Do you secretly check your partner’s phone?

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E. g when they’re sleeping, in the shower, etc?

sheenagwapa · Accepted Answer

with my ex we can check each other's phone i check once in a blue moon only when i am being suspicious like one time someone called my ex on the phone a girl and i just have that gut feel she liked my ex. i bought a femalw gift before for their Christmas party. i have thise moments of being suspicious and so i would then read love advises on magazines i remember readinh at cosmo mag you have to show yourself on their workplace. so i would attend. i try my best to look my best because based on personal experience if i see a guy and his girlfriend is like really pretty ( i don't have a boyfriend at this time) i get discouraged i was hoping that if i show myself and they find me pretty then they would get discouraged stealing my boyfriend but as time pass by i just feel secure in the relationship. this is me fore but now i have new found confidence based on my dreams hint from my dreams

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

No… If I have to do that, the trust isn’t there and then neither is a healthy relationship🤷‍♀️

BadApple69 · Accepted Answer

Let’s be totally honest here for a minute. Who doesn’t have questionable pictures on there phones? I do. Most are innocent. Pictures of girls I send to a friend (“hey buddy, hers a girl for you at the Walmart… she’s your type”) but all my girl would see is a picture of a strange girl on my phone.
I picture is worth a million words but wether those million words are accurate or not depends on who is making up those words.
The reality is… if your relationship is good than do yourself a favor and don’t look… it’ll only make you feel bad.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

No. I have zero interest.
Plus, from an ethical pov, it's about as creepy as you can get.
It's immature, insecure, and as dishonest as being a burglar or spy. The person doing it knows it would upset their partner or they wouldn't sneak.

I wouldn't trust a chick who did that. I might break up with her, or I might continue to fuck her and use the shit out of her, but I would never trust her or even consider marrying her because she has the same mentality as a cheater.

MrOracle · Answer

No. Never have, never will. I weed out people with poor morals very early on, so I've never felt any need.

Most people do it backwards - they care nothing about someone's morals and values until they've been in a relationship with them for months and years, and only then do they realize these things are important

AviatorTom · Answer

I would never do that. That would be a serious violation of their privacy.

Jp1990 · Answer

My girlfriend and I kinda had a split at first we still talked every day but then I went away for a year and a half and we had absolutely zero contact during this time so when I came back to the area we slowly began talking again. We both still loved each other but caused each other lots of pain as well. Anyway long story short, before I even wanted to see her I needed to know if she was in a relationship. If so I would need to keep my distance. She swore no, no I'm not seeing anyone. I had no reason not to believe her because she's never to my knowledge been a cheater. One day I decided to stop in and see her and my God it was like I instantly loved her more than ever. A couple days go by and she wants to know when or if I planned to come down again soon. I couldn't resist. About a month goes by and we see each other as much as possible and get a routine going of days we generally see each other then out of the blue on a day we normally see each other she comes up with the most ridiculous reason she has to rain check. Giving me far more info than needed and a bs excuse peaked my attention cause in the past this meant she is lying. The following week we are talking and she gets a call that I am still shocked she answered. On the other line I hear a guy say I'm outside your house. The look on her face and the stutter in her voice implied she was instantly nervous. It was a give away but she lucked out cause he had called the wrong number. I needed to know who this guy was so I checked her phone. He was her boyfriend. A guy she also worked with. I learned so much she was never going to say. Even after being confronted with absolute facts I knew she denied again and again. That said I find it impossible to believe her now so yes I occasionally check her phone

London1999 · Answer

I didn’t ever until I started having weird suspicions and I checked his phone after a year to see he’s cheating. I told him and he apologised and I forgave him. One week later I checked again and he was still cheating.

When the relationship is good in terms of both people being healed and healthy you won’t feel the need to check. But you instinct knows when something is wrong. I haven’t been in a relationship after this one so I don't know how I’ll ever feel. But I definitely do not want to be that person checking, or be the person getting cheated on again.

TenderFantasy · Answer

No, I don't have a need to. He's enttitled to his privacy. That would be a red flag if I displayed something like that. A very clear one. Means you got trust issues with them. It's also an obvious sign of disrespect Not good. It could be the start of shaky/rocky ground in your relationship. Also, don't you have your own phone? Why do you have to use theirs? Doing what you suggest means that there's deeper trust issues involved that need to be brought to the surface/addressed.

hello123456789 · Answer

I do not check my partners phone. We setup some ground rules while dating. The phone is an absolute safe space and each person should trust the other.

However, that rule gets tossed aside once we are engaged or married. We will have access (passwords) to each others devices at that point.

Unit1 · Answer

I have the same stance about this as she has For those not watching: No, no one goes through the other's phone. Neither one asks for it.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

No that's a huge invasion of privacy, especially as connected as smartphones are now a days to so many aspects of life. That'd be an immediate breakup.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

No. I'm way too lazy for that shit. If someone is going to cheat... they're going to fucking cheat. If you suspect someone is doing that kind of shit... I would ask... why are you making this someone your partner in the business of life?

Nigjt · Answer

Now because I trust her an all my girl's but if I ever caught one of them with another guy then I'd take action but not like hitting or beating one of them because there are just to many other way's to get even with the one's who do that to me.
God Bless

integrale77 · Answer

Secretly no but she will ick up my phone and close all my open apps, notifications and then check for app updates. I'll pick up her phone and load a porn hub page or something as a bit of a prank.

