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Sometimes I'll take advantage of my size and appearance to make people nervous. I do it just to laugh at some of the reactions. There's no harmful intent here. I don't actually want to hurt anyone, and if it got to an extent to where they were offended or hurt, then I'd let them know I was just messing with them and try and make peace. If I can create a scenario in which we both laugh and become friends after, then I'll do that.

With girls, it's pretty damn easy lol. I'll start to do everything really forcefully to an extent of what some would consider obnoxious. An example-- if I see a girl in lecture, and I thought she was cute, then I'll pretty much slam open the door and walk over to sit down right to sit next to her. I'll pull out the chair real loudly to sit and then slam my books on the desk. Let out a long drawn out sigh and start making small talk while giving her some strong eye contact the whole time lmfao. As a guy, if you can pull this off right, and then start flirting after, you have such a strong advantage lol. It's funny as hell seeing that initial reaction though. Just completely catching her off guard and making her mind go from 0 to 100 instantly by aggressively hitting on her lmao.

With guys, it's even more obvious because they're always trying to match up with you. So an example, we'll be in a group, and I'll suddenly start asking questions about him and shift my body language towards his direction so it's sort of personal. Then I'll raise my voice a little and I'll know if he's passive just by the way he reacts to this. If he tries to automatically match my voice tone and my body language in an attempt to reciprocate, then he's passive an following my lead because he's uncomfortable. He's trying to match up. If he doesn't shift anything about in his demenaor to match mine, then he's solid. Sometimes I'll even get called out with a "calm down bro lol". In that case, we can both just laugh at the situation.

Let men cheat. It's good for your relationship.

Could letting your man sleep with another woman help your relationship?

Author and former mistress Holly Hill thinks so.

"One of the main things that I have learned is that a woman that negotiates infidelity with her partner is far more powerful than a woman who is sitting home wondering why he's late from the office Christmas party," she says.

"It's better to walk the dog on a leash than let it escape through an unseen hole in the back fence."

"I think that cheating men are normal," says Hill. "Monogamous men are heroes. Monogamy does have a place in relationships, but not on the long-term. Men are hard-wired to betray women on the long-term."

Hill says, that of course it's every woman's right to refuse to have sex when she's not in the mood or has a headache. However, expecting men to cope on their own with no outlet whatsoever is shortsighted and cruel.
Holly Hill says her boyfriend, Phil Dean, can have sex with other women but he cannot spend the night with them.



"Women need to remember the difference between why women and men have sex," she says. "Women tend to value intimacy. For men it's often the thrill of the chase, or the quick sex with a stranger. Men don't even have to know their lovers' names! It's often just a cheap thrill and has nothing to do with us as a loving girlfriend or wife. Once we understand that, it's much easier to let him go off."

"We just have to be honest about the way nature created us, and we have to work with nature instead of working against her. This isn't rocket science. This is what every man already knows and I think what every woman deep down already knows."