I’m 32 and my girlfriend Monica is 41. I decided to date older women because I was tired of these immature girls playing games.
When I first started dating Monica I was super excited. Monica doesn’t look 41 and she seemed like a sensible/mature woman. Plus she does so much for me. The relationship has been good so far.
Now, I’m starting to get turned off. Monica constantly brags that she gets young dick. Always talks about her past sex life with guys 15 years younger than her. She also tells me she wouldn’t be with me if I wasn’t younger with muscles.
Even worse, 90% of her friends are male orbiters that want her (She admitted). Half of them are 25 year olds. Monica always taking about clubbing/raving her friends when the pandemic is over. I told her I don’t like that she’s befriends these guys. Her response is “you need to trust me“.
I thought I hit the jackpot with an older attractive woman. Literally, I thought I had gold. Now I’m disappointed. Monica just seems like a damaged mid-aged thot who’s thirsty for young dick. Which defeats the purpose of an older woman. Might as well be with a young girl, instead of an old fool trying to be young.
However, I’m still enjoying my time with Monica and what she’s doing for me. Even though Monica tells me I’ll never find someone as good as her. I’m still gonna start looking elsewhere. And dump her when I find someone.
Do you have higher expectations when dating older?
Age doesn’t really play a factor for me when it comes to liking a girl , legal age of course but as long as we are both attracted to each other and have good chemistry and connection is all that matters , I have dated older and younger , so it comes down to the person , This Monica girl sounds like she’s been through a lot and has a childish behavior and disrespectful by trying To make you jealous that she plans on going to clubs and partying it up etc. Word of advice just let her do her thing and you do your thing , I wouldn’t fully give your heart into this one , she sounds immature , The thing is we can’t force someone to love and respect us , all we can do is guide them and give what we receive , If she wants to treat you like a convenience then you treat her like one as well , Bang her and bust a nut all over her face and dominate the shit out of her in bed , all you can do , when she runs out to these clubs etc , you go do the same thing with your friends , don’t ever be someone’s’ convenience , it’s not about trust it’s about respect , if she can’t respect you then you can’t respect her , people that use the you can’t trust me bullshit are pieces of shit period , nothing to do with trust what so ever , you don’t Get into a relationship to be single , people that do are selfish pieces of shit that only think of themselves , so let her go be a washed up slut at a club or bar with thirsty guys looking to get laid , shit she doesn’t need , when someone actually loves and values their partner they don’t need that shit in their life , so again don’t give into this girl her actions speak louder than words , trust me plenty of better fish in the sea out there that will value you like you value them , never be someone’s convenience , make them your convenience as well if the sex is good lol
Your problem here is you chose to be with a woman that's been fucked by multiple dudes and has had her pair bonding shot to shit. Why are you putting up with her shitty attitude dude? You do realize that women will respect and love you more if you show them that they aren't special and can be replaced if they aren't a compliment to your life, The more you bend the knee to her bullshit the worse she will act. As for her having a bunch of guy friends and you should "just trust her" tell her to pound sand, I'll bet 70% of those 90% have already pounded her. You can do better than a used up 40 year old whore.
I've only dated older men because being well-traveled & whatnot guys my age are, on average, too immature. Uninteresting. Boring. The only men my age who are interesting are like myself... medical professionals.
And yes I have high expectations. They never fail to deliver.
The problem for you is you are, more or less, just one of those orbiters that have been hanging around Monica. You piqued her interest for a time. Now she's bored. Why else bring up these other men?
I mean older dudes tend to be more romantic and sexually plreasuring ig but other than that, they act the same as younger dudes. So i dont really expect more because i often date so close in age anyways
Older, younger, same age... growing older doesn’t make someone ‘more’ mature. They either always were or they never were. Age isn’t a litmus test of one’s maturity.
As to your question of whether I have higher expectation when dating older than myself, no.
Well, the last time I dated women older than me, I was a young adult and they were at most 3 years older, so this sort of thing wasn’t on my radar screen. I suspect that I’d only have dated a woman 10 or more years older than me if they were spending money on me. So the answer is yes. At this Point in my life, Ia woman a decade older than me would need to be in good Health and OK financially in addition to being compatible.
Good luck finding the type of maturity you're looking for, dude. Younger or older, it doesn't change the emotional nature of how women see a partnership. If she isn't the pragmatic type, you're going to fall in the same rabbit hole even if she was 70.
Ah... truth and reality... bites, huh? No, "Monica" just thinks you're a stud-muffin. When she gets bored with you, which she surely will, she'll be looking for the next young buck to fuck. It's hardwired. Enjoy her (reads: fuck her) while you can. Nothing lasts forever. The truth is we only 'rent' women. We borrow them for a time, then they get passed on to the next guy, by THEIR choice.
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Dating someine younger or older sometimes don't work out. My second crush is having marriage problems and their 5 and half years apart. she married him too young like 18 - 19 and they fight because he wants over 5 kids and she only wants 3 But wanted the 3rd one under 28 then stop
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" You'll never find someone as good as me " is the typical and favorit Narcissist sentence . I have met these type of women several times in my life. As man , I will give one suggestion : RUN before being badly damaged by these kind of filthy manipulator.
@yourbabygirl921 All kinds of things. How to pleasure her with my tongue, that it is better when a woman is in charge of the relationship, that it's ok for me to enjoy sex with men, that it is ok to let my feminine side come out. She taught me that the best sex involves a little pain. She taught me to have an open mind and not to feel jealous when I watch the woman I love being made love to by a group of other men. She taught me to appreciate a woman for what's between her ears as much as what's between her legs.
run the other way son. If you settle down with this woman, you will regret it in about 20 years when you are still horny and she is no longer interested in sex and you are looking at 25 yr olds who are "off the menu"
