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In my scenario, my ex broke up with me after 3 years and is asking me where do we stand. We reached out on a call after one week of no contact. I'm too angry to decide because she went on tinder few days after and kissed a guy which she says she feels uncomfortable. I was disgusted and she says I gave her reason to do that because of emotional abuse or disregard her emotions in the relationship which I'm confident I listen fully and act like a psychologist. Every person recommends I should be a pyschologist of my good advice and listening. However my ex thinks I'm the worst for advice and I should be upset and react exaggeratively about a situation with her whereas I'm calm and optimistic person. I am angry at of our infrequent sex so sometimes I get a bit moody to be honest which wouldn't anybody if constantly rejected? Anyway I am considering coming back and fix everything but she is making everything my fault. But once we talked, she gave me 30+ reasons not a few why I'm horrible person and why she's hurt. And when I try communicate she shuts me off "no excuse". She also considers I need to therapy for my past behaviour. I honestly haven't done anything bad, I'm just like every couple with few arguments and maybe listen 90%. She throws keywords like gaslighting etc. Do you think I'm bad person or she is or are we both messed up?

so my girlfriend caught Chlamydia and informed me about it through text & she had first texted me “hey I just got back from the doctors office & they told me I have chlamydia, it’s okay you only need to get treatment pills & your fine” I was at work so I hadn’t been able to reply for like 15 minutes so she sent me another text saying “if you wanna leave me do it & get it over with now” & I decided to go & get treated but also tested, my results came back negative & we’ve been dating for 4 months. I had confronted her once so far & said it was impossible for me not to have it if she had just got tested because we’ve had unprotected sex over 200 times since we’ve met & she changed her story to I got tested early in the relationship but my doctors never got back to me with the results. I’ve tried talking to her about it since & every time she makes me feel like the bad guy & insecure, she’s even kicked me out of her house once for trying to briefly talk about it. Now I just wanna know if I should stay & I know most of you probably think she cheated & I should just dump her but I’d like to actually talk to her & let myself fully confirm it.