In a relationship do you guys check each other’s phones?

[Sadafxo]

I don’t do that but I’m wondering if I should since he’s acting fishy lately

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+1 y

What if you’ve caught him peeking at your phone lol

[snowgirl123]

I think it is right to share whatever is on your phone or computer with your loved one. I think the best thing to do is ask for permission. if the person refuses, then see if they don't want you to see what they have because they have something personal and might make them uncomfortable to share, or if they're hiding women or men from you. if they like to spend time looking at girls/boys online or to chat with others who make you feel insecure, then just let the person go. whatever who cares. care about yourself.

[Roxxy99]

No we don’t. Relationships need to be based on trust to work. If you can’t trust him with a phone, then you can’t trust him out of your sight and the relationship has no foundation to begin with. Don’t stoop to looking through his phone in case you’re wrong but do trust your gut. If there are red flags, then keep your eyes open. If he’s stepping out on you, he’ll get careless and get caught.

[shayes904]

No. Trust is key in a relationship. Checking phones is a quick and easy way to say “I don’t trust you.” Saying, “No, I trust you” would probably be better. Then, forget about their phone. If they are doing wrong you won’t need to look at their phone to figure it out. These things tend to reveal themselves in time.

[Mango-man]

I wouldn't have a single problem with that.
Like I don't even have enough time to do anything that would require hiding from others. The only reason I stand nearby when borrowing my phone to someone is so they don't accidentally (or for the fun of it) delete something like mobile Kindle books or such.

[DamnSam]

Never did, because if I wouldn't trust her, we wouldn't be in a relationship...

My ex did, freaked out that I talked to a girl... conversation was about art... like I showed her my work and she showed me hers, rest was all about painting techniques we used... had stress like I was in bed with another

I explained that because snooping in general would be OK for me... BUT, it need to be done right... if she plays dumb freak out bitch with no real reason, I will handle it exactly like it is

[Shizunk]

Never. I wouldn't be ashamed of anything on my phone, including private messages and browser history, but even in a relationship there is such a thing as privacy. I gave my girlfriend full access to my credit card and several important passwords, but never my phone. If someone requested that, I would be seriously questioning why.

[shepardmaddison]

No, and I don't think this is okay. But I didn't have any problem when my girlfriend or I used each other phones to search for stuff, look pictures, check something in different apps. But all this in a normal context and not for checking if there's someone going on as a control.
I believe one should be able to trust each other.

[ChrisMaster69]

Nope. There is this thing called Trust, Respect, Honesty (and communication).

As soon as you feel for whatever reason you need to check someone’s phone, then the above are being shaken.

[Retiever]

I don’t check my others phone or purse, but I believe if they are doing something wrong they will make it obvious. I mean if you look hard you will find something. So ask if something is wrong and pay attention to the reaction. It will show something.

[boggboss]

Nope its somthing that for me goes fundamentally against what having trust is in a relationship for me if I ever felt the need to ask to check I have already allowed the relationship to start to fall apart

[Anonymous]

Nope I think it’s disgusting to check anyone’s phone even if they are your partner if you feel you need to check their phone than it shows you don’t have any trust and if you don’t have trust than why bother even getting into a relationship in the first place

[loveslongnails]

If you feel the need to check his phone due to HIS behaviors, that means you don't trust him and should ask yourself "why"? Is it your own insecurity, or do you have good radar? If he IS acting suspiciously and you do NOT trust him, then break up with him. You shouldn't have to see each other's phones to solidify your relationship.

[SnakeBoop]

if you even feel you need to, you have no trust and your relationship is fucked already

[Anonymous]

Nope. My boyfriend and I openly pass our phones back and forth because we have nothing to hide. We trust each other and don't feel the need to snoop. And if there was ever something or someone that didn't sound right to me, I'd just ask.

[t-8900]

What? no! Guys are more private then women in general about things lol. We got a rep to protect.

[AntiChrist66666]

no
the seed of distrust will tend 2 destroy more den build
u want 2 destroy then fine
u want 2 build then wrong strategy

[exitseven]

There were no cell phones when I was dating but I would never do that.

[Anonymous]

Nothing wrong with it if you need a little boost of faith in him but it does reveal what you think about him or think about yourself.

[admles]

Never do, and tbh, I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who checked my phone.

[Bklynbadboy12]

If you have to do that then that relationship is over I'd you don't have trust you don't have anything

[Bklynbadboy12]

Are you okay

[dustybiker]

If your good with him going through your phone, ask him. I would never betray trust by sneaking.

[Kelly6]

I don’t
if you don’t have trust , then your relationship won’t last

[Velvet91827]

I'd say be up front and then neither of you have to go around being sneaky/suspicious. Yeah it's a bit awkward asking to see their phone, but if they're honest and you don't do it in a psycho way you should both be cool with it.

[WowwGirl]

No we don't look in each other's phone or even go in the others office. He wouldn't check my phone he respects and trust me