Got called by another girls name?

[Pheebs2409]

Okay so, I was lying in bed this morning and in his sleep, my boyfriend rolled over hugged me, started grinding on me and called me his best friends name.
Usually this wouldn’t bother me too much, because I know you can’t control what you do or say in your sleep, but what does bother me is that a while ago he told me that he was in love with this girl, and had a relationship with her for about a year on and off, and they didn’t tell anyone about it. She still practically lives at his place, and I don't know what to do.
Whether I should ignore it, or talk to him about it.
Help pls!

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[OlderAndWiser]

If he was having sex with her over a long period of time, and she still "practically lives" at his house, then the odds are extremely high that he is still boinking her. Unless they have a child together, it is reasonable to expect a significant other to go no-contact with all previous sexual partners. Some people think it is cool to maintain a friendship with exes but the potential for jealousy and suspicion from new partners is simply too great, and a partner should be willing to demonstrate that they have truly moved on from their ex.

Have you talked to him about your uneasiness with this situation? It is possible that he will refuse to give up his "ex" and then you need to decide whether you are content being his Plan B or whether you need to move on and find someone who is really willing to commit to you and just you.

[loveslongnails]

What do you even mean by "usually this wouldn’t bother me too much"? How usual is it that you get called another girl's name while you're sleeping with a guy? Consider this suggestion: tell him what happened and to go resolve his feelings for her, because obviously he still wants her, subconsciously or otherwise. Tell him there's no room for him in your life if she's the one he's still thinking about grinding. You're 19, there will be another guy for you in a week.

[Pheebs2409]

I got cheated on before by a guy and his best friend, and now with this it’s safe to say between them I’ve been called a few different names mainly their exes

[DaisyM23]

is this a joke question? because there is one really obvious answer and i'm sure even you know what to do - yes you can't control your dreams but clearly this dream involved sex of any kind, they were together for about a year and she lives with him? why are you putting yourself through that, you're young, you can find someone who treats you much better

[Flower7]

You shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone who seems to be in love with someone else and is possibly dating her and more.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Starting the morning with a surprise like that could make your coffee taste a bit bitter, couldn't it? The blend of grinding, hugging, and a name mix-up is a cocktail that definitely needs addressing, especially with the history you've poured out here. It sounds like the line between past and present feelings is as thin as the one between sleeping and waking for him. Let's not ignore this; communication is key, sweetheart. Sit him down, express how his nocturnal name-dropping makes you feel, especially considering the backstory with his best friend. It's crucial to gauge where his heart is lounging at the moment. Remember, it's not about confronting but understanding each other better. You deserve clarity and comfort in your relationship. So, spice up that talk with a dash of honesty, a spoonful of openness, and let's hope it leads to a healthier mix for both of you!

[MrKadirMisiroglu]

We realized that we should not sleep before marriage. Everyone is sleeping at the age of 19, I am drinking my chocolate milk while watching Cartoon Network at the age of 19. 🤣🤣🤣

[Pheebs2409]

Why haha that’s a strange way to look at it, if you love someone it doesn’t matter if it’s on paper or not, but if that’s what you believe then fair enough, I’ll give it to you, I wouldn’t be able to do that.

[Anonymous]

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