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My stepdad who is strongly homophobic and mildly racist/classist, and my mom who is extremely ableist, problematic and insensitive. I am starting to hate my relatives more than ever, and both the Trump and now Biden presidencies have brought in strong divisiveness both in political and nonpolitical cases. People have started to become ruder, meaner, and more crass than ever. It really hurts me that people are like this. It has rarely ever been like this before the Trump era. I really hate people, especially insensitive people.

Just because your 2000-year-old Hebrew-written book barely says "respect your parents," it probably has been translated out of context. As with all the homophobic, transphobic, anti-Semitic, racist and sexist takes from the so-called "verses" the idiots and douchebags use. MANY of my relatives are like this, and MANY politicians I know are like this. I cannot stand Democrats, Republicans, or even most "independents" these days; I've turned myself back from these cults and their grifterism/asshole-ry.

My brother who is ten years old literally cannot get HIMSELF out of the bathroom. That's why he always calls his dad to try and get him out. But for the second time, he told him to ask our mom since he (my stepdad) was busy, and when he (my halfbrother) did that, Mom got really pissed off and said "don't even ask me, you're an adult, you're 10, go figure it out." I really hate it when people use others' ages as a result and solving of their problems, and sometimes my stepdad brings up the fact that I'm 21 when I am upset or angry.

My parents claim to be "centrist," but they're actually big business capitalist and far-right conservative frauds (by action, not just words) who like to make a mockery of people who aren't even the sense like them. Especially my stepdad. I unofficially left the Trump club a few months ago after seeing how cruel his supporters were, so I am a former Trump supporter (I was a Trumpie since the later end of high school).

I've had a few casual dalliances with women who turned out to be engaged, married or otherwise taken. No, I did not know they were taken at the time, and it would have been a dealbreaker for me if I did know. Usually, the men and I find out about each other at the same time.

The whole experience has shaken my trust in women to the point that I really don't want to take any woman for my wife, because I thought the women I was messing around with were high enough integrity to not step out behind anyone's back. Clearly I'm either a bad judge of character or surrounded by skilled liars.

In any case, the thought occurred to me that I should probably just start asking women I date if they're entangled with anyone. But then I realized that any woman who was down to go behind their boyfriend/husband's back, probably wouldn't think twice about lying to the men she messes around with. All that being said, if I do ask, at least then I can say that I DID technically ask, you know... from like a personal morality standpoint. I didn't just assume anything; I asked, but she still deceived me.

I once had a woman ask me if I was married several times, and it was honestly a big turn off to me. I understood where she was coming from, but the suspicion threw me off and kind of offended me.

So, I come humbly before you, G@G, to ask for your opinions:

Is it worth taking the time to ask a woman if she's taken before we mess around and risk offending her, or would I be better off just assuming that she'd tell me she was single/available whether or not it was true?