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I met her on a coding forum in June 2020. I can remember our first conversation.

I remember her telling me she never had a first love or any romantic bond with a guy before. At the time, she was 17 about to turn 18. I never expected to come across her, especially because I wasn't particularly seeking a woman at the time. She was perfect, and we really hit it off. I was specifically wanting a woman without a romantic past.

Anyways, we continued to talk more and more and we eventually formed an online relationship.

After several months had passed, I remember us talking about getting married and where we would go on our honeymoon and what we would name our kids. I was truly excited.

Sadly, when I met her for the first time in person a week after her 18th birthday, she rejected me. She found I wasn't her type.

Fast forwarding, she just recently married a guy a few weeks ago who got to be her first everything. I am still devastated. I had to tell her mom not long ago to cease sending me emails. I was hurting too much, so badly I had to be hospitalized. I am still recovering from the trauma of it.

"That's understandable, however a first thing you should avoid falling into, is refraining from falling into the attitude of "it's women's fault", or you won't get anything, because this approach is repulsive, for this reason: you don't offer anything on the table, but only expect to have the "debt" refilled by women who actually don't even know you and are not responsible for the rest of their gender. It's really repulsive to have the feeling to owe something to a random guy, and so are the perceived expectations, for the same reasons: if you give too much, or invest too much, and they're not responding with the same, then you're showing what are your expectations and how much they "owe" to you. And they will escape. So never overdo, never overgive, don't appear desperate and cluelessly offering your money, time and attention, when it's not reciprocated readily.
A lot of guys manage to have relationships, even being not really attractive physically, while others who are good looking keep failing. Why? Because they emit some bad vibes through their behaviours. This thing of women liking bad guys is not because they're bad, but because they're not "granted" to them, and prove to be well off alone, without them, and so they look like being more valuable, with much more to offer, quite "independent". While being granted to them, saying sorry for random things, asking consent for things that generally don't really require it, apologizing for taking their time (oh my god), giving them the literal option to not reply to x y z, etc. Anything that puts you in a secondary role and granted to them, is potentially a turn off. Nobody wants to start anything with someone who indirectly shows to need more than what he can offer (and actually it's valid also for men, about women who behave like that)"

So i joined a new CrossFit gym and there is a very attractive young lady I occasionally get into small talk with. She smiled a lot today when we chatted. She knows I like her. However she has never initiated conversation with me so far. I usually say hello first. But she does engage with me when I ask her what’s she been up to.

Truth is I literally have no idea how old she is. She could be 19 or should could be 30. I’m guessing I am 10 to 12ish years older. However I’m in excellent shape and I’ve gotten dates with younger woman before. She’s also witnessing me engage in an activity where I usually out perform all the other guys around me. That doesn’t hurt. I am a former profesional mma fighter.

Anyway I am looking for an opportunity to get to know her better. However given she’s very attractive I wouldn’t be surprised she already has a boyfriend. Would it better to ask about that first or would a guy look more confident if I just straight up asked for a date? If we were the same age I would just ask her out. But being that I’m older I’m more careful about this.

If I find out she has a boyfriend then I won’t pursue it any further. I usually run into her once or twice a week. I just don’t want to make the future awkward if I straight up ask her out and she turns me down. I won’t take it personally if she’s not interested. But I go to CrossFit to relieve exercise and I just want to avoid any future awkwardness/drama

A lot of women are taking advantage and even defrauding unsuspecting men at bars and nightclubs around my city.

First incident occurred at a nightclub. I was talking to this girl and offered to buy us drinks. She requested 2 shots of expensive liquor. I brought back the drinks and some guy she was associated with and claimed was her "transportation" quickly approached and chugged both shots down and they both hurried out of there.

The second and most serious incident occurred today. Two girls approached us claiming to be college students were talking to me and my roommate and we carried on a conversation. We later approached them and offered to buy them drinks. They requested our credit cards and was wanting to buy us all drinks on our behalf. Immediately, red flags started showing and we handed them some cash instead. They approached the bar and stood there a long time. They waited until we turned out backs and they disappeared. Imagine if I was stupid enough to hand them my debit card!

I contacted the police and the local news, as an officer told me this has been happening a lot at bars around here.

I guess women continue to screw up a man's life all the time.

So I don't have good perception on if someone has feelings or not. Anyway he's our maintenance guy and when we were talking he was facing towards me, but his eyes seemed kind of intense when he was talking to me, he also didn't smile then. when I started talking he looked away and seemed almost like he didn't care what I had to say he didn't respond to what I was saying g so I walked away. wasn't close enough to check his pupils or trying to be creepy and look lol. My gut feeling says he does but sometimes I don't know. He was working on my truck and he was kneeling down and turned his head and looked right at me as i was walking by, he just keep looking no smile or anything. I got a coat from work and he helped me put it on and he fixed the sleeves and kind of toutched my shoulders, he grabbed the box and through it away. He use to stand really close to me or walk close to me. He kind of keep his distance now. Not sure if he's trying to stay away. I'm also not going to ask him or act on it because I'm gay and he's very into his religion and I do believe he was married to a women at one time and he's also a lot older than myself. Also how can I tell if he does for sure, I do like the guy but I don't want to show him i do if he doesn't or is against it.