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I feel love cannot help you stick to one person all years round, and on the other hand, cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner.
In fact, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.
Relationships work out mostly because of our head not our heart.
It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because, time will come when you'll see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you're in a relationship with.
In those times, love will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going.
With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you're committed to will rank first in your life.

These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women
. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind, this could be worth a read:

1. Long (fake) nails
2. Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored)
3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup)
4. Big earrings
5. Provocative clothing
6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content)
7. Questionable.. questions (e. g. "babe do you think I'm pretty"..)
8. Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places)
9. Most/all of her friends are male.
10. Promiscuous or Using sex as a proxy for feeling loved and adored
11. S. I. G. N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right)
12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism
13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e. g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" )
14. Materialistic
15. Their actions don't follow their words
16. No sense of boundaries
17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels.
18. Clingy, jealous or possessive
19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things
20. Habit of lying as it could escalate over time
21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice
22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'
23. Shit Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.”
24. Ultimatums
25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] )
26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure (s).*The issue is many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships.
27. They're often passive aggressive