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Do you support living together before marriage? Why or why not?

I personally think it’s important to know what you’re getting yourself into before getting married. I know several couples that waited until they were married to move in together and divorced within a year because they couldn’t live together.

I’m also asking because my boyfriend of almost 4 years and I don’t currently live together but spend the night at each other’s 5x a week. I also don’t want to be the one to ask, but he’s buying a house this month and my rent is up in 8 months. I still have some time to figure out where I’m going to live, but I can’t help but imagine living together and how it would be. We discussed it almost a year ago and said we weren’t ready, but we’ve grown a lot as a couple and individually so I’m curious if he still feels that way. Is there a way I can be casual about asking or getting him to ask me? We talk about marriage sometimes but I don’t see that happening for another few years.

I know that there’s outside factors other than time that determine this, but I’m purely curious about the time frame.

For the poll, when did you move in with your significant other?

One morning recently I had woken up to my boyfriend getting off to half naked (and probably naked) girls on Instagram. I've talked to him before about how it makes me feel and that I find it disrespectful. I don't do things like that, why the need to look at other attractive women on purpose?

This isn't a matter of, "because you were asleep". He's done this before when I was awake. Except he left the room to try and be sneaky about it. Every day he tries to see how much he can get away with disrespectful things. Would you view this as disrespectful and crossing the line when your significant other already knows your opinion on it?