Is dating different when you hit your 40's?

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I'm 39 soon to be 40 and I've been single for 7 years! Despite the stupid apps, going to events and meetups. Gyms, hobbies and all. I still have not met that 1 person where we both choose eachother.

What's dating like on your 40's?

Exterminatore · Accepted Answer

For me it only got better. You must remember there is a slimmer pool to pick from. Most people are married or in permanent relationships by that time as opposed to your teens and 20’s where there seemed to be a lot more single people.

People are a lot chooser who are single at that age too, typically, already having gone through at least one bad experience.

Guys in their 20’s tend to be way hornier. So simply having a vagina is not gonna cut it for most guys in their 40’s, where as many guys in their 20’s have that listed as their main and sometimes only qualification. Most guys in their 40’s are looking for substance. You have to bring more to the table than just a pretty face and a vagina.

Leapfrog00 · Accepted Answer

It's non-existent for me. Then again, I live in an area where the only girls I can date are prostitutes or drug addicts, and some both!

I think it really depends on you though, and the area you live in. If you live in a nice area with decent people, you should have no problem meeting people to date. Just don't ever move to a drug-infested area. You will NEVER meet anyone there! lol

Justmeagain1 · Accepted Answer

I feel like I should have been born earlier. The times where a man opens the door for you, is the proverbial provider and what he says goes, when a man was a man (in my opinion) he worked, he came home he kissed his wife , he family was his safe place and his love was not as transactional.
I am nearly 40 I have no idea what is in store in that dating department.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

I love old people romance. Not that I'm calling you old, no, 40s is good. Should be easy if you don't have kids and gotten divorced.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, I wasn't single when I was 40-46, but you have a better idea of what you want and don't want and almost everyone brings some baggage to the table, be it emotional, kids, or both.

hbg84 · Answer

I'm 39 in the same boat as you. Haven't dated in 6 or 7 years. Had several dating apps. Would actively go out to try and meet new people. Never really connected with anyone. I'll find someone I like and can see starting something with but the feelings aren't usually mutual.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Dating is easy for men at 40... they have options from the legal age up to the sell-by date of around 35 to 40.

I sort of think it's the inverse for females. They start young with it being easy as all hell and it slowly gets harder. For males it starts out hard and you have to develop before you'll have any success.

I suggest you look up a theory... it's called "the wall" and it is undefeated. Men age like wine and women age like milk.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I'd rather say it's different from the moment of 30. For me, I feel like when I'm 40s, I'll approach dating the same way as when I'm 30 from next year and beyond: I don't bother dating, as I enjoy being single me. More money for me too ahahaha or savings ahahaha ^⁠_⁠^^⁠_⁠^

Counterclocking · Answer

I’m 43 and I’ve never been on a date. Of course for me, finding the woman of my dreams is like finding a needle in a haystack.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I imagine it would be different. I was shocked to see how different dating was from the 20s to 30s.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Of course. Ain't nothing new, but experience has been attained. We may or may not have the same sex appeal, but we've leaned how to make the fuckin right! It's a faster process simply because less time is available.

zagor · Answer

It keeps getting worse for women. For men it keeps getting worse until you're in an old age home and the longer life span of women comes into play. Though you're probably too old to do anything about it at that point.

YourExLover69 · Answer

Most people by that age have some baggage especially kids. You might be lucky if you don't have any kids yet. So you can look for a guy in his 40s as well as 30s too.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, it seems younger girls are more interested in me then when I was in my 20’s lol

dudeinohio · Answer

It's all the same, no matter what age you are. You just have to sometimes factor in ex wives and kids.

Likes2drive · Answer

I’ve been single for 7 years also and having the same problems , seems harder after 40s and 50s

Katrina79 · Answer

I don’t think so. If they don’t want me they can go.

Joker_ · Answer

Yes, very much so. When you hit 40, the world is just different. When you transition from 39 to 40, something shifts

Christoff92 · Answer

Depending on the way you see it.

shades777 · Answer

Only one way to find out, 5 more years to go lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah. It's gets easier if you're a guy.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes.

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