Should I be worried about my safety?

[Anonymous]

I was in a on and off relationship with my abusive boyfriend. He hasn’t hit me in awhile but he still has his abusive ways. Still controlling, obsessive etc. I have been working a nice, comfortable, good paying job and it’s overnight so most mornings I would get off and go to his house just to spend time with him and he would drop me off and I could tell it was frustrating him that I was working so often and he didn’t get time with me like he wanted but I never thought he would result to doing what he did a few days ago. After going over his house again after getting off early morning, he promised to take me to work later that night etc as the time got closer for me to head out for work again he started to pout, say things under his breath etc then started to vent to me about how I make him happy and he loves being around me, he wants to be able to go to sleep with me and wake up to me and hates how he doesn’t get time with me anymore because The job is taking all my time and making me tired. He said he wasn’t saying I should quit but wanted me to come up with a solution to change those things, as if I could and then when the time came for us to have to leave out for me to make it on time he starts to pull my underwear down and started to give me oral and talked to me while doing it saying “Let me take care of you.” “You’re not going to work. You don’t have to work anymore.” “If you want to, you have 30 days to find a new job.” But I liked/like the job I have. He didn’t hit me but only because I didn’t fight him on it , for my safety, and went along with it. I missed two days of work, no call no shows and I had to sneak a text to my supervisor opening up about my situation in order to keep my job and then I had to sneak a Uber home, when he left out to the store, the next morning in order to not miss another day. I’m in the Uber now and he hasn’t made it back to the house to know I left but I’m afraid of what his reaction is gonna be when he does.

[LaNc3L0TT]

That is emotional ruin, if that job makes you happy he should support you. I can understand that he wants you more next to him but he is pushing that in some weird ways. I guess he is also emotional unstable person and ticking bomb, you should back off little bit and you will see his "real face". I don't mean to scare you but that shit is wack.

[Asker]

That’s what I figured and when I told him that he used the whole “I haven’t hit you I a while.” Excuse against me. Saying “I changed things about myself that you didn’t like so I’m asking the same of you.” When he knows that’s two very different situations. He’s saying it like any girl would want to be with a man who continues to hit on her. I’ll give it to him, he has gotten better and hasn’t touched me in months but what he just did and as I mentioned he still has ways about him that are a ticking bomb that could very well backtrack him to hitting me again, just shows me he’s not that far from going back to the old him. What he did wasn’t cool, okay or supportive and he thinks not hitting me makes it okay but whose to say he wouldn’t have had I argued against him and attempted to go in to work any way despite what he did and said to prevent that?

[LaNc3L0TT]

You need to move along before it gets to late. Don't expect something to happen but prevent happening. I'm not saying its easy just to walk away but that shit is toxic and full of red flags. I mean do you want to stay with someone and just waiting something bad to happen or to be with someone normal and enjoy in that time. I mean you don't need to be with anyone, be single but don't be with that fool and to be sorry later on. Free your self.

[driven159]

one thing you need to get out of that toxic relationship he is all about himself i have news for him the world does not revolve around his ass you should never be in a n abusive relationship ever for one second if you have to sneak around to go to work if you have vacation at work take it and leave him tell them at work so if he comes around, they can call the police he needs to grow up and get a life

[skyeee_]

why the fuck are you still with him? get out of there and run.