Girls, Is spending hours alone, biting, and touching other men acceptable when in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

So I've been seeing a girl for a couple months. And things were fine. Until one day she told me she was invited by a guy friend to hang out. She said she was going for an hour. And I said that's fine and we were planning to hang out after. Then 1 hour turned into 2,3, then 4. I got a little suspicious. So I told her I don't know if I want to continue the relationship, and usually if I spend that amount of time alone with a women I have more intentions than just friends. And it took her until the next day to explain which was odd aswell. But I digressed. Then days after, while she was showing me videos, I see a video of her biting down on some guys arm. She says " that's my friend, I bite all my friends" which made me uncomfortable. And a couple days ago, I went with her to her gay friends party. And she starts touching and massaging him at the dinner table. Then she goes over to his boyfriend, and starts touching and kinda flirting with him. I pretty sure the other boyfriend was getting jealous aswell. So I confronted her, and we got into an argument. She ended up just saying " this is who I am". Now I'm honestly open to being wrong but I don't think this is ok while in a relationship. I think it would only lead to serious problems in the future. And I'm not a controlling person either but i don't bite, massage, or get touchy with any female friends I have.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Yeah, no. That crosses so many boundaries with my boyfriend and I. Even spending hours alone with the opposite sex is suspicious. The rest is even more suspicious too. I personally would never want that. I’ve been cheated on, so that’s not okay for me. Especially if the friend is straight or attracted to my boyfriend, vice versa.


I understand having friends of the opposite sex and hanging out with them, but I will not touch them like that, bite them, or spend hours alone just sitting in a house.


However, if that person is gay, and neither the girl or my boyfriend are attracted to each other, I would be more trusting. Anyways, I do find it odd how touchy and flirty your girlfriend is “by nature” as she claims. I might just not be as touchy and find it weird, but you don’t do that to someone you consider just a friend.


Also, the friend is gay, and has a boyfriend. I think that’s enough to kinda not worry as much, but I understand, it’s still weird and can make you uncomfortable. It’s best to just communicate with her that you dislike it and prefer if she refrained from doing such things. You are allowed to set boundaries and voice your concerns. If she doesn't understand or won’t stop, and you can’t tolerate it or accept it, I think it would be best to go your separate ways.

[PrettyPriya]

What have I read? This is completely unacceptable. It is just plain weird too. Hands to yourself when you are in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

The biting is weird, but the rest is pretty normal. I think you are just being paranoid.

[Anonymous]

no it's not