My Mother in Law Doesn’t Want My Husband and I to Have a Baby. What Should I do?

[IceCreamQueen15]

My husband and I always knew we wanted to start a family both when we were dating and after we got married. We told both of our parents this for years and my parents and my other friends and family members were excited about it and couldn’t wait for us to get started. Though my husband’s mom is was the only one who didn’t/doesn’t like this idea and has and does continuously verbally let know that. She straight up tell us (not things like advice or being a concerned parent or why she thinks it’s a bad idea) things like “I don’t want kids in the house” or “ …More work I’ll have to do.” Currently she lives with us but we’re planning to get our own place without her, which she doesn’t want us to do that. Instead, she want to go wherever we go and continue to live with us. Though that’s not the point of this post, so I’ll get back on topic. I recently found out that I am pregnant, we haven’t told anyone yet, only my husband, mom and I know. My MIL suspects that I might be pregnant and asked my husband if I was and he told her that he didn’t know to keep the secret, because we weren’t ready to tell people yet. I don’t think she believes him. I know that I’m getting ahead of myself here and maybe worrying about nothing. However, knowing what I know about her personally and things that my MIL has done in the past concerns me. I’m worried that she might try to do things on purpose to try and cause me to have a miscarriage. I know that there’s a chance nothing at all could happen, but I’m worried about the safety of myself and my baby. What should I do?

[Marcuslrh]

So you live with his mum? If she is saying she doesn't want kids in the house I'm guessing it's her house? If so you probably best getting your own place asap.

[IceCreamQueen15]

It’s actually not her house. The bigger problem is that she doesn’t want to live by herself, so she wants to live with us for the rest of her life. I don’t want her to and I’ve expressed this to both her and my husband. Plus my husband won’t set boundaries with her, so she would try and force her way into living with us again. The only thing he said to her face was that him and I want to move somewhere else and that he doesn’t want her to come live with this time. If he would back it up by standing his ground with her that would be great, but he tends not to. My husband’s aunt wanted to sell us her condo and his mom thinks that she’s supposed to come with us. She even tried to come with us on our honeymoon and anniversary vacation.

[Marcuslrh]

Wow looks like your husband needs to grow a pair to be blunt and tell his mum straight, why is she living with yous in the first place? Amd she has the cheek to say she doesn't want kids I the house😂🥴

[slatyb]

Ignore her and do whatever you want. It's your life, not hers.

[worldscolide]

Tell her its none of her business and to fuck off. you're an adult. Its yours and your husbands choice, not hers.

[Grovermint]

Make her get her own place. You're the married couple.