal but not unheard of.

[Anonymous]

With you, probably.

[red324]

Well I see they changed what I had for a title🙄