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Kanye needs to realise that he is the prize and be back about his purpose. His mental health problems started when he got with Kim. He needs to forget her mental and emotional abuse and see that she's a post 40 past her prime reality TV show star who's only real claim to fame is her sex tape her mother released and her giant ass which is now saggy and full of cellulite. Meanwhile Kanye is a self made man and talented writer/singer/musician/producer.
He needs to get as much custody as he can of his kids and try to negate the effects of the toxic environment that is the Kardashians. Obviously its sad that the children's mother will now have a revolving door of would be step fathers that his kids will be at risk from but unfortunately this is the case with many kids from broken homes these days.
This is what a lot of guys go through with their ex baby mamma's, they manipulate and twist you instigating shit all so they can then say your abusive, controlling, aggressive, violent how they are so scared of you. How they are the victim of this awful man. He needs to avoid that trap.
He needs to forget that Kim ho and her ho sisters and find himself a good women in her prime attractive years, one that hasn't been around the block and doesn't treat relationships as disposable commodities.

I think one of the gifts of relationships is they challenge you to work on yourself, with your partner and grow as a person. We all have "ourselves". Two people coming intimately together will have to work to keep create and build a healthy relationship.

One thing I had to learn at the ripe age of 50+ was how to listen without reacting to my partner. She would be communicating in a genuine and clear way and I'd react and go defense... my conditioned response to verbal threat. The conversation spun down out of control from there as I'd resist and fight and she'd work harder to get a message across... ending up tired and frustrated.

The root of this was with me, my ability to listen to what she was saying. Here's an
example.
She said: I'm not feeling well, tired... and I said "I'm sorry to hear...".
She responded..."don't say you are sorry".
My internal reaction can be defensive... why is shy affronting what I just said?

This leave me baffled as to what to say next. I said I'd call back in a few, I thought about it while shopping and come back a few minutes later as I realized what I communicated dropped the energy of the conversation down... and it made her feel worse. My statment was negative when she needed positive emotional support! By changing my response to a positive response "Im here for you and can help you feel better", ... made her feel better and all was well.

->I had to learn to listen and not react, understand what she was saying. Not everyone is the same, your partner may be different.