Is it really your boyfriend if you don't blow up their phone?

[Anonymous]

Question for guys. Do you like your girlfriend texting you random shit? Even if you don't necessarily reply or you just talked on the phone? I like sending my guy cute texts or quotes from books or films. I feel comfortable doing it even when he doesn't reply as long as it puts a smile on his face.

[ScoobyNECBir]

Depends , if I love her and happy with her then yeah I love it.

However , my ex girlfriend done this. I wished I had a different girlfriend at the time. I fancied other girls who seemed nicer to me. But didn’t make moves out of respect for her. It got to be really annoying her keep messaging random stuff.

She became quite needy , demanding and trying to control me. It got to a point where to avoid her annoying me I would delete my Facebook. Then she would email me. I really began to resent her , she was quite a selfish girl to be honest but overall it depends

[Anonymous]

I done that with my ex but realised after 6 years that deep down he hated me doing that texting him random things like about a movie I had just watched that I thought was interesting the only time he thought it was cute or funny was when we got into a bit of an argument and we didn’t talk for quite some time I sent him lyrics to various songs including adding some of my own saying to the lyrics it ended up turning into a funny jokingly poem that he thought was funny and he started talking to me again after that message but having said that every guy is different with my ex he didn’t even like his best friend who he has known for like 20 years contacting him to talk about herself and her partner

[Asker]

I gotta do me and if he hates me for that then we aren't compatible. When we talked on the phone he asked me to let him know how was the movie but then i texted him about going to the movies and I'll let him eat my pop corn but he didn't reply so don't know if its a good idea to contact him again especially if he wants his time alone but then it might encourage him to talk about something else than his condition and our relationship. We also talked on the phone. So you get my dilemma about walking in eggshells anything can trigger him. Was just thinking to text him the movie is lit can't wait to share my analysis with you! But that would be my fourth text including an emotional one i sent earlier when i was explaining to him that i get frustrated. Just want to find a common ground so he feels safe and comfortable reaching out or replying but also not to overwhelm him so that's why I was thinking to write him about the movie so we can change the subject to something we both enjoy like cinema and art.

[LukelyFlawd]

No. Not one bit.