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Me and my ex where together for 7 years was a perfect relationship but when our son was born our relationship started to crumble , we stopped having sex and we fought a lot. Our baby wasn’t planned and he had planned on going traveling before I found out.

He ended things with me and I was devastated It’s been 10 months. And since the Corona I was kinda hoping he would change his mind and want to get back together.

I found out today through a friend that he started seeing a girl the last few weeks and apparently he is really into her. She broke up with him because he had a little baggage but since then they got back together.’ Apparently this girl is everything I’m not, 4 years older, fully career driven and has no kids. The reason he hasn’t told me about her is he wants me to move on before he breaks the news. I can’t say anything either our friend asked me not too.

I feel like this girl is getting in the way of me putting my family back together. I feel my ex should do what’s best for our son. I kind of feel that I should get in contact with this girl and tell her she is breaking up a family. I am just so hurt.

Friends with benefits for 1 year and a few months. Last time I saw this guy was when we hooked in Mid April. We never really hung out or communicate properly we was just in it to have fun. Although I fell for him and ended things as said in my previous post. I just wanted to know why would he have asked to take a selfie with me? I'm just wondering off as I scrolled through my phone right now to find the pictures we took and it just reminded me of him.
I mean we never took selfies before. We never really talked or had a conversation before.
What was crazy was I wasn't even dressed I had on a sweatpants, long sleeve shirt and some bed time slippers and he came looking all fresh. So when we done hooked up he stayed a little and asked me what did I do all day? Him Trying to start a conversation. And he just grabbed my face and cupped my face and kissed me. My eyes was open and he was like :'You should close your eyes when we kiss!' so he was like :'Arent we gonna take a selfie of us' So I was like why this behaviour? We just basically just having fun which is sex? So we took the photo and I was like but I don't even look right and he was like soo it's just a photo. Lol and then when he left and he always does this he said :'Bye' and always lean in for a kiss. So then he left.

I think it was the next morning when he texted me to ask me to send him the selfies that we took but he said :'Please send that photos of us. I will delete it again if you want me to' so I was like okay.

I sent it and I don't know what he did with it and why his behaviour was like this. Why was he like this. ?

We all know (or at least should know) that "white" or "white" women is/are the standard of beauty in society for some odd reason. I say white only because other features like a Roman nose, straight hair, colored eyes aren't exclusive to the usual western idea of beauty.

I can't tell how I look to others or if it's genuine, whether I'm universally attractive (attractive to a large group/various groups of people with different beauty standards) or just ugly.

Of course I've had the occasional people that don't find me attractive.

I've noticed hostility from girls that I've worked with. The same that I've noticed from family growing up. Girls that will lie, act funny, make smart comments or avoid me for no apparent reason.

Then there's guys that I hear say I'm pretty or compliment me but it seems like guys compliment even the most sub par women just to get sex.

I've worked with guys where I knew they found me attractive and tried to be friendly for one thing.

I've had a customer come into a store I worked at and called me pretty. At the same place my coworkers (all male) were super nice and would act weird in a good way or compliment me. One told me a supervisor from the other store that came to help was on the phone with a guy from his store and said "there's this cute black girl that works here"

I apparently don't look like Megan fox or madison beer. Nor do I look like Lauren London or Megan good.

I've never had guys ask me out on a genuine date to get to know me for me. Maybe it's just this generation. I worked at a call center & a few guys in my training class tried to hit on me or they'd just stare.

I've also heard negative comments from men and it was usually when I was dressed up going out and it'd be something like "she thinks she's a superstar" "she just wants attention " petty things like that.

The negative experiences are what sticks with me and makes me think maybe I'm not so pretty.