Cecinene · Answer

It's actually a very bad attitude to check your partner's phone especially when they are sleeping. It totally means that you have no trust for that person, and TRUST is the key foundation of every relationship.

lilBigPotato · Answer

No if you do that then there's something going seriously wrong in the relationship. Lack of trust. And if I want to see something on his phone I should just be able to ask and not do it behind his back

SEEKINGSUBMISSIONS · Answer

NO NOT USUALLY AND I HAVE BEEN A CONFIDENT AND SECURE SEXUALLY ACTIVE MALE FOR A LONG TIME... AT MY AGE I KNOW THAT I AM NOT GOING TO MAKE A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP WITH A GIRL UNLESS I HAVE THE MATCHED LOYALTY TO WORK WITH...

ALL THE REST IS JUST SMASH AND DASH!

dreamstar72 · Answer

Why should I have to check it, we have nothing to hide. We are on the same page we share everything thing. We have no secret passwords, no yours mine stuff. Except maybe for video games apps she likes them more than I do.

kevypatyy7 · Answer

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DevikaButts95 · Answer

Not secretly, I'm just nosy and will look at it if they leave it out. Our relationship is open so there's nothing they could be hiding from me anyways. Lmao.

Juxtapose · Answer

No, not only am I invading their privacy by doing that but I am invading the privacy of all their friends who have told them the intimate details of their life and trauma.

bolverk · Answer

I never have done, anyone who does, it because they have some thing to hide themselves, and because they have something to hide they automatically think ever one else also has something to hide.

JackCarter · Answer

Never Even though she told me what the password was... naah

DollAlone · Answer

I tried the whole trust thing but stuff wasn't measuring up and his behavior eas shady and as soon as i looked i discovered that i was correct.

StormChaser838 · Answer

DEFINITELY NOT !!! THOSE WHO DO THAT ARE LOW DOWN BASTARDS. STOP IT !!! A person has a legal and moral right to privacy.

haiuyu · Answer

I used to do that. Like in the first few months of the relationship. It was exhausting. I stopped doing that eventually. It's not mentally healthy too, and it makes you paranoid.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Not in a relationship, but I could never imagine monitoring a grown adult like that. The person is my partner, not my child. Plus, if he’s up to no good, it’ll eventually come out anyway.

BunBun369 · Answer

Um I can't vote. it should've had sometimes or something like that or depends. Because I am under the depends. Cuz it depends really. Lol

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If i had a girl, i might check her phone out of curiosity and if she checks mine, she ain't going to find a thing because i'm simply loyal to her and she might find that i'm preparing surprises for her haha

Lisia · Answer

I only do when I have a bad feeling.. and weirdly enough that feeling is always right.

Nikki1989 · Answer

We share our phones all the time anyway. Plus, our phones are only turned on during work hours.

Apple1996 · Answer

I don't do it secretly since we openly share passwords

artgorgeous · Answer

Yes. If i hear it beeps, i can put it on a charger, if she sleeps. So i can always be in touch with her.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Don't want to have a mini heart attack. Some things are better left alone

Frank62 · Answer

If my wife wanted to share Her phone info with me, then she’d share it. I trust her and have No need to have access to her phone.

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes once in awhile.. just a security check up..

LazerBean · Answer

Nope. I wouldn't have to do it secretly anyway, we both have open access to each other's stuff.

molonski2 · Answer

I would never do that , if I was doing that Id slit up immediately , horrendous , dishonest actions.

fantasticass · Answer

Nope I never check his phone and vice-versa. It's not relevant in our relationship. Cheers🇨🇦✌️

mandyfire98 · Answer

No no no. Invasion of privacy and lack of trust.

admles · Answer

No, I never have, and I never will. If I ever caught my partner doing that, we'd be having a LONG talk about it, and I would be changing my pin until I felt I could trust her again.

Anonymous · Answer

Not secretly, I do it in front of him lol. Not quite snooping but I'll look at his social media feed sometimes

Lokiion · Answer

No and if you do you shouldn’t even be dating them since you clearly don’t trust them enough to no do anything “shady” or weird

BigDog1989 · Answer

I would not, if i had one If you do, you have a trust issue, that you'd need to see a shrink about

balyai · Answer

Nope, my partner let's me check her phone whenever I want to. I don't have to hide it.

hardboiledink · Answer

Yes she's a hoe for shoo. Can't trust these hoes and women from the streets

LiamJHayden · Answer

Nope. Wanting to would mean I do not trust her. If I do not trust her I won't be with her.

noohair · Answer

Everyone lives 3 lives, a public life, a private life, and a secret life. I would never do that.

prosmind · Answer

If one is in relationship, trust is the most important part of happiness, so never check secretly partner's phone.

DreamLife7 · Answer

If you have to do that guess what? He does not like you and you're insecure. No healthy individual would snoop through someone else's things

Becky03_ · Answer

No I trust my partner and we have a open phone policy. My partner able to go through mine now problem I go through hers no problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Nah only check their phone when she makes it a rule that we can check each other’s. As soon as that rule disappears tho I know what’s going down

boobliker · Answer

and why it will only hurt if there something I should not see

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and it is called pain shopping. It is a horrible and toxic habit. I'm doing my very best to stop and be able to trust him again

Malwi93 · Answer

nope. if i had to do that we probably should not be together

Guido · Answer

Never. We have total trust. We have each other's passwords but there is no need.

OddBeMe · Answer

If you do that your relationship is what needs checking. Lack of trust.

coffeeeholic · Answer

I don't do that because I don't want him to do the same thing to me

Sweet_Loyalty · Answer

I don't do it in secret... he knows I check his phone and I also give him the opportunity to check mine whenever he wants to

Sammy7777 · Answer

Only if there is a crime going on and only if they did something to me where I need to get revenge it all depends lol

CubaPirate · Answer

We don't have secrets! Well at least I don't lol

KatieNorCal · Answer

I’ve never checked his phone. If I feel the need to do that, it’s already over

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Never, we do not like to know secrets of each other, we trust Each other

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